{"id":121437,"date":"2021-01-19T11:00:13","date_gmt":"2021-01-19T11:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=121437"},"modified":"2023-03-08T10:35:51","modified_gmt":"2023-03-08T10:35:51","slug":"feel-like-giving-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feel-like-giving-up.htm","title":{"rendered":"Feel Like Giving Up? How to Keep Going on Days You Just Can\u2019t"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: DeeAshley<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Totally overwhelmed<\/a> more often than not lately? Feel like giving up? It\u2019s not an easy time in the world<\/a>, and if this is combining with personal problems, it can just feel too much.<\/p>\n

7 Things to do when you feel like giving up<\/h3>\n

How can you keep going when it feels too hard?<\/p>\n

1. Bare bones things.\u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n

Usually the idea is that putting things off just creates<\/strong> stress<\/a>. \u201cWhy put off to tomorrow what you can do today\u201d.<\/p>\n

But when we are overwhelmed, trying to keep up appearances is just too much to ask for. If it can wait, let it.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Do this:<\/strong> Put your schedule down to only necessities. Cancel the Zoom call, forget about working on your side hustle today.\u00a0 Get your work done, feed yourself, make it through the day, and give yourself credit for that.\u00a0 Just for today, let it be enough.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

2. Remember that you are not your thoughts.<\/span><\/h4>\n

So apparently, according to the radio broadcast of your mind, you are<\/strong> not good enough<\/a>, a failure<\/a>, weak, useless, you mess everything up, you might as well just give up\u2026. You get the picture.<\/p>\n

The thing is these are just thoughts, not facts. And these thoughts are not even who you are.\u00a0 If you were to turn the radio on and hear a talk show, would you take it all as true? Or would you question the host\u2019s opinions?<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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By: Peter Slavik<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Do this:<\/strong> The most powerful thing here can be to make contact with the real \u2018You\u2019. The one behind the chatter and judgements. And the best thing for this is mindfulness meditation<\/a>, a tool now used by many talk therapists<\/a>. <\/em><\/p>\n

Find a quiet spot, sit very still, and \u2018tune in\u2019 to the radio of your mind. Hear each thought, thank it for ‘sharing’, then imagine it floating off, like a cloud. <\/em><\/p>\n

Then ask yourself, who is it \u2018listening\u2019 to these thoughts? See if you can \u2018sense\u2019 the part of you watching you listen to these thoughts. This \u2018watcher\u2019 is you, without all the programming.<\/em><\/p>\n

In an analysis of current research on mindfulness<\/span>\u00a0looking at data from over 19 studies, it was concluded that it was indeed an effective way to reduce psychological distress in working adults. [1]<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

3. Avoid \u2018those\u2019 types of friends.<\/span><\/h4>\n

We all know that friend who never \u2018gets\u2019 it.<\/strong> The one who, every time we try talk to them when we are feeling lost<\/strong>, brushes us off with platitudes<\/a>. Or changes the conversation to tell their matching story, making it a competition, instead of even remotely listening<\/a>. But we can\u2019t think of anyone else to call. Or, deep down, we even call them to sabotage our mental wellbeing<\/a>\u00a0and punish ourselves further.<\/p>\n

Talking to the wrong person when we are feeling very fragile is extremely toxic because it leaves us feeling alone and misunderstood. It can push us from feeling hopeless to feeling suicidal.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Do this:<\/strong> It would be better to call a helpline<\/a> if you feel like giving up. The idea is admittedly intimidating at first, but the people on the other end know how to listen. Other things that can help include:<\/em><\/p>\n