{"id":121871,"date":"2021-03-09T11:00:16","date_gmt":"2021-03-09T11:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=121871"},"modified":"2023-03-13T19:59:50","modified_gmt":"2023-03-13T19:59:50","slug":"how-to-be-brave-fear","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-be-brave-fear.htm","title":{"rendered":"How to be Brave (Even When You Are Afraid)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_121885\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-121885\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-121885\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/brett-jordan-GpxF3KeZy8A-unsplash-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"how to be brave\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/brett-jordan-GpxF3KeZy8A-unsplash-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/brett-jordan-GpxF3KeZy8A-unsplash-500x374.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/brett-jordan-GpxF3KeZy8A-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-121885\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">photo by: Brett Jordan<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Been avoiding a confrontation? Or something you want to do in life, but haven&#8217;t had the courage? Learning how to be brave can be easier than you think.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What is bravery, really?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Yes, in emergency situations, we can be instinctively brave. <\/strong>Our brains take over, flooding our bodies with chemicals like adrenaline that see us be heroes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><b>But day-to-day bravery isn&#8217;t about\u00a0<\/b>emergencies.\u00a0<span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333333;\">It\u2019s about choices and challenges, like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/getting-over-a-breakup.htm\">\u00a0leaving a relationship<\/a> that isn&#8217;t working for you. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/moving-abroad-cause-depression.htm\">Travelling alone<\/a>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wrong-career-path.htm\">Changing your career<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/247520291_Implicit_theories_of_courage\">American researchers testing theories of courage<\/a> <strong>concluded that to be brave has four parts<\/strong>. They are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>intentionally deciding to take action<\/li>\n<li>believing the action involves risk for us<\/li>\n<li>but being motivated as we feel it will lead to a worthwhile, good ending<\/li>\n<li>deliberating carefully then taking the action.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How to be brave &#8211; 10 tips<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><em>What steps forward can this definition show us? And what other tips might be useful when it comes to how to be brave?\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">1. Recognise that you\u2019ve <em>already<\/em> been brave.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Cast your mind back and find the moments, no matter how small, you have already stepped out your comfort zone and lived to tell the tale. We\u2019ve all been a kid going to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/student-stress-what-is-it.htm\">first day of school<\/a>, talked to someone with the risk of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/the-private-hell-of-rejection-why-does-it-keep-happening-to-you.htm\">being rejected<\/a>, or had to go to a doctor and get a needle. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">2. Put your eye on the prize.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_121873\" style=\"width: 277px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-121873\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-121873\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/etty-fidele-AzVexpHvuKY-unsplash-267x400.jpg\" alt=\"how to be brave\" width=\"267\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/etty-fidele-AzVexpHvuKY-unsplash-267x400.jpg 267w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/etty-fidele-AzVexpHvuKY-unsplash-400x600.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/etty-fidele-AzVexpHvuKY-unsplash.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 267px) 100vw, 267px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-121873\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">photo by Etty Fidele<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>When we need to be brave we will have many thoughts trying to trip us up, <\/strong>telling us why it\u2019s too hard, or not to bother.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Keep your eye on the prize. What is the desired outcome? Where will you be in five years if you do this brave thing, or have this brave conversation? Where will we be if you don\u2019t? Get crystal clear on your intentions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">3. Forget about perfect timing. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Waiting for the right moment is often just a delay tactic.<\/strong> There is rarely a perfect moment. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">And if you are waiting until you don\u2019t feel afraid, forget it. This is particularly true if you had a difficult childhood, and have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-complex-ptsd.htm\">complex PTSD<\/a>. You will always have an anxious <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/fight-or-flight-response.htm\">fight or flight response<\/a> in the face of stress. The trick is to learn to do what the title of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Feel-Fear-Anyway-Indecision-Confidence\/dp\/0091907071\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">the famous book by Susan Jeffers<\/span><\/a> suggests. &#8220;Feel the fear, and do it anyway&#8221;. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">4. But differentiate good fear and bad fear.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Often what we call fear is actually nervous excitement, or the sensation of<\/strong> pushing outside of our comfort zone. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #800080;\">But if there is real danger, if you are wanting to break up with someone and you suddenly have the sense<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/traumatic-bonding-break-trauma-bonds.htm\"> they might lash out and hurt you<\/a>, for example? This is real fear. You need to get away. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">5. And don&#8217;t confuse sabotage with bravery.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Sometimes, if we feel really overwhelmed at the thought of doing something, it&#8217;s because we <\/strong>simply don\u2019t have the mental or emotional capacity at the moment and need to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-care-and-depression.htm\">practice self-care<\/a>. And that\u2019s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>For example, if we have long wanted to take someone to court for <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-child-sexual-abuse-why-your-definition-might-need-updating.htm\">something awful that happened to us as a child<\/a>, that\u2019s a great reason to find your bravery. But to suddenly decide to do that three months into your first <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/stress-in-pregnancy-care-info.htm\">pregnancy<\/a>, when you need to be calm and healthy, that might <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-sabotage.htm\">self-sabotage<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\">6. Ask good questions.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Sometimes we work ourselves up to believe we are facing a huge danger that requires all our bravery. When in reality, most of the drama is simply in our heads. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\">Youspend weeks thinking that if you tell our boss you need to quit she will freak and the company will not do well without you. Meanwhile, the conversation finally happens and it takes three minutes. She\u2019s fine with it and already has someone else to replace you. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">To avoid getting caught up<\/span><\/strong><span class=\"s1\"> in &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/cognitive-distortions.htm\">cognitive distortions<\/a>&#8216;, it helps to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-questions-to-ask.htm\">ask good questions<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What is the situation really about? <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Are your thoughts about it facts with evidence, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/making-assumptions.htm\">assumptions<\/a>? <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">What might you not know about the situation?<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How could you get more facts? <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How could it all turn out differently than you expect?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">7. De-charge and then de-charge some more.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_121888\" style=\"width: 235px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3778391878_79292a18a8-3.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-121888\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-121888\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3778391878_79292a18a8-3-225x400.jpg\" alt=\"how to be brave\" width=\"225\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3778391878_79292a18a8-3-225x400.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3778391878_79292a18a8-3.jpg 281w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-121888\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: nasrul ekram<\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><strong>Being brave can all fall to bits if we end up in a<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/crying-for-no-reason.htm\">puddle of tears<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/different-types-of-anger.htm\">get angry<\/a> before we even get out what we need to get out. This happens as we are still emotionally \u2018charged\u2019. Often we are unwittingly also &#8216;triggered&#8217;, bringing emotions into the picture that are from older experiences, perhaps as far back to childhood.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><strong>Use techniques in advance to \u2018de-charge\u2019, such as<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-use-a-self-help-journal.htm\">journalling<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/mindfulness-help-guide.htm\">mindfulness<\/a>, a brisk walk, punching pillows, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/dance-movement-psychotherapy.htm\">dancing it out<\/a>\u2026 whatever works to calm you down. And if you need several weeks of this first, that&#8217;s okay.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">8. Make it bigger than yourself. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Ever noticed how you can faff about when it comes to your own<\/strong> personal projects, but when it\u2019s something you are doing for someone else, you are an organisational machine?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/connecting-with-people.htm\">Human connection<\/a> is energising and inspiring. When we do things that are bigger than ourselves, we surprise ourselves. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Use this to your advantage by finding a way to connect your brave act with others.<\/strong> If you are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/should-i-quit-my-job.htm\">quitting your job<\/a> as you hate it, for example, it will also mean you are<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/parental-stress.htm\"> less stressed around your kids<\/a>. If you are making a speech, you are sharing information that others need. This is not just about you. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">9. Find the worse case scenario. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">This is a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/coaching-and-counselling.htm\">coaching technique<\/a>. The idea is that we avoid doing things because somewhere in the back of our minds is the certainty some big horrible thing will happen. But what?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>If we take the time to stop, focus, and ask,<\/strong> \u201cWhat is the absolutely worse thing that can happen here?\u201d Then we can also ask, &#8220;And can I handle that? What can I do to navigate that?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\">For example, if you finally drop out of that university course you hate but your parents wanted you to take, they might be really angry. They might not talk to you for a few months. Can you survive that? Is it possible that it is not as life or death as you\u2019ve convinced yourself? And is it better or worse than waking up each day with a sense of dread? <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">10. Be willing to do a terrible job of it. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Sometimes we fail. We say we are going to quit our job, walk in, and walk out with a<\/strong> promotion instead. We say we\u2019re going to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/getting-over-a-breakup.htm\">leave our partner<\/a>, and end up hopping into bed then planning a vacation. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #666699;\">The alternative to learning how to be brave and giving it a good go is doing nothing. If we do nothing, we never learn, and life never changes.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>You can always try again. And you also have the right to change your mind.<\/strong> Things are never as black or white as we try to tell ourselves. If you want to back out of the vacation, you can. And if you realise that actually, you&#8217;re thrilled about the promotion, then that&#8217;s okay too.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Need help with how to be brave? We connect you to team of friendly and expert <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/mindfulness-help-guide.htm\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">therapists in central London<\/span><\/a>. Or use our<a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"> booking platform<\/span><\/a> to find a <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">UK-wide based registered therapist<\/span><\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">online counsellor<\/span><\/a> now.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Still have a question about how to be brave? Ask below. Note we cannot offer free counselling via comments.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><strong><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-397x400.png\" alt=\"Andrea Blundell\" width=\"152\" height=\"153\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amdarcy.com\/\">Andrea M. Darcy<\/a><\/strong> is the editor and lead writer of this site. After years of working as a screenwriter, she studied person-centred therapy and coaching then began writing self help pieces like this one. Find her\u00a0 on Instagram<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/am_darcy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> @am_darcy\u00a0<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Been avoiding a confrontation? Or something you want to do in life, but haven&#8217;t had the courage? 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