{"id":11034,"date":"2015-02-17T11:00:23","date_gmt":"2015-02-17T11:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=11034"},"modified":"2023-03-12T11:04:06","modified_gmt":"2023-03-12T11:04:06","slug":"need-more-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/need-more-time.htm","title":{"rendered":"Always Need More Time? You Might Have a Mental Health Issue"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Need<\/a>by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of us suffer anxiety now and then, when we feel we have more things to do than time to do it in.<\/p>\n

But some of us are more obsessed with<\/strong> thoughts of time than others. And it can actually be a sign of a psychological issue that needs dealing with.<\/p>\n

Why do I always need more time or have time issues?<\/h2>\n

Here are five statements about time that can mask emotional and psychological issues, along with tips on how to manage if you have one.<\/p>\n

1. \u201cI never seem to have enough time\u201d.<\/h3>\n

We all put things off now and then. But if you have such an issue getting things done and setting priorities that your life is suffering? <\/strong>It’s likely you suffer from chronic procrastination<\/a><\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Is chronic procrastination really a big deal?<\/strong> Absolutely. It can mean a stalled career, an inability to maintain relationships, money issues, and secret shame. All of which can lead to anxiety and depression.<\/p>\n

It’s also<\/strong> linked to addictions<\/a> such as gambling<\/span><\/a>, internet addiction<\/span><\/a>, or alcoholism<\/span><\/a>, all of which just deepen the shame factor.<\/p>\n

Why do you always need more time no matter how busy you feel?<\/strong> It might be that you have just never learned how to recognise and set priorities and goals<\/span><\/a>. Or you just were never given a good role model of time management. This can be something a few sessions with a good coach can sort.<\/p>\n

It’s more likely, though, that your inability to get things done is connected to <\/strong>low self-esteem.<\/span><\/a> Or to negative thoughts<\/span><\/a> that have created a low mood cycle<\/a> <\/span> that makes it hard to get ahead.<\/p>\n

If your procrastination is causing you depression over just the occasional bad mood, and you suffer ‘fuzzy’ thinking? It could be that a trauma is behind your procrastination<\/strong>. It’s hard to get things done if you are in a state of emotional shock<\/span><\/a> or your mind is hijacked by post traumatic shock disorder (PTSD)<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Still feel it’s something else? <\/strong>Look into Adult ADHD<\/span><\/a>, which has symptoms that are slightly different than ADHD in children<\/a> and is a rising concern.<\/p>\n

2. \u201cI don’t have time for my friends\/family\/a relationship\u201d.<\/h3>\n

\"Need<\/a>We all are given the exact same amount of days, hours, and minutes.<\/strong> And yet some of us manage to have really big jobs and great relationships. While others of us have a regular job, but feel so busy we decide we can’t invest in relationships. Is it really a time issue?<\/p>\n

Generally it’s more of an intimacy issue hidden behind workaholism<\/strong> .(And don’t brush this off as ‘not you’ without first reading our popular piece, \u201c7 Surprising Signs You Fear Intimacy<\/span><\/a>\u201d).<\/p>\n

If you think you <\/strong>don’t need intimacy in your life<\/a>, it’s more likely that at some point you learned connecting with others is dangerous.<\/p>\n

Take a good long look at the relationships you do have. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n