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Situations which involve confrontation or disagreement can be difficult for many individuals. In the heat of the moment many of us can agree to things we are not happy about, or even become angry and defensive at those who we believe are criticising us. These reactions are common, and being aggressive is often confused with being assertive. However, while both are styles of communication, being assertive is the ability to firmly (but calmly) voice our opinions and points of view. Communicating with others in this way can help prevent feelings of anger, inadequacy and low self-confidence which could otherwise lead to unhappiness and misery. Assertiveness techniques can help with this.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• Do you become upset when others challenge your point of view?
• Do you avoid situations where there is the possibility of confrontation; despite it meaning your needs will be overlooked?
• Do you feel that by stating what you want you are being selfish?
• Do you bend to others wishes only to soon regret it?
• Do you say things in haste and regret them later?
• Do you feel that your self-confidence is affected by how others treat you?
• Do you feel your opinions and values are overlooked by those around you?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions then being assertive with those around you may be an issue and for this we offer some straightforward assertiveness techniques. (more…)

At some point in our lives  most of us will have experienced anger. Rush hour travel, computer crashes and problematic relationships are all aspects of modern day living that can tip us over the edge. Yet, this powerful emotion is perfectly normal, just like feelings of happiness, fear and sadness and in most cases it stays within a natural and controlled range. In fact, anger is an integral aspect of our evolutionary make-up helping us to instinctively detect and respond to threatening situations, as well as acting as a powerful motivating force to change aspects of our lives that we are dissatisfied with. Given its part in keeping both body and mind ready for action, a number of physiological changes characterise anger, including faster heart beat, breathing rate and increases in temperature and perspiration. (more…)

Anger, though it is a natural emotion, may express itself in undesirable ways. Anger and high adrenaline triggers physiological reactions such as raised heart-beat, higher temperature and palpitations. Mounting anger can cause us to behave aggressively and inappropriately. This can negatively impact our relationships, both personal and professional. We cannot control anger-provoking situations, but we can manage our attitudes to them.

Anger Management Counselling can help with all anger issues from mild irritation to explosive rage. It can help you to understand the causes of anger and help to set it in context. Anger-management therapists work with you to manage your anger levels and to minimize angry confrontation or self-harm.

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