{"id":122047,"date":"2021-03-30T11:00:17","date_gmt":"2021-03-30T10:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=122047"},"modified":"2023-03-13T13:43:14","modified_gmt":"2023-03-13T13:43:14","slug":"how-to-be-more-patient","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-be-more-patient.htm","title":{"rendered":"How to Be More Patient &#8211; With Life, Others, and Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-122050\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/jeshoots-com-2vD8lIhdnw-unsplash-1-400x266.jpg\" alt=\"how to be more patient\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/jeshoots-com-2vD8lIhdnw-unsplash-1-400x266.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/jeshoots-com-2vD8lIhdnw-unsplash-1-500x333.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/jeshoots-com-2vD8lIhdnw-unsplash-1-180x120.jpg 180w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/jeshoots-com-2vD8lIhdnw-unsplash-1.jpg 709w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><span style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Often feel <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/irritability-factor.htm\">frustrated<\/a>? Or known for giving up or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/decision-making-skills-mental-health.htm\">changing your mind<\/a>? How to be more patient if it&#8217;s not your natural state of being?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The art of patience <\/span><\/h2>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\">Patience is the art of staying calm and waiting it out, even when we are frustrated or are facing obstacles. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">Having patience is desirable because<\/span><span class=\"s1\"> it can mean being:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">more likely to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-set-goals-that-work.htm\">reach goals <\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">less <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-overwhelmed-with-life.htm\">overwhelmed<\/a> by challenges<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">better at<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/ten-tips-for-anger-management-in-relationships.htm\"> interpersonal conflict<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">less physically and emotionally affected by<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/quiz-stressed-or-depressed\"> stress<\/a>.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">A small<a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/2007-08907-011\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"> study involving university students<\/span><\/a> looking at how patience works as a virtue ended up connecting patience to greater <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mental-wellbeing.htm\">wellbeing<\/a>, less <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-neuroticism.htm\">neuroticism<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/depression-and-relationships.htm\">depression<\/a>, and even less health problems.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Are you as patient as you seem? <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>While we might have &#8216;behavioural patience&#8217; down pat, meaning we can <em>appear<\/em> calm<\/strong> in, say a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/is-my-boss-a-sociopath.htm\">conflict with our boss<\/a>? If inside we are seething, and plotting our revenge, then we do not have &#8217;emotional patience&#8217;. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>We might <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/new-year-goals.htm\">achieve our goals<\/a> through our faking, but<\/strong> our relationships will be plagued by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-passive-aggressive-behaviour.htm\">passive aggressive behaviour<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/codependency-symptoms-modern-times.htm\">codependency<\/a>, and we will still exhibit <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/fight-or-flight-response.htm\">symptoms of stress<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How to develop patience<\/span><\/h2>\n<div id=\"attachment_122049\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-122049\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-122049\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/640616494_3b08720adc-400x249.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"249\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/640616494_3b08720adc-400x249.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/640616494_3b08720adc.jpg 499w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-122049\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/alper\/640616494\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\">Alper \u00c7u\u011fun<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em><span class=\"s1\">So what can help us develop patience if it&#8217;s not a natural for us? <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">1. Make it about more than you.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>If we are impatient, we are convinced of one<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-perspective.htm\"> perspective<\/a><strong> &#8212;\u00a0 <\/strong>our own.\u00a0Our colleague is talking too much about themselves as they are vain.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>The queue at the grocery store will mean bad things for the rest of our day. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Meanwhile, <\/b><strong>the other person might be<\/strong> upset about something and talking too much as they desperately need the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/authentic-relationships.htm\">connection<\/a>. That queue might delay us, but it might also mean we miss out on being in a traffic accident, or have a moment to come up with a new idea.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">If we learn to see a bigger picture, we tend to be more patient. We recognise that the cashiers are doing the best they can, that older people are slower at checking out, and that one day we, too, will be old. These kind of thoughts connect us instead of separate us from others, and we feel less stressed.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">2. Cultivate compassion.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Recognising that a situation we are in involves others means<\/strong> we are cultivating compassion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>And it starts with ourselves. If we are impatient with others, it is often as we secretly <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-critical-signs.htm\">judge ourselves<\/a>, then <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-stop-projecting-feelings.htm\">project<\/a> that on those around us. We don\u2019t like they way we ourselves communicate, a lot of what we say we find silly, so we then decide our colleague is annoying when they talk. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\"><a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/self-compassion.htm\">Self-compassion<\/a> is the art of learning to treat ourselves as a friend, which then creates room for us to extend that compassion to others. There is even a type of therapy formed just around this art, &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/compassion-focused-therapy.htm\">compassion-focused therapy<\/a>&#8216; (CFT).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">2. Clear out your backlog. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Why do strange things make us so darn antsy when others don&#8217;t?<\/strong> Why do we feel furious if someone is five minutes late, but not care if our doctor is half an hour behind?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sometimes it&#8217;s about past experiences that we never resolved.<\/strong> We transpose those experiences onto the present. We hate people being late because our father was always late to pick us up for our weekends with him, for example.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Clearing out our backlog, both by letting ourselves<\/strong> remember experiences that upset us as well as feel the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/emotionally-repressed-signs.htm\">emotions we repressed<\/a>, can mean we react less in the present.\u00a0 <\/span><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-use-a-self-help-journal.htm\">Journalling<\/a> can be a great tool here, as can <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Mid%20Post\">talk therapy<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org\/record\/1983-05622-001\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Research back in the 1980s<\/span><\/a> tried to assert that everyday hassles were more of a negative effect on mental health than stressful life events. That is, until <a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/264355756_Daily_hassles_and_mental_health_A_longitudinal_study\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">further research<\/span><\/a> pointed out that the way we react to everyday stressors is directly related to and informed by our bigger traumatic life experiences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">4. Cope with your core beliefs. <\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>One of the things you might discover<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/first-time-seeking-therapy.htm\">working with a therapist<\/a> are<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/making-assumptions.htm\"> assumptions<\/a> about yourself, others, and the world that you have mistaken for truth. These are called <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-change-your-core-beliefs.htm\">core beliefs<\/a>, and they can certainly cause you to be impatient. <\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_122048\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-122048\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-122048\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/476232593_055761c1d2-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/476232593_055761c1d2-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/476232593_055761c1d2.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-122048\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/imjosh\/476232593\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\">Josh Smith<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>A classic example is the belief<\/strong> \u201cI am <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/low-self-worth.htm\">not worthy<\/a>\u201d.You impatiently leave a waiting room, telling yourself it&#8217;s because your interview was supposed to be ten minutes ago.\u00a0 When really your impatience stems from your belief that you are unworthy, meaning you are driven to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mental-wellbeing.htm\">sabotage<\/a> getting the job. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #993366;\">5. Get present.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Impatience is often about the past or future.\u00a0 We are<\/strong> annoyed about the queue as we are worried we\u2019ll get a parking ticket or not get our work done for the day (future). Or because this store always has a queue (past). <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\" style=\"color: #333399;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mindfulness-techniques.htm\">Mindfulness<\/a> is a popular tool that helps brings us fully into the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/present-moment-secret-better-mood.htm\">present moment<\/a>. We become more aware of our thoughts and feelings, meaning we can take better charge of them. We notice what is going on here and now, including what is going right, not just wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>It takes time to become good at, but it\u2019s easy to learn<\/strong> &#8211; use our free &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/mindfulness-help-guide.htm\">Guide to Mindfulness<\/a>&#8216;.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">Why am I not good at being patient? <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>We might be more <\/b><strong>genetically inclined to be<\/strong> impatient than patient, or vice versa. <\/span><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/direct.mit.edu\/jocn\/article\/26\/7\/1418\/28142\/A-Functional-Polymorphism-of-the-MAOA-Gene-Is#.UzytF_m4X-o\">Research shows that anger control<\/a>, for example, has a genetic component. And a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2020\/11\/201127180755.htm\">2020 Japanese study<\/a>, while only carried out on mice, has connected patience to our brain&#8217;s serotonin levels, which <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4275332\/\">other research<\/a> shows might have a genetic connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>But patience is also a skill that we learn (or don&#8217;t). If you didn\u2019t grow up with<\/strong> parents who were patient, you might have learned instead how to be demanding.\u00a0 But if you choose to learn to be patient, you will likely be successful. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">A s<a href=\"https:\/\/files.eric.ed.gov\/fulltext\/EJ1166060.pdf\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">mall study in Turkey<\/span><\/a> on 30 university students, aiming to teach patience, found that most did then exhibit more patience.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>But what if you really try hard to be patient, but muck it up every time? If<\/strong> you speak and act before you realise what you are doing,\u00a0 only to<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/shame-definition.htm\"> feel ashamed<\/a> later? Then it might be a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-mental-health.htm\">mental health issue<\/a> at play that needs dealing with first.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Mental health issues that affect patience <\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">This can include <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/adult-adhd-case-study.htm\">ADHD<\/a>, the autism spectrum,<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/borderline-personality-disorder-treatment-therapy.htm\"> borderline personality disorder<\/a>, and other personality disorders.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/adult-adhd-quiz\"><strong>Adult ADHD<\/strong><\/a> means that our brain is set to high speed. We tend to speak and act impulsively, only realising what we are doing when we are mid process.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/trauma-therapy-what-works.htm\">PTSD<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-complex-ptsd.htm\">c-PTSD<\/a><\/strong> are caused by a marked trauma or a series of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-childhood-trauma.htm\">ongoing difficult experiences<\/a> over time, respectively. They can mean you live life on edge,<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/something-bad-is-going-to-happen.htm\"> scanning for danger<\/a>, and always <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/pandemic-mental-health-issues.htm\">ready to react<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-autism-spectrum-disorder.htm\">Autism spectrum disorder<\/a> <\/strong>includes what was once called &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/signs-of-aspergers-in-adults.htm\">Asperger&#8217;s syndrome<\/a>&#8216;. If you are on the autism spectrum you will struggle to understand emotions, and can feel very frustrated by others who are being emotional.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/personality-disorder-a-help-guide.htm\">Personality disorders<\/a><\/strong> mean you see the world in a way that is very different than the norm. So the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/nobody-understands-me.htm\">inability of others to understand you<\/a> might lead to impatience.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/borderline-personality-disorder-treatment-therapy.htm\"><strong>Borderline personality disorder<\/strong><\/a> means you<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/the-private-hell-of-rejection-why-does-it-keep-happening-to-you.htm\"> fear rejection<\/a> and are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-can-i-be-less-sensitive.htm\">more emotionally sensitive<\/a> than others. If you do sense someone might reject you, your emotions might get so overwhelming you can&#8217;t be patient, and instead lash out.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Need help to stop sabotaging your life with a lack of patience? We connect you with a team of handpicked, expert<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/therapists.htm\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"> London talk therapists<\/span><\/a>. Or use <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\">our booking site<\/span><\/a> to find a UK-wide therapist or online counsellor now.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png\" alt=\"Andrea M. Darcy mental health expert\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-200x200.png 200w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-50x50.png 50w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673.png 268w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/>Andrea M. Darcy<\/b> is a mental health and wellbeing expert, who has done some training in person-centred counselling and coaching. She often writes about trauma, relationships, and ADHD, and advises people on how to plan their therapy journey. Find her on Instagram <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/am_darcy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@am_darcy<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Often feel frustrated? Or known for giving up or changing your mind? How to be more patient if it&#8217;s not your natural state of being? The art of patience Patience is the art of staying calm and waiting it out, even when we are frustrated or are facing obstacles. 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