{"id":108077,"date":"2019-04-23T11:00:56","date_gmt":"2019-04-23T10:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=108077"},"modified":"2023-03-06T09:26:45","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T09:26:45","slug":"friendship-and-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/friendship-and-love.htm","title":{"rendered":"Friendship and Love – When Does One Become the Other?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: Victor U<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Have a friend<\/a> you sometimes wonder if you might love? Or with a partner, and worried you should have just stayed friends<\/a>? Where is the line between friendship and love, and when should you cross it?<\/em>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The modern mistake when it comes to love <\/span><\/h3>\n

Part of the confusion around friendship and love is that Western media has created a many-headed monster out of the latter.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We are taught that \u2018love\u2019 should be all consuming and exciting, that it should<\/strong> arrive perfectly formed, and completely change us. That if you are ‘in love’ you should then do everything together, and it should always feel \u2018good\u2019. <\/span>We are also taught that we should suffer for love, that it should hurt sometimes, but is \u2018worth it\u2019. <\/span><\/p>\n

So if we don\u2019t feel the earth shudder beneath us, or feel tortured, we think it can\u2019t be love, and decide we are just friends.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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What is healthy love? <\/span><\/h3>\n

Looking at the above modern ideas of \u2018love\u2019 from a psychological perspective gives a very different take. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n