{"id":13017,"date":"2015-09-15T11:00:43","date_gmt":"2015-09-15T10:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=13017"},"modified":"2023-03-03T16:39:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-03T16:39:18","slug":"what-is-counterdependency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-counterdependency.htm","title":{"rendered":"The Dangers of Counterdependency – When You Never Need Anyone"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

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By: Garry Knight<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Codependency<\/span><\/a>, the habit of gaining your self worth from pleasing others, is something most people know of nowadays.<\/p>\n

But it’s lesser known opposite, called counterdependency, can be just as much of a problem. And it’s often related to codependency.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In fact sometimes a person will switch from one extreme to the other in a relationship, becoming counterdependent after months or years of codependency.<\/p>\n

What is counterdependency?<\/h2>\n

So what is counterdependency? In many ways, it’s really a fancy word for<\/strong> fear of intimacy<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n

Those who suffer counterdependency have a dread of ever depending on or needing anyone, at heart of which is an inability to trust. If there was a mantra that all counterdependents have, it would probably be \u201cI don’t need anyone.\u201d<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The signs of counterdependency<\/h2>\n

Counterdependents can often come across as vibrant, ‘life of the party’ sorts, or be the kind who have many friends and relationships<\/strong>. The difference is that those relationships will not be deep and trusting, and might not last.<\/p>\n

So one of the main signs of counterdependency is <\/strong>an inability to have connected and authentic relationships.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Signs of not being connected<\/h3>\n

This involves:<\/p>\n