{"id":118556,"date":"2020-04-09T11:00:20","date_gmt":"2020-04-09T10:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=118556"},"modified":"2022-05-16T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-05-16T11:00:00","slug":"anticipatory-grief-covid19","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/anticipatory-grief-covid19.htm","title":{"rendered":"Anticipatory Grief – Is This Why You Are So Sad?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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photo by Joshua Rawson<\/p><\/div>\n

Has difficult world or family news seen you randomly breaking into tears?<\/strong> Feel heartbroken, and like all the sadness<\/a> of the world is upon you? <\/span>You might have what’s known as\u00a0 ‘anticipatory grief’.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is anticipatory grief? <\/span><\/h2>\n

Anticipatory grief<\/strong> means we feel grief<\/a> not after a loss<\/a>, but in advance of it happening. We know the loss is inevitable, and it’s as if we prepare ourselves. Some see it as a sort of coping mechanism.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The term was coined by psychiatrist Erich Lindemann during the Second World War, when he noticed that relatives of<\/strong> soldiers passed through the stages of grief<\/a> when the solider was at war. He saw that the grief was so thorough that sometimes, if the soldier actually survived and went home, the family rejected<\/a> him. (1)<\/span><\/p>\n

The term became popular in the 1970s, when psychologists found that those released from jail<\/strong> or long hospital stays sometimes faced families that had grieved the loss and developed new ways of being that no longer included them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How is anticipatory grief different than regular grief?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Regular grief<\/a> can come in waves for a very long time,<\/strong> and can feel endless. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Anticipatory grief of course ends when the tragedy actually comes. In the case of Covid-19<\/a>, for example, this might be when someone you knew, or even a friend of someone you knew, passed away. The situation is \u2018real\u2019. And from there you can work to accept it. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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By: Georgie Pauwels<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

In other ways, anticipatory grief tends to <\/strong>be very similar to regular grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

What are the symptoms of anticipatory grief?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Signs of anticipatory grief can include the different \u2018stages\u2019 of grief: <\/span><\/p>\n