{"id":107900,"date":"2019-04-09T11:00:52","date_gmt":"2019-04-09T10:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=107900"},"modified":"2023-03-10T17:43:34","modified_gmt":"2023-03-10T17:43:34","slug":"who-are-you-really","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/who-are-you-really.htm","title":{"rendered":"Who Are You, Really? How to Discover Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"who<\/a>

By: paurian<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you often feel like ten people rolled in one? Or worry the real you is hidden in some place you’ll never find? Who are you, really?<\/p>\n

How to Discover Yourself<\/h2>\n

If you are looking for a quick solution to your identity crisis<\/a>, it\u2019s important to take some things into consideration.<\/em><\/p>\n

1.If you are a teenager, cut yourself some slack.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Your brain is actually still growing when you are a teen<\/a>. And, according to models of healthy human development, you are supposed<\/em> to be questioning your identity. Psychologist Erick Erickson, famed for his ‘Stages of Psychosocial Development’, called our teen years the “Identity vs Role Confusion” stage.<\/p>\n

2 A totally solid, never changing identity is not the right goal.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

The idea that you will figure out who you are and never change might seem like the answer to all your anxiety<\/a>. But a healthy human is always learning. Values<\/a> and personality traits<\/a> remain the same. But sometimes we change our minds, expand our perspectives<\/a>, and, hopefully, become better people.<\/p>\n

3. Some of us are naturally more flexible with our identity than others.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Some people just seem born with a simpler personality then others. And some of us seem more fascinated with pushing our own boundaries<\/a>.<\/p>\n

This said, too much flexibility of identity causes problems with relating<\/a> <\/span>and connecting<\/span><\/a>, often stems from unresolved childhood trauma<\/span>, and is a sign of mental health<\/span> issues<\/a> and disorders such as borderline personality disorder<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

How to discover yourself – key tools<\/h2>\n
\"Who<\/a>

By: spinster cardigan<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Identity is an inside job, <\/strong>as you’ll discover with these therapist-recommended tools below. Your clothes, music tastes, and social circles<\/a> might be a side product of your identity, but they can’t actually determine who you are.<\/em><\/p>\n

1. Identify your personal values.<\/span><\/h3>\n

If there was ONE thing that is the key to identity, it would be personal values.<\/a>These are the things that are so intrinsically important to us, we prioritise them without realising.<\/p>\n

When we take the time to<\/strong> identify our own values<\/a> and choose a life in line with them, we feel ourselves at last.<\/p>\n

The trouble comes if we try instead to live out our parents<\/a>‘ value system, or those of our peer group<\/a>. We suddenly feel tired<\/a>, confused<\/a>, and lost.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A classic example here<\/strong> is the<\/strong> banker from a big family who packs it all in to work for a charity and suddenly finds happiness. But it could also be the reverse. If your family values charity above all else but deep down you value success, taking a job in banking might feel a relief.<\/p>\n

2. Find the feel good.<\/span><\/h3>\n

One way to get closer to your real identity is to get honest about what actually brings you a satisfied, good feeling in life – your ‘wellbeing activities<\/a>‘.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If you \u2018think\u2019 you are supposed to like shopping and travelling, because your friends do, and it looks good on social media<\/a>? But deep down you feel happiest at home with a cup of tea reading about science and philosophy? What would it feel like to start doing that instead?<\/p>\n

3. Meet people on purpose.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Sometimes we are struggling to be ourselves as we are under the illusion we have to stay best friends with the same people our entire lives.<\/strong> This is unrealistic. People change with age, and sometimes we need to \u2018let go and grow<\/a>\u2019.<\/p>\n

Simply letting ourselves be around different people who don\u2019t have a \u2018history book\u2019 of all the things we have ever done can liberate us to realise who we now are. And it means we can choose new friends<\/span> we share values with, around whom we can be ourselves more easily.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

4. Dig out unhelpful core beliefs.<\/span><\/h3>\n
\"how<\/a>

By: Alyssa L. Miller<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Ever wondered if your real self was being controlled somehow? <\/em><\/p>\n

Core beliefs<\/a> are the assumptions we make growing up that we then mistake as fact. They hide out in our unconscious and tend to drive every decision we make.<\/p>\n

For example, if something happened to you as a child you had<\/strong> no control over and that terrified you? You can have the core belief ‘the world is a dangerous place’<\/a> — even if you live in a safe, wealthy country and never witness violence<\/a>. This fear-driven belief can stop you from interacting with the people and opportunities that could let your real self shine.<\/p>\n

5. Learn balanced thinking.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Is your thinking very black and white<\/a>? And you are always imaging the worse? These kinds of thinking are called \u2018cognitive distortions\u2019 in psychology, because they warp reality.<\/p>\n

And if we are addicted to negative thinking<\/span> it can control our choices and actions, meaning we are not being ourselves.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Cognitive behavioural therapy<\/a> (CBT) is a popular form of therapy that focuses on helping you identify and change this kind of unhelpful thinking. Try its tools for yourself with our article on \u2018Balanced Thinking<\/a>\u2019.<\/p>\n

6. Develop self-compassion.<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you were at turtle, why would you stick your head out if you were going to get hit with a stick? <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If you are always judging yourself<\/a>, then you can be too nervous to try being yourself! Self- compassion<\/a>, on the other hand, can create an open, curious attitude that means we are far more likely to come out of our shell.<\/p>\n

7. Try advanced journalling.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Yes, as children a journal is where we record daily events. But as adults journalling can be a powerful tool to find out who we are and what we really feel and think – read more in our article on “How to Journal for Better Mental Health<\/a>“.<\/p>\n

8. Practice mindfulness.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Mindfulness has become a trend because it works.<\/a> It helps us get behind the radio static of our worries and anxieties<\/a> to hear a stronger, calmer voice that knows what we really think and feel.<\/p>\n

It turns out that, if we make mindfulness a daily practice, we can all tap into this \u2018wise mind\u2019 that tends to be far kinder and clearer than our other thoughts.<\/p>\n

Ready to give mindfulness a try? Use our free and easy ‘Guide to Mindfulness<\/a>‘ to get started.<\/p>\n

9. Seek support.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

If there was one thing therapy is good for, it would be discovering who you are. A therapist is trained to listen to you in a powerful way that seems to pull things out of you you didn’t realise were there.<\/p>\n

**If you in any way suspect that your lack of identity is connected to<\/strong> childhood trauma<\/a>, then definitely seek support. Things like child sexual abuse<\/a> can fracture our sense of self in profound ways we need support to navigate. But therapies like CBT<\/a>, dialectical behaviour therapy<\/a>, and schema therapy<\/a> can do wonders to help us re-centre.<\/p>\n

Ready to discover your true self? Harley Therapy clinics connect you with London’s top talk therapists<\/a>.<\/span> Not in London or the UK? Try the Harley Therapy Platofrm where you can talk online with registered, helpful therapists<\/a><\/span> no matter where you live, or your budget.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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\"AndreaAndrea M. Darcy <\/b>is a mental health and wellbeing expert and personal development teacher. With training in person-centred counselling and coaching, she often writes about trauma and relationships. Find her on Instagram @am_darcy<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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