{"id":10790,"date":"2015-02-03T10:02:22","date_gmt":"2015-02-03T10:02:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=10790"},"modified":"2023-03-08T14:51:03","modified_gmt":"2023-03-08T14:51:03","slug":"good-questions-to-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-questions-to-ask.htm","title":{"rendered":"The Power of the RIGHT Questions to Move Your Life Forward"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"good<\/a>by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes life can feel entirely stuck. And then someone \u2013 a friend, a colleague, or a therapist \u2013 asks us a certain question and just like that, a light turns on<\/strong>. Suddenly, everything seems possible again.<\/p>\n

How can that be? What about the right questions at the right time can can suddenly cause such a breakthrough?<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Questions come in different forms<\/h2>\n

While all questions have the power to make us think, and they all have their place in life? If we are desperate to move forward or reach a goal<\/span><\/a> that is important to us, there are good questions to ask <\/strong>that can be more helpful than others.<\/p>\n

Learning to ask yourself better questions can see you finding your untapped wisdom you didn’t even realise you had. <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The ‘why’ spiral<\/h2>\n

‘Why’ questions can be useful if you are soul searching or trying to understand yourself and life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But think about the last time someone asked you ‘why’. For example, a friend asking, “But why did you decide to take that career path?\u201d Or someone asking you something like, “Why do you always talk so much?”<\/p>\n

Did you have an instant answer? Or did you instead find yourself bluffing through a quick response then spending all night or several days going through many parts of your life, dissecting your personality, and perhaps feeling overwhelmed with all the thoughts and angles that come up? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Why questions can leave us spinning, which is not great if you are feeling stuck or trying to get closer to a goal that is important to you.<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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By: Bart Everson<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

The other problem with ‘why’ questions is that if we are asking them of ourselves they tend to be the very questions that our inner critic has a field day with<\/strong>. Most questions that involve judgement start with Why.<\/strong> \u201cWhy did you go do that again\u201d, \u201cwhy did you not think of that\u201d, \u201cwhy did not you not call him sooner\u201d, and on the list goes.<\/p>\n

In summary, Why questions tend to be:<\/strong><\/p>\n