{"id":121062,"date":"2020-11-24T11:00:18","date_gmt":"2020-11-24T11:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=121062"},"modified":"2021-02-02T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-02-02T12:00:00","slug":"oversharing-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/oversharing-syndrome.htm","title":{"rendered":"Oversharing Syndrome – the Truth About Too Much Info"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: Richard<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Oversharing can feel good in the moment<\/strong>, but can have not so great consequences. So why do we keep doing it?<\/p>\n

Compulsive vs intentional oversharing<\/h2>\n

Yes, we can all purposely overshare when we are<\/strong> outraged<\/a> or upset, and want people on our side. And you just have to look at social media<\/a> accounts to see oversharing being used as a calculated tool for attention.<\/p>\n

But brushing off ‘oversharing syndrome’ as simply<\/strong>\u00a0a form of selfishness<\/a> is often way off the mark.<\/p>\n

Oversharing can all too often be a smokescreen for a serious psychological issue,<\/strong> including things like anxiety disorder<\/a> and borderline personality disorder<\/a>. And the first hint can be whether you can control your blather or not.<\/p>\n

If you compulsively overshare before you can stop yourself, and are left feeling ashamed<\/a> afterwards? It’s time to take your oversharing seriously.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What is driving your compulsive oversharing?<\/h2>\n

So why can’t you stop giving all the goss?<\/p>\n

\"oversharing\"1. Oversharing and anxiety.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Talk impulsively when nervous in an attempt to seem normal? But the more you overshare, the more anxious you become, the less you can stop blathering?<\/em><\/p>\n

Social anxiety leads to what one set of research studies<\/a><\/span> calls “self-control depletion”. The more anxious we are, the less control we have over impulsive behaviours. [1]<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Or social anxiety<\/a> can mean you<\/strong> feel you \u2018have to\u2019 share things to fit in<\/strong>. But it makes you uncomfortable, so you try to talk your way out, only making things worse or sharing even more details.<\/p>\n

2. When you overshare to avoid, not create, intimacy.<\/span><\/h3>\n

A common assumption<\/a> is that we overshare to try to force people to like us. But chronic oversharing can also be a way to push others away.<\/p>\n