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Open relationships are becoming a more common presenting issue in counselling. For the first time in the past few years the divorce rate in the UK has risen. Many blame the economic downturn for the increase, but could it be that the institution of marriage as we know it is in need of a makeover? Some married couples are abandoning traditional rules and approaches to marriage in favour of the open relationship, with hopes that increased flexibility and emotional honesty will provide the key to a successful long-term partnership. But the question is – is it possible to make the transition from a monogamous relationship into an open relationship? And what rules can a couple establish to increase the satisfaction from their open relationship? Here we discuss some of the key issues that result from open relationships, arising from presentations in the counselling room.

Honest Dialogue

Making the transition from a monogamous relationship to an open relationship can take time, patience, and most importantly understanding from both partners. In relationships where one partner or both want to discuss the possibility of an open relationship this conversation is best discussed with honest dialogue. The hesitant partner shouldn’t agree to an open relationship unless they feel comfortable with it, and the other partner should not be “too pushy” about the topic. Both partners should give the other partner the time and space they need to reflect upon the possible transition, and understand the motivations of having an open relationship. Bringing up this conversation can be difficult, and due to the sensitive nature of the material discussed it is likely that it may take more than one conversation to bring about a solution that both partners feel satisfied with. (more…)

Relationships can be a great source of fulfillment. When they are problematic we feel pain, disappointment, guilt, rejection or loneliness. If you are suffering because of Relationship problems Counselling or Psychotherapy can help to show you healthier patterns of relating.

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Relationship Counsellors work with Individuals, Couples and Families across a range of relationship concerns such as: break-ups, divorce, affairs, sexual difficulties, jealousy, commitment issues, poor communication, power imbalances, domestic violence, wedding/premarital counselling.

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