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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Often feel completely misunderstood<\/a>? And it frustrates to you? To the point you find yourself accusing partners or friends by asking, “And how well do you me, anyway?”. <\/span><\/p>\n

Learning how to communicate so that you are seen and heard can end this cycle of pushing others away<\/a> for not \u2018getting\u2019 you. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Does it really matter if I’m understood?<\/h2>\n

A research study<\/a> using magnetic resonance imaging found that when we feel understood, it sees us using the part of our brain that leads to social connection<\/a> and feeling rewarded.<\/p>\n

When we feel misunderstood, it activates regions connected to ‘negative affect’. In other words<\/strong>, we are more likely to feel depressed<\/a> and alone<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Another research study<\/span> that had people journal daily found they reported greater life satisfaction and even less physical illness<\/a> and complaints on the days they felt understood by others.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

How well do you know me?<\/span><\/h2>\n
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The answer here could be, \u201cAs well as I let myself be known\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

When nobody seems to understand us, it can often be as we are, without realising it,<\/strong> blocking people from seeing who we are. We are: <\/span><\/p>\n