{"id":100106,"date":"2018-10-02T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-10-02T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=100106"},"modified":"2023-03-06T09:31:14","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T09:31:14","slug":"relationship-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/relationship-anxiety.htm","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Anxiety – Can\u2019t Be Yourself in Love?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: _Tophee_<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Relationship anxiety can see us thinking and behaving in ways we are so uncomfortable with<\/strong>, we sabotage the very relationship we actually want.<\/p>\n

Do you have relationship anxiety?<\/em><\/p>\n

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What is relationship anxiety?<\/h3>\n

Anxiety is the mind throwing us into a state of<\/strong> irrational thinking about the past (what has happened) and the future (what will happen) until we feel fearful<\/a>. It robs us of the one place we can relax and be ourselves – the present moment<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Anxiety in relationships happens when the more we<\/strong> like someone and they like us back, the more we feel stressed<\/a> and unable to be ourselves. A simple date can send us into a sleepless night<\/a> worried about each little thing we said and did. And the more the relationship continues, the more we can be caught up in irrational doubt and fear<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Symptoms of anxiety<\/h3>\n

Anxiety is physical<\/a> as well as emotional. It often causes things like<\/strong> sleep problems<\/a>, changes in eating patterns<\/a> and stomach upsets, a racing heart, headaches, and muscle tension<\/a>. You can read about the signs of anxiety<\/a> in our article, \u2018When is it Time to Deal with Your Anxiety<\/a>?\u2019.<\/p>\n

But what we want to focus on here is the behaviours<\/em><\/span> that show you have relationship anxiety. They can be things that are so second nature to you you think you are just ‘doomed’. You don’t realise that actually, you are anxious.\u00a0 And anxiety can be treated. We CAN change.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Look what relationship anxiety made you do…<\/h3>\n

Do these behaviours driven by relationship anxiety sound familiar?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n