{"id":124679,"date":"2021-11-30T11:00:55","date_gmt":"2021-11-30T11:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=124679"},"modified":"2023-03-13T12:50:33","modified_gmt":"2023-03-13T12:50:33","slug":"difficult-employee","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/difficult-employee.htm","title":{"rendered":"Are You a Difficult Employee? The Real Reasons and What to Do Next"},"content":{"rendered":"
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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to find advice about how to deal with difficult people at work<\/a>. But what if it\u2019s you who is the difficult employee? And you can\u2019t seem to stop being that person?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Why does it matter if I am a difficult employee?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Even with changes to the workplace <\/strong>since the pandemic<\/a>, many of us spend more time interacting with colleagues than with friends<\/a> and family<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Meaning difficult work relationships can bring a lot of<\/strong> stress<\/a> to our lives. Joking about being a bad employee can be a way to hide that we feel anxious<\/a> and alone<\/a>. We might secretly worry about the future of our career<\/a>, or wonder if there is something wrong with us.<\/span><\/p>\n

A Swedish study<\/span><\/a> with over 4,000 participants directly connected low social support at work, serious conflict at work, and exclusion by superiors or by co-workers to employee depression.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Are you stuck in a pattern?<\/h2>\n

And sometimes work issues,<\/strong> if they are in all honesty an ongoing problem for us, across more than one job, aren’t just about work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Work issues can often be a reflection of personal issues we\u2019ve had for a long time. By taking our workplace problems seriously, we can often end up changing our life in general, not just our career<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

What makes me a difficult coworker?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Not sure why people see you as difficult to work with? It’s worth<\/strong> asking yourself these questions, or even journalling about them. Be honest in your replies.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n