{"id":117379,"date":"2019-11-26T11:00:02","date_gmt":"2019-11-26T11:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=117379"},"modified":"2023-03-02T15:16:54","modified_gmt":"2023-03-02T15:16:54","slug":"i-dont-belong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/i-dont-belong.htm","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I Don&#8217;t Belong&#8221; &#8211; Can&#8217;t Find Your Place in the World?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_117382\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6338284584_1b999809b5-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117382\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117382\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6338284584_1b999809b5-2-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"I don't belong\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6338284584_1b999809b5-2-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6338284584_1b999809b5-2.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-117382\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ionics\/6338284584\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Leon Riskin<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Andrea M Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Constantly left feeling, &#8220;I don\u2019t belong?&#8221;<\/strong> Even when surrounded by so-called \u2018<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/i-feel-so-alone.htm\">friends<\/a>\u2019?<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What is belonging? <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Belonging is defined as <\/strong><\/span><span class=\"s1\"><strong>feeling <\/strong>part of a group, whether that is a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/repairing-family-estrangement-time-for-an-olive-branch.htm\">family<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-find-friends.htm\">a set of friends<\/a>, or a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/workplace-wellbeing-initiatives.htm\">workplace<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Psychologist Abraham Maslow, in his famous model about <\/strong>human <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/cant-focus-might-one-psychological-health-conditions.htm\">motivation<\/a> called \u2018<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs\">the Hierarchy of Needs<\/a>\u2019, saw &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/friendship-and-love.htm\">love<\/a> and belonging&#8217;\u00a0 as so important he placed them third only to our basic \u2018physiological needs\u2019 like food and shelter, and \u2018safety needs\u2019 like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/unemployment-improving-self-esteem.htm\">employment<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/psychology-of-eating-healthy-relationship-food.htm\">good health<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>But in our modern world, belonging can feel hard to come by, and has perhaps taken on new meaning. <\/strong><\/span><span style=\"color: #333333;\">When we talk about our desire to belong, it\u2019s not the sort of thing joining a group can fix, certainly not another <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/negative-effects-of-facebook.htm\">Facebook<\/a> group.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Many of us aren&#8217;t even sure what &#8216;feeling part of something&#8217; means. In a world where we can connect with anyone, anytime, we have a restless, empty feeling we want answered. And for some of us, what we are really saying is, \u201c<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/7-surprising-reasons-feeling-lonely.htm\">I feel lonely<\/a><\/span>, all the time, and I don\u2019t know why\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What is &#8216;belongingness&#8217; to you personally?<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It can help to look at what you are really talking about when you say &#8216;I don&#8217;t belong&#8217;.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What is your personal definition of belonging?<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Can you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/goal-setting-in-therapy.htm\">break it into elements that are more exact<\/a>? <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Is your idea of belonging even realistic? Or healthy?<\/span><\/li>\n<li>Where did you learn your idea of belonging?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>For example, if you are saying \u201cI don\u2019t belong\u201d and what you you find you mean is<\/strong>, \u2018I don&#8217;t feel like anyone values my input&#8217;, this can immediately give you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/achieving-goals.htm\">new goals<\/a>. You can start to look for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-find-friends.htm\">new friends<\/a> as a starting point, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wrong-career-path.htm\">look for a job<\/a> where you skills are valued.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_117391\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117391\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117391\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/freddie-marriage-X5pWCHBaMms-unsplash-400x238.jpg\" alt=\"i don't belong\" width=\"400\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/freddie-marriage-X5pWCHBaMms-unsplash-400x238.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/freddie-marriage-X5pWCHBaMms-unsplash-500x298.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/freddie-marriage-X5pWCHBaMms-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-117391\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">by Freddie Marriage<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>If you discover that when you say &#8220;I don&#8217;t belong&#8221;\u00a0 you really mean you want to be constantly<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/codependency-symptoms-modern-times.htm\">approved of<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/why-dont-people-like-me.htm\">liked<\/a>? Or have 100 thousand Instagram followers?\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Then you might start to realise this is not the<\/strong> healthiest form of belonging. It&#8217;s not realistic for everyone you meet to like you, or healthy, particularly if you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/generous-person-or-over-giver.htm\">being something other than yourself to win approval<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">And if you really are saying, &#8220;I am<a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-alone.htm\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"> terribly lonely<\/span><\/a> and <a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/connecting-with-people.htm\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">can&#8217;t connect with others<\/span><\/a>&#8220;, then it&#8217;s time to dig deep and look at the root causes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How did I end up someone who feels &#8220;I don&#8217;t belong?&#8221;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Feeling you don\u2019t belong is a belief. And<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/examples-of-core-beliefs.htm\">negative beliefs<\/a> tend to come from negative childhood environments and experiences. <\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-childhood-trauma.htm\">Childhood trauma<\/a>.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Things like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-can-i-remember-childhood-trauma-abuse.htm\">sexual abuse<\/a> are often behind a feeling we don\u2019t belong. It leaves us mired in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/shame-definition.htm\">shame<\/a>, and feeling flawed and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/why-do-i-feel-so-unloveable.htm\">unloveable<\/a>. How can we feel we belong if deep down we feel like a monster? It also destroys our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/a-sense-of-self-who-am-i.htm\">sense of self<\/a>. To belong, we need to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/who-are-you-really.htm\">know who we are<\/a>, and what we have to offer. <\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-are-adverse-childhood-experiences-aces.htm\">Adverse childhood experiences<\/a>.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Also called \u201cACEs\u201d, they can also leave us with low<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-esteem-and-depression.htm\"> self-esteem<\/a> and a weak identity. They include things like neglect, a parent who is an addict or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/drinking-too-much-alcohol.htm\">alcoholic<\/a>\u00a0or has a mental illness, watching a parent being abused, and your parents <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/the-effects-of-divorce-on-children.htm\">divorcing<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/bad-parents-are-you-one.htm\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\">Poor parenting.\u00a0<\/span><\/a><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">You need to have had at last one caregiver as a young child who gave you unconditional love, acceptance, and safety. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If instead your caregiver was inconsistent, or you had to \u2018earn\u2019 love, you end up an adult with \u2018<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-anxious-attachment-style.htm\">anxious attachment<\/a>\u2019. You are still trying to fit into what you think other people see as loveable, never feeling at home in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/healthy-relationships-help-guide.htm\">relationships<\/a> or, indeed, the world. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Can psychological issues and disorders leave you feeling an outsider?<\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Yes, often.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_117390\" style=\"width: 277px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/7992764820_0cb2260709.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117390\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117390\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/7992764820_0cb2260709-267x400.jpg\" alt=\"don't belong\" width=\"267\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/7992764820_0cb2260709-267x400.jpg 267w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/7992764820_0cb2260709.jpg 333w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 267px) 100vw, 267px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-117390\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/felixhuth\/7992764820\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Felix Huth<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Things like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/anxiety-vs-depression.htm\">depression and anxiety<\/a> can make us feel<\/strong> an outsider because of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/shame-definition.htm\">shame<\/a> they can bring. We feel flawed, faulty, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/am-i-a-good-person.htm\">not as good as everyone else<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/personality-disorder-a-help-guide.htm\">Personality disorders<\/a> mean you see yourself, others, and the<\/strong> world in a way that is outside the current norm. This can make fitting in really hard. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-autism-spectrum-disorder.htm\">Autism spectrum disorder<\/a> can include\u00a0 <\/strong>needing more order and<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-alexithymia.htm\"> less emotional input<\/a> than other people. And environments that others can easily handle can feel too much for your senses. Being so different can leave you feeling an outsider.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/adult-adhd-quiz\">Adult ADHD<\/a> can also disrupt your ability to feel you belong. In groups you can<\/strong> talk too much or interrupt, no matter how hard you try not to. The end result is you feel a social pariah. And you can give up on things like courses and projects, meaning you take yourself out of groups you were just starting to belong to because you<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-overwhelmed-with-life.htm\"> feel too frustrated<\/a> to continue.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Where does your idea of being part of things come from? <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\">Didn&#8217;t have a tough childhood and don&#8217;t feel you have a disorder? But still feel like you don&#8217;t belong?\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Often the ideas, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/values-and-beliefs.htm\">values, and beliefs<\/a> we live by, and take for granted, aren\u2019t even our own. They are things we learned<\/strong> from parents and caregivers, or borrowed from partners and peers.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Why does it matter? Because we can be chasing something that isn&#8217;t even what we deep down truly want or need. How can we feel we belong anywhere if inside we are going against ourselves?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Belonging and personal values<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>It can help here to look at your<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/values-and-beliefs.htm\"> personal values<\/a>, <\/strong>and how they might give you keys to belonging. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Knowing and following what deep down matters to you leads to meeting people you actually have things in common with, <\/strong>and to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/overanalyse-choice-paralysis.htm\">making life choices<\/a> that give you a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/finding-your-purpose-anxiety.htm\">sense of purpose<\/a>.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Do you value<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/10-ways-help-debt-problems.htm\"> money<\/a>, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/boosting-your-mood-volunteer.htm\">charity<\/a>? Adventure, or stability? Are you going to feel you belong in a business setting in the town you grew up in, or on an overseas charity mission? <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Belonging &#8211; something we find, or something we create? <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Writer<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s1\">Toko-pa Turner, in her book <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Belonging-Remembering-Ourselves-Toko-pa-Turner\/dp\/1775111202\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"s3\">Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home<\/span><\/a> , questions the old ideas of belonging as a mythical place we find outside of ourselves. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">Instead, she suggests belonging is a skillset we can learn, and that belonging works from the inside out.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">\u201cOur longing for community and purpose is so powerful that it can drive us to join groups, relationships, or systems of belief that, to our diminished or divided self, give the false impression of belonging. But places of false belonging grant us conditional membership, requiring us to cut parts of ourselves off in order to fit in. While false belonging can be useful and instructive for a time, the soul becomes restless.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>She suggests we start with repairing <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/who-am-i-identity-crisis.htm\">our identities<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/low-self-worth.htm\">worth<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-listen-to-yourself.htm\">our relationships with ourselves<\/a>, creating belonging <em>within<\/em>. From there<span class=\"s1\"> we can find ways to connect our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/authentic-self.htm\">authentic selves<\/a> with what is around us. With this perspective, we can truly find belonging everywhere.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Time to face the root issues that leave you lonely, disconnected, and feeling like you don&#8217;t belong? We connect you with <span style=\"color: #333399;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/therapists.htm\">London&#8217;s top talk therapist<\/a>s<\/span>. Or find <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">UK-wide registered therapists<\/span><\/a> on our<a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"> booking site<\/span><\/a>, along with <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?location_type=skype&amp;utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">online counsellors<\/span><\/a> you can work with from anywhere.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Still have a question about constantly feeling, &#8220;I don&#8217;t belong&#8221;? Or want to share your experience with other readers? Use the comment box below. Note that comments are moderated and we do not allow harassment or advertisements.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-397x400.png\" alt=\"Andrea Blundell\" width=\"125\" height=\"126\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amdarcy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Andrea M. Darcy<\/a> is the editor and lead writer of this site. She studied person-centred counselling and coaching, and likes to write about trauma, relationships, and authenticity. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Andrea M Darcy Constantly left feeling, &#8220;I don\u2019t belong?&#8221; Even when surrounded by so-called \u2018friends\u2019? What is belonging? Belonging is defined as feeling part of a group, whether that is a family, a set of friends, or a workplace. 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