{"id":108521,"date":"2019-05-28T11:00:12","date_gmt":"2019-05-28T10:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=108521"},"modified":"2023-03-02T15:47:55","modified_gmt":"2023-03-02T15:47:55","slug":"sorry-for-everything-apologise-too-much","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/sorry-for-everything-apologise-too-much.htm","title":{"rendered":"“Sorry For Everything” – The Real Reasons We Apologise Too Much"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: Gobi<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Always apologising non stop? Feel sorry for everything that goes wrong?<\/span><\/p>\n

Is apologising too much sometimes normal?<\/h2>\n

In the UK we say sorry to every person we pass<\/strong> as we manoeuvre our way around a busy shop. It’s a harmless show of politesse.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And yes, we all sometimes apologise profusely for practical reasons. <\/strong>Saying sorry to the bank manager you need a loan<\/a> from, even if you don\u2019t feel the mistake in question is yours, makes sense.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s when we apologise too much in our daily relationships<\/a> <\/strong>or intimate relationships<\/a><\/strong> that things become more serious. It can be a sign of other issues<\/a><\/strong> that need addressing.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

[Feel like everything is your fault, and struggling to see the point in things? Time to talk to someone can help – book an online counsellor now<\/a>.]\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Are these the reasons you apologise too much?<\/span><\/h2>\n

So why are you always apologising? Learn the different reasons we apologise and what they can mean about you.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

You always say sorry to avoid conflict.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Dishonest apologising in the name of avoiding conflict generally means <\/strong>you have unresolved childhood issues.<\/a> Sometimes it’s a case of growing up around violence, such as parents that were always fighting.<\/a> or an alcoholic<\/a> parent who flew into rages. As adults we do what we can to never feel that inner fear again.<\/p>\n

Or perhaps your main caregiver punished or rejected you if you dared to<\/strong> not be a ‘good’ child.<\/p>\n

Whatever it was that taught you to reject and repress your true feelings<\/a> and thoughts, you will now suffer anxiety<\/a> if someone is upset with you. In fact apologising becomes about feeling safe.<\/p>\n

You are sorry for everything because you are unlucky and make bad thing happen.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n
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Actually believing we are the root cause of all the terrible things around us<\/a> usually means we lived through pretty severe childhood difficulties<\/a> or childhood trauma<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Trauma<\/a> robs us of our self worth<\/a> and even identity<\/a>. If we don’t find help to heal, we can move through our adult life feeling an unloved monster<\/a> who is to blame for everything.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Your partner is amazing, so obviously it’s your fault.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Apologising because your partner is ‘perfect’ so you assume any issues are yours?<\/strong> This again relates to low self-esteem<\/a> and poor core beliefs<\/a> about yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Putting others on pedestals and refusing to see their flaws can also be about a fear of being let down or making mistakes. <\/span>Pretending things are perfect <\/span><\/a>means we avoid getting hurt, or feeling stupid. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

It might be that you were let down badly as a child, or punished if you made mistakes, so you’ve learned to block out reality.<\/strong> The problem is that nobody is perfect, and the other person might feel stressed by your demands they be so, and eventually walk away.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Note that if you have a tendency to always think people are amazing, but a few months later decide they were actually a monster?<\/strong> This is a sign of borderline personality disorder<\/a> which is usually caused by childhood abuse<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are apologising because your partner is right, you do everything wrong.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

In a relationship where you started confident, but now find you say sorry for anything and everything?<\/strong> And at first you weren’t sure that was fair, but your partner always finds a way to show you how you actually mess everything up? How flawed you are? And let you know how lucky you are to be with him or her?<\/p>\n

You are in a psychologically abusive relationship<\/a>. Learn more in our article, “Ten Excuses That Hide Emotional Abuse”.<\/a><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want the other person feel bad. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Take the blame to keep your partner happy?<\/strong> W<\/span>ant them to always like you, so you say sorry when you\u2019ve done nothing wrong? <\/span><\/p>\n

These are the red flags of codependency<\/a>, where we take our sense of self<\/a> from pleasing others instead of developing self-esteem<\/a> within.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You are always apologising because you are always freaking out and upsetting others.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Always blowing up? Going from happy to furious? And after the storm passes, constantly apologising to cover your tracks?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

This could be anger management issues<\/a> related to unresolved childhood issues<\/a> or childhood trauma<\/a> that have left you with excess rage<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Rapidly changing moods can also be a sign of borderline personalty disorder<\/a>. When you have BPD you have what is called ‘emotional dysregulation<\/a>‘. You can’t control how you feel, and can go from zero to 100 in a few seconds.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You always apologise so other people don’t abandon you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you apologise for things you don’t actually feel you did, but you\u2019d rather do that than be left on your own?<\/strong> You have abandonment issues<\/a> and possibly anxious attachment<\/a>. These can stem from a childhood where you couldn\u2019t rely on\u00a0 <\/span>a parent to be there for you when you needed them. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you are so terrified of being abandoned you will manipulate the other person to stay – make up stories, pretend you are sick<\/strong>, or even threaten them – then it can again be borderline personality disorder<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You say sorry for everything because then life is easy. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Apologising to conserve energy could be seen as ‘being easy going’.<\/strong> But the refusal to engage that marks an ‘easy going personality’ can hide <\/span>a deep-rooted fury at the world. Somewhere along the way something happened you couldn\u2019t control, or that you were powerless to fight, so you gave up trying.<\/span><\/p>\n

Note that emotions don\u2019t disappear, they fester. Not facing up to your <\/strong>repressed anger<\/a> leads to passive aggressive behaviour<\/a> and can often mean troubles later in life, such as a midlife crisis<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to stop saying sorry all the time?<\/h2>\n

As the above examples show, always taking the blame<\/a> often relates to our unresolved childhood issues<\/a>. Self help<\/a> is a great start if we want to understand and heal our past and raise our self-esteem<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But finding professional support can be the best thing we do for ourselves.<\/strong> A\u00a0 talk therapist<\/a> creates a non-judgmental, safe environment to explore our thoughts and feelings, and asks the questions that help you move forward faster.<\/p>\n

Ready to raise your confidence and improve your relationships? We connect you to London’s top talk therapists. Not in London? Find a UK-based registered therapist<\/a> <\/span>on our booking site, or try one of our online therapists<\/a><\/span> from anywhere in the world.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Still have a question about being sorry for everything? Post in the public comment box below. All comments monitored to protect our readers, we do not allow derogatory comments or advertisements.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\"AndreaAndrea M. Darcy is a popular health writer and found of the wellbeing site “Messy Divine”. Find her @am_darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

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