{"id":12504,"date":"2015-06-25T11:00:57","date_gmt":"2015-06-25T10:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=12504"},"modified":"2023-03-09T13:26:24","modified_gmt":"2023-03-09T13:26:24","slug":"how-to-listen-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-listen-to-yourself.htm","title":{"rendered":"How to Listen to Yourself &#8211; Do You Know What You REALLY Think and Feel?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_12510\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3133347197_1697d5ffd5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12510\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-12510\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3133347197_1697d5ffd5-400x337.jpg\" alt=\"listen to yourself\" width=\"400\" height=\"337\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3133347197_1697d5ffd5-400x337.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3133347197_1697d5ffd5.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-12510\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ky_olsen\/3133347197\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Ky<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p>You spend years of your life thinking you are on track, and on paper it all seems a success. And then one day you stop and realise that you actually aren\u2019t happy. <em>What went wrong?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>There&#8217;s a good chance that you never learnt how to listen to yourself, <\/strong>but have mistaken the chatter in your head for the real you.<\/p>\n<p>So what is the secret to listening to yourself?<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>How do you tell what thoughts are the real you, and what thoughts are just what you\u2019ve been taught to think?<\/li>\n<li>How do you recognise when you are just listening to your inner critic?<\/li>\n<li>What are the best techniques to hearing yourself?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h2>How to listen to yourself<\/h2>\n<p><strong>T<\/strong><strong>ry to integrate some of the following steps each day. <\/strong>You are cultivating a relationship here, after all, albeit with yourself.<\/p>\n<h3>1. Learn about values and what yours are.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Your values are what deeply matter to you.<\/strong> If you don&#8217;t know your true values, and are living out ones that aren&#8217;t really a fit, you might constantly feel restless and discontent.<\/p>\n<p><strong>To identify your values, look at at your life and what choices bring you undeniable joy and excitement.<\/strong> If you think your value is money, then why is it you hate your job as a financial planner but love <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/boosting-your-mood-volunteer.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">volunteering<\/a><\/span>? Is it possible your true value is giving?<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you aren\u2019t sure if a value you think is yours is truly yours, <\/strong>try imagining a life spent living <em>only <\/em>that value. If you think your value is power, imagine a life where all you have to do is give commands by yourself every day. Would you be happy&#8230; or feel lonely? If the latter, maybe your value is actually leadership. Then think of where the value comes from. Is it yours, or something you cling to as your family or friends have that value?<\/p>\n<h3>2. Dig out your core beliefs.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/core-beliefs-cbt.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">core beliefs <\/a>are viewpoints you have about life, others, and yourself that you have taken to be fact. But really, they are simply beliefs you have chosen to take on board<\/strong>. Oftentimes these beliefs stem from childhood, and are passed on to you by your<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_12511\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5172168755_ce7657139e1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12511\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-12511\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5172168755_ce7657139e1-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"Listen to your heart\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5172168755_ce7657139e1-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5172168755_ce7657139e1.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-12511\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/khalidalbaih\/5172168755\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Khalid Albaih<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p>family. They sound like things such as, \u2018the world is a dangerous place\u2019, \u2018you can\u2019t trust anyone\u2019, and \u2018money is the root of all evil\u2019.<\/p>\n<p><strong> The problem with core beliefs is that until you recognise them, they run your unconscious and inform all of your decisions.<\/strong> And they stop you from listening to yourself, especially if who you have become runs contrary to one of your beliefs.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It takes work to be honest about what your core beliefs are and to dig them out<\/strong>, and often the assistance of a coach or <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">counsellor<\/span>. But removing the ones that cause you to make bad decisions and replacing them with ones that bring more ease to your life is a truly powerful process.<\/p>\n<h3>3. <strong>Recognise your inner critic. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Watch out for a voice in your head that sounds like a parent telling you what to do in a way that makes you feel resigned or put down<\/strong>. <strong>It\u2019s rarely your true self<\/strong>, but instead your inner critic. It might sound like your mother or father, or another guardian or mentor, if they were hard on you when you were growing up. It often speaks using terms like \u201cshould\u201d, \u201cmust\u201d, and \u201cyou better\u201d, and also likes to compare you to others.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Bust through the clutter.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>One of the reasons you might struggle to hear your true self is that you just have so many thoughts it&#8217;s like trying to tune in to one radio station out of hundreds. <\/strong>Aside from the inner critic already mentioned you might be listening to your inner child (poor me, nobody loves me, nothing I do matters). And then you might suffer from anxieties, and worries about the past and the future.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So how to hear yourself through the chatter?<\/strong> Get a pen and paper and try free form <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/journal-writing.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">journalling<\/a><\/span>. Just write down as fast as you can all the worries in your head, the judgements, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/anger-management-help-guide.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">anger<\/span> <\/a>, the sadness, and the self-criticism, not worrying if it\u2019s legible.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What you\u2019ll find happening is that you write your way through to a true voice.<\/strong> At first it might take time to get just a sentence or two that feels like your true self stating what it wants, but if you practise this technique often you might find your real voice showing up not long after the pen hits the page.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Some people find this technique of busting through head clutter can work by speaking out loud.<\/strong> Rant out all the things you are annoyed about or worried about until you hear yourself saying something that resonates. Just be careful that you are in a truly private place!<\/p>\n<h3>5. Tap in daily.<\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_12512\" style=\"width: 452px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3290970519_2d6de72989.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12512\" class=\" wp-image-12512\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3290970519_2d6de72989-400x266.jpg\" alt=\"how to listen to yourself\" width=\"442\" height=\"294\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3290970519_2d6de72989-400x266.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3290970519_2d6de72989.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3290970519_2d6de72989-180x120.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 442px) 100vw, 442px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-12512\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/minoru_ntt\/3290970519\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Minoru Nitta<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>Another incredibly effective way to burst through mind clutter and listen to yourself is<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mindfulness-and-therapy.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> mindfulness<\/a><\/span>.<\/strong> A practise of <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/present-moment-secret-better-mood.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">now moment awareness<\/a><\/span> best done daily, over time you will find yourself becoming more and more efficient at being able to zone in to how you are really feeling right now, beyond the worries and thoughts.<\/p>\n<h3>6. Indulge your imagination.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>If you are only listening to your rational mind, you are <\/strong>only listening to a part of yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you are trying to listen to what you truly want and it sounds outrageous, instead of stopping the train of thought<\/strong>, try saying, well, \u2018imagine if\u2019\u2026 and see what comes up for you. And try the next step, asking good questions, which also uses your creativity.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>7. Constantly ask yourself good questions<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n<p>A good question often begins with \u2018what\u2019 or \u2018how\u2019 over \u2018why\u2019. Simply put,<strong> why questions lead down rabbit holes and to self-criticism, whereas \u2018what\u2019 and \u2018how\u2019 questions look forward and come up with solutions<\/strong> (for more on the process, read our article, &#8220;<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-questions-to-ask.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How to Ask Good Questions<\/a><\/span>\u201d.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Try asking yourself wild and big questions about the future<\/strong> to learn surprising things about yourself. For example, if you were a billionaire, what would your perfect day look like? If you were spending a week with your perfect partner, what would you do? If you had one week left to live, how would you spend it?<\/p>\n<h3>8. Try new things weekly.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>So many of us are sure we know what we like, but really are just doing things we have been taught are the right things to like doing, or things our parents did, or our friends all do. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Combat this by trying something new weekly. Try a different class at the gym, eat foreign food you\u2019ve never tried, talk to someone you wouldn\u2019t think you had anything in common with.Some things might be a fail, but every now and then you\u2019ll get a buzz from something unexpected that can be a pathway to a new part of yourself.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_12514\" style=\"width: 285px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/14136144833_d897cbc71d.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12514\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-12514\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/14136144833_d897cbc71d-275x400.jpg\" alt=\"listen to your self\" width=\"275\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/14136144833_d897cbc71d-275x400.jpg 275w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/14136144833_d897cbc71d.jpg 344w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 275px) 100vw, 275px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-12514\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/82066314@N06\/14136144833\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Iqbal Osman<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<h3><strong>9. Learn to let go. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Holding on to things you have outgrown is like building a dam that holds back your access to your true self.<\/strong> <strong>And this includes <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/authentic-relationships.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relationships<\/a><\/span>.<\/strong> If you are constantly hanging around with people who you no longer have anything in common with and really deep down aren\u2019t sure you even like anymore, just because you have known them since childhood, you are stopping yourself from your own potential.<\/p>\n<h3>10. Practise self care often.<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Just like the friends we are kindest to are the ones who trust us most,<\/strong> you might find that the nicer you are to yourself, the more you open up to yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>At the very least self-care often creates time for you to hear yourself in the first place. <\/strong>How can you treat yourself nicely this week? Is it a long hot bath instead of the social engagement you don\u2019t really want to go to? Finally dealing with your finances so you can stop panicking?<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you are experiencing a lot of anxiety lately, and find it really hard to listen to yourself or know who you are, self-care might involve <\/strong>going to see a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/therapists.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">counsellor or psychotherapist<\/a><\/span>. They are trained not just at listening but at asking just the right questions to help you discover parts of yourself you didn\u2019t know existed. So their listening might lead to you hearing yourself in ways you didn\u2019t even know were possible.<\/p>\n<h3>Why is listening to yourself so important?<\/h3>\n<p><strong>As well as a tendency to fulfil someone else&#8217;s idea of success and happiness, n<\/strong><strong>ot listening to yourself can also lead to psychological struggles.<\/strong> This can include <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/great-codependency-hoax-codependent.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">codependency<\/a>, where you take your identity from pleasing others instead of taking it from who you really are. And it can also involve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/depression-help-guide.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">depression<\/a>, because it is draining to feel lost inside.<\/p>\n<p>If you have real struggles with knowing who you are at all, feel you change completely and lose yourself in every relationship, and can&#8217;t stop making impulsive decisions, there is a chance you have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/compassion-for-borderline-personality-disorder.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">borderline personality disorder<\/a>, which does require additional support.<\/p>\n<p>It takes commitment and effort to differentiate between the things you\u2019ve been taught to believe are fact versus what is actually true for you personally.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But it\u2019s worth the effort, because when you know how to listen to yourself, you make choices that lead towards the life you actually want, not the one you think you should want.<\/strong> And this inevitably lowers your stress levels and <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/self-esteem-help-guide.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">raises your self-esteem<\/a><\/span> and contentment.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Need help knowing who you are? We connect you with some of London&#8217;s most highly regarded <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/life-coaching-london.htm\">talk therapists in central London<\/a>. Or use our sister site to book with a <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?specialism=identity\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">UK-wide registered therapist<\/a> today.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png\" alt=\"Andrea M. Darcy mental health expert\" width=\"127\" height=\"127\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-200x200.png 200w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-50x50.png 50w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673.png 268w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 127px) 100vw, 127px\" \/>Andrea M. Darcy is a mental health and wellbeing expert with training in person-centred counselling and coaching. Find her on Instagram @am_darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy You spend years of your life thinking you are on track, and on paper it all seems a success. 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