{"id":121573,"date":"2021-02-04T11:00:59","date_gmt":"2021-02-04T11:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=121573"},"modified":"2023-03-13T07:28:05","modified_gmt":"2023-03-13T07:28:05","slug":"learn-how-to-delegate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/learn-how-to-delegate.htm","title":{"rendered":"Why You Need to Learn How to Delegate (and What Might be Holding You Back)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

An avid ‘do-it-yourselfer’? Can\u2019t be bothered to ask for help<\/strong> at work, home, or in relationships<\/a>? Refusing to learn how to delegate means you are missing out on a powerful tool of personal growth. <\/span><\/p>\n

Learn how to delegate to reap these benefits<\/span><\/h2>\n

How is delegating a tool of mental and emotional wellbeing<\/a>?<\/p>\n

1. It helps us trust others. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Have trust issues<\/a>? Delegating slowly but surely challenges you to grow your capacity to\u00a0 trust others to do things to the best of their ability. The more we delegate, the more we might feel it easier to trust in our intimate relationships<\/a>, too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

2. It means we have to stop controlling everything. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Sure, we can delegate and then try to control<\/a> with micro managing. But either we\u2019ll feel exhausted<\/a>, or the person we\u2019ve delegated to will let us know in no uncertain terms it’s not working. Delegating becomes a way to look at where we need to let go<\/a> a little. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. It challenges our need to be perfect.<\/span><\/h3>\n

The other person may do things differently than we would have<\/strong>, or in a way that to us doesn\u2019t seem perfect in our eyes. <\/span><\/p>\n

What delegating teaches over time is that <\/strong>wanting everything to be perfect is inefficient. <\/span><\/p>\n

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The more we can let others do certain things to a ‘good enough’ level, the more time we have to apply our rigid standards to important things. If the new housekeeper forgot to vacuum under the bed, but we used the time saved to put together a perfect funding proposal, isn’t a bit of dust worth it?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

4. It helps us learn to communicate our needs clearly. <\/span><\/h3>\n
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The better you can explain exactly what you need don<\/span>e, in a way that inspires instead of offends the other, the better the results you will get.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Why aren\u2019t you delegating?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Always say you are going to find help, or let your partner arrange the next vacation, or finally make your kids do more around the house<\/a>, or start letting your team at work take over more, but then\u2026 don\u2019t?<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It\u2019s important to get very honest about what is holding you back.<\/strong> Looking at the benefits above can give insight. <\/span><\/p>\n