{"id":117966,"date":"2020-01-28T11:00:08","date_gmt":"2020-01-28T11:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=117966"},"modified":"2022-05-16T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-05-16T11:00:00","slug":"ask-for-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/ask-for-help.htm","title":{"rendered":"Never Ask for Help? 9 Real Reasons You Always Go It Alone"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_117968\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/480989656_be4034248c.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117968\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117968\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/480989656_be4034248c-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"ask for help\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/480989656_be4034248c-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/480989656_be4034248c.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-117968\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/basykes\/480989656\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Bev Sykes<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Are you the type who does everything by yourself? And even if<\/strong> it leaves you<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/causes-of-exhaustion.htm\"> exhausted<\/a>, never ask for help? Because it just seems easier somehow not to? <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Never allowing support can be a form of<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-sabotage.htm\">self-sabotage<\/a>. And if you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mental-wellbeing.htm\">feel guilty<\/a> or scared to ask for help, then there will be psychological issues behind it that need dealing with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>*note that this is an article about being an &#8216;overdoer&#8217;. If you are actually in need of <strong>support<\/strong> emotionally or mentally and find it hard to ask, we advice you instead read our article on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/reaching-out-support.htm\">asking for support<\/a>.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<h3>The dangers of going it alone<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Yes, independence is a positive trait when it comes to<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wrong-career-path.htm\"> making a living<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/money-stress.htm\">finances<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-care-and-depression.htm\">taking care of ourselves<\/a>, and getting a job we are skilled at done.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But it&#8217;s not so great if we are constantly applying it to<\/strong> all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/healthy-relationships-is-it-one.htm\">relationships<\/a>, from work to our love life and<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/repairing-family-estrangement-time-for-an-olive-branch.htm\"> family<\/a>. If we insist on doing everything ourselves we are left physically and also mentally <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/causes-of-exhaustion.htm\">exhausted<\/a>.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><span class=\"s1\">And g<\/span><span class=\"s1\">oing through a hard time and not reaching out for help raises\u00a0your chance of developing <a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/depression-symptoms.htm\">depression<\/a> or <a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/signs-of-anxiety-disorder.htm\">anxiety disorder<\/a>.<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The benefits of asking for support<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>To understand why we all need help now and then, it can<\/strong> help to remind ourselves of how we benefit from support.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>On a practical level,<\/strong> asking for help means you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/achieving-goals.htm\">reach your goals<\/a> faster<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">experience less <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/stress-vs-anxiety.htm\">stress and anxiety<\/a> than trying to do everything alone <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">don\u2019t waste time trying to figure out what you don\u2019t know or aren&#8217;t good at<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/need-more-time.htm\">have more time<\/a> to do things that matter to you.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Not convinced? You&#8217;ll also stand to make more money. A <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2016\/08\/research-delegating-more-can-increase-your-earnings\">study published in Harvard business review<\/a> <\/span>found that lawyers delegating work to associates allowed them to earn 20% more than they would have otherwise, and even up to 50% in some cases.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>On an emotional and psychological level,<\/strong> help and support means you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/connecting-with-people.htm\"><span class=\"s1\">connect with others <\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">grow<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/trusting-others-hard.htm\"> trust<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/fear-of-intimacy.htm\">intimacy<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">feel supported and valuable <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">allow others to feel valued by you.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Why am I unable to ask for help? <\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_117970\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-117970\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-117970\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-jxUuXxUFfp4-unsplash-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"ask for help\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-jxUuXxUFfp4-unsplash-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-jxUuXxUFfp4-unsplash-500x374.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/mimi-thian-jxUuXxUFfp4-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-117970\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">photo by: Mimi Thian<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If asking for help makes you feel anxious or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-of-fear.htm\">fearful<\/a>, then it can be related to bigger issues like the following.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">1. You are an overgiver.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><strong><em>Do you simply prefer to give then receive?<\/em> <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Perhaps on a certain level you think <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/giving-too-much-in-a-relationship.htm\">over-giving<\/a> is what you have to do to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/am-i-a-good-person.htm\">be a \u2018good\u2019 person<\/a>. This comes from a misguided belief you have to &#8216;earn&#8217; love, instead of deserving it just for being who you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\">2. You are codependent.<\/span> <\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Do you feel that you can&#8217;t ask your\u00a0 partner or friend for help as they have problems and &#8216;need&#8217; you?<\/strong>\u00a0 <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Being <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/great-codependency-hoax-codependent.htm\">codependent<\/a> means you form your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/low-self-worth.htm\">sense of worth<\/a> around what others think. You win love by taking care of people, at the high cost of hiding and never meeting your own needs.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #993366;\">3. You are trapped in the victim mindset.\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><em><strong>Feel you never ask for help because &#8216;nobody ever helps me, I have to struggle all alone&#8217;?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/victim-mentality.htm\">victim mentality<\/a>\u00a0doesn&#8217;t let you ask for help, as then you&#8217;d have to give up the &#8216;poor me&#8217; story and see your own personal power to make things happen.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">4. You are counterdependent. <\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Do you see asking for help as weak and foolish?<\/strong> <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-counterdependency.htm\">Counterdependents<\/a> are the opposite of codependents, with a mantra of &#8216;I don&#8217;t need people&#8217;. <\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u00a0You come across <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-117971\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/cristian-newman-tnxRFtXI9dI-unsplash-400x274.jpg\" alt=\"ask for help\" width=\"400\" height=\"274\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/cristian-newman-tnxRFtXI9dI-unsplash-400x274.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/cristian-newman-tnxRFtXI9dI-unsplash-500x342.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/cristian-newman-tnxRFtXI9dI-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>as aloof, mysterious, and hard to know. But deep down you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/7-surprising-reasons-feeling-lonely.htm\">lonely<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">5. You have trust issues.<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><em><strong>Does everyone just let you down?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Sometimes we never ask for help as we\u00a0 truly believe, &#8220;You <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/trusting-others-hard.htm\">can\u2019t trust anyone<\/a>, ever&#8221;.<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">6. You have intimacy issues. <\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Does asking for help leave you feeling trapped<\/strong>? <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If you have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/fear-of-intimacy.htm\">intimacy issues<\/a>, people getting too close makes you nervous and uncomfortable. Of course it does. It involves allowing others to see your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-does-feeling-vulnerable-mean.htm\">vulnerability<\/a>, and the real you under the front you&#8217;ve constructed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\">7. You have low self-esteem.<\/span> <\/span><\/h4>\n<p><em><strong>Struggle to see how anyone would want to help you?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/negative-thoughts.htm\">Low self-esteem<\/a> leaves us thinking we simply aren&#8217;t good enough to deserve someone else&#8217;s time and energy.<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">8. Your limiting beliefs don\u2019t let you ask for help. <\/span><\/h4>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Do you secretly think you are supposed to suffer?<\/strong> <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/examples-of-core-beliefs.htm\">Limiting beliefs<\/a> are hidden<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/making-assumptions.htm\"> assumptions<\/a> we take on board as children, then mistake for truth and carry into our adult life, making choices to prove them &#8216;right&#8217;.\u00a0 <\/span><span class=\"s1\">A limiting belief that you are a bad person or deserve to suffer means you can&#8217;t ask for help, or you&#8217;d prove your own belief wrong.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">[Want to know how to ask for help without feeling anxious or making a mess of it? <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.us7.list-manage.com\/subscribe?u=1eae2866aa08c42d41969f67c&amp;id=d90c6313a7\" rel=\"nofollow\"><strong>Sign up to our blog now<\/strong><\/a> to receive an alert when we publish our connected article, &#8216;How to Ask For Help&#8217;.]<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #993366;\">9. Your inner critic always stops you asking.\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><em><strong>Does the very idea of asking for support leave you mired in shame?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Some of us simply have a voice in our head always putting us down and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/constant-criticism.htm\">criticising<\/a> us. <em>Asking for help would be weak and pathetic! If you were smart enough you could do this yourself!\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>We think the voice is right, and who we are, when more often than not it&#8217;s<\/strong> the voice of a critical parent or caregiver we have internalised and carried into adulthood.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">A <a href=\"https:\/\/guilfordjournals.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1521\/jscp.2012.31.3.289?prevSearch=Lassri&amp;searchHistoryKey=\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">study from a university in Israel<\/span><\/a>, published in the <em>Journal of Social &amp; Clinical Psychology<\/em>, found that self-criticism was a leading factor for relationship difficulties, particularly if linked to childhood emotional abuse.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3>Why am I the type who is too independent?<\/h3>\n<p><strong>We certainly aren&#8217;t born too independent.<\/strong> An infant has a natural instinct to ask for help, reaching out and screaming for assistance.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">If we are too independent it is because our childhood experiences and environments taught us it was unsafe or unapproved of to ask to get our needs met.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>This can be because we had a parent who was unable or unwilling to offer<\/strong> unconditional love and support. We learn to<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/people-pleaser-meaning.htm\"> please others<\/a> in order to receive attention, or to be quiet and good and make few demands.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-are-adverse-childhood-experiences-aces.htm\">Adverse childhood experiences (ACE\u2019s)<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-can-i-remember-childhood-trauma-abuse.htm\">childhood trauma<\/a>, such as neglect and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/i-think-i-was-abused-as-a-child.htm\">sexual abuse<\/a>, are also common causes. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Abuse in particular can decimate a child\u2019s<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/low-self-worth.htm\">sense of worth<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/who-am-i-identity-crisis.htm\">identity,<\/a>\u00a0and leave you with very <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-change-your-core-beliefs.htm\">negative core beliefs<\/a>. If left unhealed, neglect and trauma can lead to being an adult who feels so worthless, they even feel they are beyond help. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\">Can therapy help me if I am too independent?<\/h3>\n<p><strong>It&#8217;s hard for someone who never asks for help to then reach out and<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\">book a session with a talk therapist<\/a>. But on the other hand,<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/psychotherapeutic-approaches-the-main-schools-of-thought.htm\"> therapy is a professional relationship<\/a>. Reminding yourself you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/therapist-costs-makes-you-money.htm\">paying for the experience<\/a> can make it feel less threatening.<\/p>\n<p><strong>And once you are in therapy, finally experiencing what it&#8217;s like to be<\/strong> supported and championed, you can get a taste for just how good help feels. Your therapist can then work with you to<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/building-confidence.htm\"> grow your confidence<\/a> to get your needs met in all areas of your life.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Time to finally get the help and support you secretly long for? We offer highly experienced <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/therapists.htm\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">therapists in Central London<\/span><\/a>. Not in London? Use <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">our booking site<\/span><\/a> to find a <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">registered therapist<\/span><\/a> near you. Not even in the UK? We also provide <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?location_type=skype&amp;utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">internet therapy<\/span><\/a> you can do from anywhere.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Want to share your story, or have a question about asking for help? Use the comment box below. All comments moderated to protect our readers.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-397x400.png\" alt=\"Andrea Blundell\" width=\"123\" height=\"124\" \/>Andrea M. Darcy is the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/amdarcy\/\">lead writer and editor<\/a> of this blog. She has studied person-centred counselling and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amdarcy.com\/\">coaching<\/a>, and is definitely the independent type. Find her @am_darcy<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Are you the type who does everything by yourself? And even if it leaves you exhausted, never ask for help? Because it just seems easier somehow not to? Never allowing support can be a form of self-sabotage. 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