{"id":117324,"date":"2019-11-19T11:00:39","date_gmt":"2019-11-19T11:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=117324"},"modified":"2023-03-10T14:27:56","modified_gmt":"2023-03-10T14:27:56","slug":"need-to-be-right-real-cost","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/need-to-be-right-real-cost.htm","title":{"rendered":"Need to Be Right Every Time? Here&#8217;s Why (and the Real Cost)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_117326\" style=\"width: 277px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/8070746927_9094eff876.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117326\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117326\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/8070746927_9094eff876-267x400.jpg\" alt=\"need to be right\" width=\"267\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/8070746927_9094eff876-267x400.jpg 267w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/8070746927_9094eff876.jpg 333w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 267px) 100vw, 267px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-117326\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/saumag\/8070746927\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Southern Arkansas University<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Do people tell you that you are obsessed with being right<\/strong>, but you aren\u2019t sure it\u2019s true? <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Signs you need to be right <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Balk at being told you are righteous? <\/strong>And immediately have reasons to protest why you are not?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>But reasons that, well&#8230;. put you above others?<\/strong> \u201cIt\u2019s<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-stop-projecting-feelings.htm\"> not my fault<\/a> I\u2019m smarter than most\u201d, \u201cI studied more, of course I\u2019m right\u201d, \u201cI have been at this<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/my-job-is-killing-me-losing-the-will-to-live.htm\"> job<\/a> longer, what do you expect?\u201d.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-stop-judging-others.htm\"> A need to see yourself as better than others<\/a> is a telling sign.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">Also honestly consider if you: <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">interrupt or talk over others <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">follow someone else\u2019s story with your story<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">always get the last word<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">often say \u2018yes, but\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">or literally say the phrase \u2018you are wrong\u2019 <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">tend to do everything yourself as<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-trust.htm\"> you don\u2019t trust others<\/a>. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Why does it matter if I always need the upper hand? <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Always needing to be right gives you the feeling of a quick win and can temporarily<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/boost-low-self-esteem-counsellor.htm\">raise your self-esteem<\/a>. But long term, it\u2019 s actually a very costly habit. Consider the following effects of always needing to be right on both your career and personal life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">1. It limits <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/depression-and-creativity.htm\">creativity<\/a>.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">By limiting others and overlooking their <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/find-your-inner-resources.htm\">gifts<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-perspective.htm\">perspectives<\/a> with your overriding need to be right, you also stop others from inspiring you, or pushing you to go further with ideas. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\">2. It keeps you in your comfort zone.<\/span> <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">And if you don\u2019t let yourself be pushed but stick to what you know, you are actually stagnating. Being right blocks personal growth and<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wrong-career-path.htm\"> career growth<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">2. It\u2019s bad for productivity and progress. <\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_117327\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117327\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117327\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-lp1AKIUV3yo-unsplash-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"need to be right\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-lp1AKIUV3yo-unsplash-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-lp1AKIUV3yo-unsplash-500x374.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-lp1AKIUV3yo-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-117327\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">photo by Mimi Thian<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Many people who want to be right all the time are bad at delegating, which requires trust. If you don\u2019t trust your partner or<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/i-feel-so-alone.htm\"> friends<\/a> to do things right, you are stuck arranging the reunion yourself. If you only trust your<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/is-dealing-with-difficult-colleagues-affecting-your-mental-wellbeing.htm\"> colleagues<\/a> with menial tasks, you can end doing the bulk of a presentation yourself, and not focussing on just the tasks which use your real strengths. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Being right is the fastest way to go slow. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">3. It leaves you lonely. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Sure, the approval you sometimes get from seeming smarter<\/strong>\u00a0can mean you temporarily bask in the glow of attention. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>But in the long run, righteousness is<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-alone.htm\">the lonely road<\/a>. The need to be right makes you a very<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-listener-person-centred-counselling.htm\"> bad listener<\/a>, which stops you from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/understanding-people.htm\">understanding others<\/a> and having<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/authentic-relationships.htm\"> real connection<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>And <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/get-closer-intimacy-issues.htm\">real intimacy<\/a> involves being vulnerable. This can\u2019t happen if you are<\/strong> too busy being right. Your relationships can be shallow, and intimate<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/relationship-conflict-still-fighting.htm\"> relationships can involve so much conflict<\/a> that there is no room for intimacy anyway. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">If you are trapped in your own perspective there is only room for you, and not others. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What\u2019s behind an endless need to be right?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>It can&#8217;t be overlooked that Western society promotes the<\/strong> cult of the individual, of winning and losing, and the &#8216;getting ahead&#8217; that comes with capitalism. But why are you more obsessed with being right that others?<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>There can be genetic leanings.<\/strong> <strong>The general theory<\/strong> (albeit constantly challenged) about &#8216;nature vs nurture&#8217; is that we are born with genetic leanings and &#8216;personality traits&#8217;. But that our personality is then developed by the environments we encounter. <\/span><span class=\"s1\">We might be born with a fast mind prone to analysing, and with high levels of neuroticism, or even with<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Cognitive_flexibility\"> low cognitive flexibility<\/a>. But how that develops will be based on things like our family and personal experiences.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>It might be that we learnt by example.<\/strong> One or both of our parents might have been obsessed with being right. The environment at home might have been one of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/couple-fighting-healthy.htm\">constant conflict<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_117332\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117332\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117332\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45-400x400.jpg\" alt=\"need to be right\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45-400x400.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45-200x200.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5562303999_99c857fb45-50x50.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-117332\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ultrakickgirl\/5562303999\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">ultrakickgirl<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>It can rise from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/adult-sibling-rivalry-stop.htm\">sibling rivalry<\/a>.<\/strong> If you had a sibling who<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/honesty-criticism-or-verbal-abuse.htm\"> criticised you<\/a>, or who you were <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/comparing-yourself-to-others.htm\">compared to<\/a>, or who you had to fight for attention? It could have cultivated a need to have the upper hand, and a misguided<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-change-your-core-beliefs.htm\"> unconscious belief<\/a> this was the way to gain \u2018love\u2019. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Which leads to parenting.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mindful-parenting.htm\">Good parenting<\/a> is not about having a nice house and clothes. It\u2019s about the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/attachment-theory-bowlby.htm\">healthy attachment<\/a> of feeling unconditionally loved and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-acceptance-and-commitment-therapy.htm\">accepted<\/a>. If you had to perform to receive such things, be a \u2018good\u2019 or \u2018smart\u2019 child, if your parent was inconsistent, or cold, or preferred a sibling? These can all lead to<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/defence-mechanisms.htm\"> coping mechanisms<\/a> such as defensiveness. Which can look like righteousness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>A need to be right and low self-esteem<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>At its root a need to be right is connected, no matter how <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/building-confidence.htm\">confident<\/a> you may seem, to <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/negative-thoughts.htm\">low self-esteem.<\/a> Somehow, somewhere within, you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-not-good-enough.htm\">don\u2019t feel good enough<\/a> just as you are. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>There will be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/shame-definition.htm\">shame<\/a> about your seeming \u2018flaws\u2019 or weaknesses, and possibly a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/a-sense-of-self-who-am-i.htm\"> low sense of self<\/a>\u00a0or identity issues. Who are you without your intelligence and savvy and \u2018winner\u2019 label?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">A<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nature.com\/articles\/srep39589\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #333399;\"> study at the University of Southern California<\/span><\/a> used neural imaging on people with strong political beliefs who refused to be swayed by facts. It found that such people confused political identity with personal identity. The brain scans were registering an attack on political beliefs as an attack on their personal selves. Our brains are designed to protect us, so if we feel personally attacked, we&#8217;ll protest and&#8230; insist we are right.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>This low self-esteem and lack of identity can again come from poor attachment and inconsistent parenting.<\/strong> But it can also come from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-are-adverse-childhood-experiences-aces.htm\">adverse childhood experiences<\/a> like neglect. And it is a common side effect of<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-childhood-trauma.htm\"> childhood trauma<\/a>, such as any sort of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-child-sexual-abuse-why-your-definition-might-need-updating.htm\">abuse<\/a>, which decimates a child\u2019s<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/who-are-you-really.htm\"> sense of self<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/low-self-worth.htm\">sense of worth<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How can I stop needing to be right all the time?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>So how can you give up the &#8216;need to be right&#8217; habit?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">1. Practise self-compassion.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-compassion.htm\">Self-compassion<\/a>, the art of treating yourself like a friend, is a buzzword in therapy circles lately. And rightfully so, as it\u2019s a powerful tool for raising self-esteem and helping us more easily <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/connecting-with-people.htm\">connect with others<\/a>. The more we learn to let ourselves off the hook, the more we let others off the hook, too. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">2. Learn the power of perspective. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Behind a need to be right is a poorly developed ability to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-perspective.htm\">see other perspectives<\/a>. You might think you do, but do you spend time sitting down and really stepping into others shoes, or a bigger perspective entirely than those of the people involved? <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">3. Learn to listen. Properly. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Listening is really a bigger and better form of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/communication-skills-attract-love.htm\">communication<\/a> than talking. When we learn to listen properly \u2014 fully focused and present, not planning what we\u2019ll say next or making comparisons in our head \u2014 we then <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-questions-to-ask.htm\">ask powerful questions<\/a>. We see things we used to miss. Read more in our article, &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/advanced-listening-skills.htm\">How to Listen like a Therapist<\/a>.&#8221;\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Get some support. <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Again, a need to be right can at heart be a coping mechanism, to protect you from<\/strong> others getting close, or from<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-not-good-enough.htm\"> feeling not good enough<\/a>. Coping mechanisms can be hard to break alone because they are so deeply connected to our brain&#8217;s obsession with survival. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>So support is a great idea.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>For many people, the therapy room becomes the safe space they can experiment with<\/strong> being \u2018wrong\u2019 in, without fear of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-stop-judging-others.htm\">judgement<\/a> or repercussions. You can look at your ideas of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/am-i-a-good-person.htm\">what constitutes right or wrong<\/a> in the first place, while expanding your ability to be compassionate to yourself and others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">We connect you with<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/therapists.htm\"> London&#8217;s most experienced counsellors and psychotherapists<\/a> who can help you raise your self-esteem and relate better to others. Or use <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=harleytherapy.co.uk&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">our booking site<\/span><\/a> to find <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">UK-wide registered therapists<\/span><\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=harleytherapy.co.uk&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">online counselling you can access from anywhere<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p class=\"p1\"><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png\" alt=\"Andrea M. Darcy mental health expert\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-200x200.png 200w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-50x50.png 50w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673.png 268w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Andrea M. Darcy <\/span><\/b><span style=\"color: #333399;\">is a mental health and wellbeing expert and mentor, with training in person-centred counselling and coaching. Find her on Instagram @am_darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Do people tell you that you are obsessed with being right, but you aren\u2019t sure it\u2019s true? Signs you need to be right Balk at being told you are righteous? And immediately have reasons to protest why you are not? But reasons that, well&#8230;. put you above others? \u201cIt\u2019s not my [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":117327,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"yes","_lmt_disable":"no","footnotes":""},"categories":[6,125],"tags":[406,260,118,172],"class_list":["post-117324","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","category-self-esteem","tag-communication","tag-loneliness","tag-low-self-esteem","tag-workplace-stress","has_thumb"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v27.3 (Yoast SEO v27.3) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-premium-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Need to Be Right Every Time? 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