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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal and healthy to sometimes be very emotional.<\/strong> Big life challenges<\/a> can evoke big reactions. And we all have tired days when we can react too quickly.<\/p>\n

But are you constantly accused of overreacting?<\/p>\n

An overreactive personality type tends to come with marked and consistent symptoms and behaviours. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Choose the answers below that are most like you to determine if you are, or are not, the sort to overreact.<\/p>\n

1. How do you decide what to say?<\/h3>\n

A – Often I only know what I am going to say when I hear myself saying it.<\/p>\n

B – I tend to pause to hear my thoughts, and only say what I am pretty sure about. If I am not sure what I feel I usually ask for time to think.<\/p>\n

2. If you listen to your thoughts, what do they sound like?<\/h3>\n

A – There are a lot of thoughts about other people and how they disappointed me, as well as some self-criticism. I often think in extremes<\/a> \u2013 things are really great or really awful. I dream of how I wish things were, or remember a past that was better than my life now.<\/p>\n

B – I do think about how things went and why, and consider the perspectives<\/a> of the others involved. I’m often just thinking about what I have to deal with today, or my current situation. Or I’m making plans.<\/p>\n

3. How quickly do you make decisions?<\/h3>\n
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A – I make decisions on the spot based on how I feel, a past experience I have had, something the person has done in the past, or on an instinct I have.<\/p>\n

B – I consider the facts from more than one angle, based on the current situation, and I make sure what I think is based on supported facts.<\/p>\n

4. Is regret a feeling you often experience?<\/h3>\n

A – I feel regrets about things often, or even daily.<\/p>\n

B – I don’t often regret things, or maybe do now and then.<\/p>\n

5. What do you feel physically if someone is upset with you, or you think they don’t like you?<\/h3>\n

A – I feel a hot, burning feeling grow inside me. Or I feel physically weak, even shaky, or like my heart is caving in. Sometimes I feel like I have left my body even and am floating above looking down.<\/p>\n

B – I can feel my heart beat a little, or like I have a dry mouth, but it’s not overwhelming.<\/p>\n

6. How do you act if someone gets upset with you?<\/h3>\n

A – I tend to cry easily. Sometimes I even run out of the room as it all feels overwhelming. Or I get suddenly angry <\/a>– but what do people expect if they are treating me badly?<\/p>\n

B – I can listen to what someone is saying behind their firm tone, and sometimes even manage to ask questions<\/a> and solve the conflict without needing to get upset.<\/p>\n

7. How often are people upset with you?<\/h3>\n
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A – I often have one or two conflicts <\/a>on the go, or several people I am actively avoiding.<\/p>\n

B – I sometimes have disagreements with others, butI am rarely in conflict for long with anyone. Some people don’t like me, because we have a different viewpoint, and that’s fine.<\/p>\n

8. How often do you go over and over what you said and did in a given situation?<\/h3>\n

A -I can’t help but do this for days or weeks after a conflict. If I don’t tell all my friends, I play it out secretly in my head.<\/p>\n

B – I might talk things through a few times with friends if there was an upsetting situation, but then I resolve it and move on.<\/p>\n

What do my choices mean?<\/span><\/h2>\n

As you might have guessed, ‘A’ choices are signs of an overreactive personality.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Many people fall somewhere in the middle, meaning you might be sensitive, but not too overreactive. But if you tend toward ‘A’ behaviour, then yes, you have an overreactive personality<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Overreactive tendencies tend to come hand-in-hand with other behaviours and symptoms, including: <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n