{"id":117670,"date":"2019-12-24T11:00:12","date_gmt":"2019-12-24T11:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=117670"},"modified":"2022-05-16T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-05-16T11:00:00","slug":"how-to-navigate-christmas-dinner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-navigate-christmas-dinner.htm","title":{"rendered":"Christmas Dinner With Family? How to Survive the Stress"},"content":{"rendered":"

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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Christmas dinner with family or a partner’s family can bring some serious holiday stress<\/a>. How to get through it without saying or doing things you’ll regret? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why is Christmas stressful for families?<\/h2>\n

First of all, know you are not alone in finding any kind of family Xmas dinner a bit of a nightmare.<\/strong> Family dynamics<\/a> tend to quickly surface with a bit of Christmas cheer, aka alcohol<\/a>. And our family can struggle to see us as the adult we have become and not the child they knew, ditto for our siblings who can ignite old rivalries<\/a>. Also, if you are visiting a partner’s family, they might be very protective despite themselves.<\/p>\n

How to survive Christmas dinner with family<\/h2>\n

Use tricks and recommendations that therapists and coaches do to survive Xmas dinner with your sanity intact.<\/p>\n

1. Reflect like a star. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Listening is a kind of magic. It puts others at ease<\/strong>, and the more they talk about themselves, the more they like you (yes, even your future mother-in-law). <\/span><\/p>\n

True, counsellors spend years learning <\/strong>how to be a highly attuned listener<\/a>. But you can learn key tips. <\/span><\/p>\n

First, don\u2019t be planning what to say next in your head, <\/strong>which means you come across as distracted<\/a>.\u00a0Just fully focus on what the person is saying, repeating it in your head if it helps.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then do what is called \u2018reflecting back\u2019. This means you take what they said and<\/strong> repeat it back, with slight variation. \u201cI ran the marathon ten times and hurt my back.\u201d\/ \u201cYou ran the marathon ten times but and ended up with an injury<\/a>?\u201d. The other person rarely realises you are repeating what they say, but will continue on, feeling good they are being listened to.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is also a great technique to use if you are stuck talking with a family member who tends to be nosy or to upset you.<\/strong> It stops you from reacting<\/a>. And if you have misunderstood<\/a> their seemingly rude comment, it gives them a chance to clear up the mistake and explain what they really meant. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Ask the right questions.<\/span><\/h3>\n
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The right questions<\/a> break up all your<\/strong> reflecting back, and help you connect<\/a> over things that interest you. <\/span><\/p>\n

But if you ask people \u2018why\u2019 questions, it can first sound<\/strong> accusatory. It then also sends the person down a \u2018rabbit hole\u2019 of analysis. Why did<\/em> they do that, after all?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are often accused of being too ‘intense’, you are<\/strong> probably asking too many ‘why’ questions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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‘What’ and ‘How’ questions, on the other hand, are more forward looking, or more factual. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

For example, imagine someone tells you,<\/strong> “This is the first year I am away from my kids”. If you ask, \u201cWhy is that?\u201d is very wide and can seem judgemental<\/a>. But, \u201cHow is that going for you?\u201d, or “What are you going to do instead?\u201d are more manageable and useful questions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Set clear boundaries.<\/span><\/h3>\n

How are your boundaries with family? Do you feel like each get together you end up<\/strong> agreeing to things you don\u2019t want to do<\/a>? Or end up humiliated by the retelling of the same horrible childhood stories? <\/span><\/p>\n

Read our article on saying no<\/a> before you go to Christmas dinner and be ready to say it loud and clear. <\/span><\/p>\n

And take aside that family member who loves to tell stories. Keep it calm and<\/strong> friendly, and between you and them. Start with a positive then set the boundary. You appreciate they love making people laugh , but this year you don\u2019t want the stories told, end of (if you are worried about how to word things, read our article, ‘How to Communicate Under Stress<\/a>“).<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Show “unconditional positive regard”. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Unconditional positive regard<\/a>, or \u201cUPR\u201d, was created by Carl Rogers<\/a>, the father of person-centred counselling.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

UPR isn\u2019t about pretending to like others, or overlooking their bad behaviour.<\/strong> And it certainly isn\u2019t sympathy<\/a>, feeling sorry for someone, or codependency<\/a>, agreeing or helping even if you don\u2019t want to. <\/span><\/p>\n

UPR simply means you see others as resourceful humans doing their best.<\/strong> No matter how grating your uncle\u2019s new girlfriend is, just accept she has resources and is doing her best, and notice how the annoyance fades away. <\/span><\/p>\n

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And when you find yourself dying to give advice<\/a> ?Note that unwanted advice is a fast route to upsetting others. Just remind yourself, that person has their own resources. You can trust them to find their own way forward. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

5. Make it present (not presents) this Christmas dinner with family.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Being present to the moment<\/a> — also called \u2018being mindful<\/a>\u2019 — means we are less likely to miss nuances and overreact. <\/span><\/p>\n

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By: Eric Chan<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

For example, if your<\/strong> sister says, \u2018nice sweater\u2019, and you are not in the present but thinking about last year when she was in a bad mood with you? You might snap at her. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you are mindful<\/a>, fully in the present?<\/strong> You might notice she is in a good mood and smiling, and truly likes your sweater. <\/span><\/p>\n

A short<\/strong> mindfulness meditation<\/a> before Christmas dinner can make all the difference. (If you want to learn how now, go read our easy “Guide to Mindfulness<\/a>“).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Or use a mindfulness \u2018trick\u2019 whenever you notice you are caught up in<\/strong> your head or feeling stressed<\/a> and edgy: <\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Put your attention on your feet, noticing the ground beneath you. <\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Or focus on your breath coming in and out and breathe deeply, and on dropping and relaxing your arms and shoulders.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Find one thing around you for each of your senses, a colour, a smell, a taste, a sound, a feeling like your shirt on your arm.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And the best tip for next year’s Christmas dinner with family?<\/h2>\n

    Is your family always driving you nuts? Or are you<\/strong> always anxious<\/a> when it comes to any sort of social event? Why not make this year the one you invest in yourself and start therapy?<\/a>\u00a0From better relating<\/a> to more confidence<\/a>, you’ll be the big surprise at next year’s Christmas dinner.<\/p>\n

    Harley Therapy connects you with highly regarded therapists in central London. Not in the city? Use our booking site<\/span><\/a> to find a registered therapist<\/span> <\/a>near you, or an online therapist<\/span> <\/a>you can talk to no matter what your location.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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