{"id":122588,"date":"2021-05-25T11:00:52","date_gmt":"2021-05-25T10:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=122588"},"modified":"2023-03-09T17:56:56","modified_gmt":"2023-03-09T17:56:56","slug":"are-good-intentions-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/are-good-intentions-enough.htm","title":{"rendered":"Are Good Intentions Enough?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions,\u201d<\/strong> according to an unknown proverb. <\/span><\/p>\n

Would psychologists<\/a> beg to differ?\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

The meaning of intention<\/span><\/h2>\n

What are we really talking about when we talk about our intentions?<\/strong> It\u00a0 refers to the reasons we do things. Of course our\u00a0 meaning for taking an action (intention), and then the outcome of that action (result), don’t always directly relate.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The power of intentions<\/span><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s our intent around helping others that has the interest of psychologists.<\/strong> It seems that a desire to be useful and kind<\/a> really does have an affect on those around us.<\/span><\/p>\n

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A study<\/a> <\/span>looked at three scenarios of giving chocolate, receiving a massage, and administering a shock. In all three situations, even the last one which wasn\u2019t pleasant, knowing the giver had good intentions made a difference. The chocolate tasted better, the massage was perceived as more useful, and the shock was thought less painful. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

When it came to the massage, which was carried out by an automatic<\/strong> massage chair, it was even just simply another person putting the switch on that made the experience better.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Why do I always let others down despite good intentions? <\/span><\/h2>\n
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By: Allan Rotgers<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Always have good intentions? Want to make others happy<\/a>, and do the right thing? But always just end up upsetting those around you? Until you start to wonder if it\u2019s even worth trying at all? <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Some of us don\u2019t naturally see the<\/strong> perspective<\/a> of others, or easily understand those around us<\/a>. So we impose our own views onto the other person. Instead of remembering that the other person isn\u2019t comfortable with heights, or thinking to ask, we simply go ahead and book a surprise day on a viewing tower high above the city. And then feel crushed when they have a panic attack<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

When thinking through an action we are taking with an intent to help someone else, we need to ask: <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n