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  1. Michelle Bradshaw

    When a person is extremely shy and has to take a drink to get up the nerve, can that turn into alcoholism?

  2. Harley Therapy

    It feasibly could. If alcohol becomes something you rely on and feel you can’t manage without, consider seeking support.

  3. Katherine

    Very helpful article on psycological shock. Suffer from severe PTSD as well but something recent caused this. Thanks for writing this article and putting it out there. Very encouraging!

  4. Harley Therapy

    Glad it helped!

  5. Catherine

    Am 20 yrs , I have this guy I love with everything I have, but sometimes I wanna talk to him, I even try to call him . but it seems like am the one making effort in the relationship. On the other side I don’t have feelings for another guy… What is wrong with me??

  6. Harley Therapy

    Hi Catherine, we don’t think anything is ‘wrong’ with you. Sometimes we end up in relationships where we feel we are more invested than the other person. Eventually if that doesn’t work for us, then we need to have an honest adult conversation about it with our partner and figure out what’s going on. And why do you think it’s not ‘normal’ to not have feelings for other men? Do you have an idea that you are supposed to always like a guy to be ‘normal’? Where did you learn such an idea? As that would be unhealthy. healthy people don’t need to always like someone to feel alive, we’re afraid. Best, HT.

  7. Poorvi Dasari

    What do I do if I wanna make the person I love realise her worth. She is a great deal to me but, whenever I try to tell her what is she for me she always disagrees and pushes me away. But deep down she loves me and I think I got few answers when I read why do people don’t have self worth article from your page. But still I don’t have a solution. Can you help me please. Thankyou

  8. Harley Therapy

    Hi Poorvi, we understand that you of course want the person you love to feel good. But here’s the thing. It’s not up to you, it’s up to her. We can’t change anyone, or make anyone realise things about themselves, it has to come from them. The best way to help is perhaps to recognise your OWN worth. To live a life of confidence and esteem, to make sure you take care of yourself, so you act as an example. You see here’s the one tiny thing we have to ask. You are in a relationship with someone who refuses to say she loves you and pushes you away. So are you certain your self esteem is okay? Have you let her know very clearly you are not ok with being pushed away like this. That you love her, but pushing you away all the time is neither fair nor helpful? Or do you just accept this sort of behaviour and only worry about her? If so, we suggest you read about codependency, as love is not about having to prove or win or convince someone, and it’s not about having to ‘fix’ someone, either. Best, HT.

  9. Sharon

    I’m a first year student doing political science..we hve started with the courses already but I’m really struggling.. I’m forgetting things and that makes me worried I feel like I’m very slow at anything I do in my life..I start comparing my self with other students..I always ask my self what’s wrong with me coz I was never like this before

  10. Harley Therapy

    Hi Sharon, university is different, many people find they struggle more than they did before. What we see here is an issue of self confidence. If we believe we are not good at anything, we create ways to ‘prove’ that belief true, such as putting things off, or not seeking help when we are challenged. Note that most colleges and universities offer free to low cost counselling to students as well as academic support. Have you looked into this? We recommend it. Best, HT.

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