{"id":16906,"date":"2017-02-14T11:00:06","date_gmt":"2017-02-14T11:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=16906"},"modified":"2023-03-08T10:24:52","modified_gmt":"2023-03-08T10:24:52","slug":"constant-criticism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/constant-criticism.htm","title":{"rendered":"Constant Criticism &#8211; Are You Mistakenly Encouraging It?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_16909\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/4229872833_4fa449eb97.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-16909\" class=\"wp-image-16909 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/4229872833_4fa449eb97-400x263.jpg\" alt=\"Constant criticism\" width=\"400\" height=\"263\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/4229872833_4fa449eb97-400x263.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/4229872833_4fa449eb97.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-16909\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/barkbud\/4229872833\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">bark<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>You feel your partner (or boss, or friend) is always picking on you. He or she says you are oversensitive.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Who is right? Are you the victim of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/dangers-criticism-realise.htm\">constant criticism<\/a>, or are you being defensive?<\/p>\n<h2>Is it really all his or her fault?<\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">It is possible to actually push people to criticise you &#8212; without even realising you are doing so. This would be an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-the-unconscious-mind.htm\">unconscious pattern<\/a> based on ways of being around others that you learned growing up.<\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>A classic example is the &#8216;Do I look fat in this&#8217; scenario.<\/strong> Person A asks Person B if she looks fat in an outfit. When Person B tries to be honest and says &#8216;a little&#8217;, Person A is angry at being criticised.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The key point here is that Partner A really criticised herself first.<\/strong> Her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-perspective.htm\">perspective<\/a> was negative. By presenting this self-criticism to the other, she manipulated his or her perspective to a negative one as well. It&#8217;s really a way of controlling how another person sees you.<\/p>\n<h2>How to tell if you are creating opportunities for constant criticism<\/h2>\n<p>What are the ways you might be constantly encouraging criticism? See if the below scenarios sound familiar.<\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Constantly demanding the other person answers yes\/no questions about you.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;Do you think I could do better with the presentation, yes or no? Tell me.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Do you really think I am a good dancer, yes or no? Be honest, I can tell if you are lying.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Making <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/making-assumptions.htm\">assumptions <\/a>about what the other person thinks.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I know you think I shouldn&#8217;t eat so many sweet things.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;It&#8217;s clear you think it&#8217;s my fault I can&#8217;t attract a good partner&#8221;.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #800080;\">The other person often accuses you of twisting around what they said, y0u refuse to listen.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;But I didn&#8217;t say that at all, you are misinterpreting&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;But that&#8217;s only part of what I said, you&#8217;ve turned it around&#8221;.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">You put words in the other person&#8217;s mouth.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;You didn&#8217;t like that restaurant because you think I have no taste.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;And you want to go home and sleep early because you think I am being boring.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">You put yourself down often with little comments, even if they are &#8216;jokes&#8217;.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333333;\"> \u201cI&#8217;m such an idiot\u201d, \u201cI&#8217;m hopeless\u201d, \u201cSometimes I don&#8217;t know where my head is at\u201d.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Deflecting compliments.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333333;\">&#8220;It&#8217;s nice you think my speech went ok, but the next speaker was better.&#8221;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333333;\">&#8220;This old dress? I bought it on sale.&#8221;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Having a negative perspective, where you search for what is wrong in each situation.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;Well sure we had a good night out, but then you said that I was too hyper&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I know you pretend you like my cooking but you didn&#8217;t eat all of your cake last night.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Constantly worrying about what others think about you.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I am sure my boss doesn&#8217;t think I am ambitious, I worry that my friends think I don&#8217;t make enough money, I imagine my new neighbour must not like that I get home late each night&#8230;..&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Spending time looking for evidence about what other people don&#8217;t like about you.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;My colleague thinks I talk to much because he put his earphones on all day yesterday. &#8220;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;The person I am dating didn&#8217;t respond to my text, they must think I am needy.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Having thoughts that others are &#8216;out to get you&#8217; or &#8216;want to punish you&#8217;.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;My colleague bought a coffee for two other people in the office but not me, he wants me to feel left out because I didn&#8217;t ask him to the bar after work last Friday.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Why would I be the sort to encourage criticism?<\/h2>\n<div id=\"attachment_16915\" style=\"width: 273px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3999582219_bb6d3c742d.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-16915\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-16915\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3999582219_bb6d3c742d-263x400.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"263\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3999582219_bb6d3c742d-263x400.jpg 263w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/3999582219_bb6d3c742d.jpg 329w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 263px) 100vw, 263px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-16915\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/ghoguma\/3999582219\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">ghoguma film<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p>Again, like most psychological patterns, it will stem from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-childhood-trauma.htm\">childhood experiences<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Criticism can be a learned pattern. For example<\/strong>, if you watched one parent constantly criticise the other,<strong> you could have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/examples-of-core-beliefs.htm\">core belief <\/a>that love involves being criticised<\/strong>. Without realising this backwards motivation, you would encourage your partner and friends to criticise you so that you felt loved.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Or it could be that you were the recipient of criticism as a child.<\/strong> Perhaps your mother or father constantly made comments about your behaviour or looks, or compared you to another sibling unfavourably. <strong>This gives you the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-change-your-core-beliefs.htm\">core belief <\/a>that you actually deserve to be criticised<\/strong>, which means you would constantly create situations in life that &#8216;prove&#8217; this hidden belief to be true.<\/p>\n<h2>Is it such a big deal to be criticised all the time?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Yes. Criticism, even if you are unconsciously encouraging it, destroys<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/self-esteem-help-guide.htm\"> self-esteem<\/a>.<\/strong> Low self-esteem is a leading cause of<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-does-therapy-help-anxiety.htm\"> anxiety<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/depression-help-guide.htm\">depression<\/a>. It makes doing well in your career difficult, can see you constantly choosing <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/leave-unhappy-relationship.htm\">unhealthy relationships<\/a>, and can also encourage<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/addiction-help-guide.htm\"> addictive behaviours<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>In summary, it&#8217;s impossible to lead a healthy, happy life if you are<\/strong> constantly focused on what is wrong with you and never seeing what is right.<\/p>\n<h2>Constant Criticism, or Verbal Abuse?<\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">It&#8217;s very important to not convince yourself you are responsible for criticism if you are in fact the victim of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/emotionally-abusive-relationships.htm\">verbal abuse<\/a>. Blaming the victim, including for being too sensitive, is a tactic of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-a-narcissist.htm\">abusers<\/a>. <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Criticism goes wrong and isn&#8217;t constructive when it&#8217;s given from a place of just pointing out the negatives. But even if you feel judged and annoyed, on a certain level you know the other person genuinely wants to help you improve things.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Verbal abuse, on the other hand, has no intention of helping you improve or change. <\/strong>Also called &#8217;emotional abuse&#8217;, it happens when one person wants to have power over you and puts you down in order to have control. You won&#8217;t just feel judged &#8211; you&#8217;ll feel fear. It&#8217;s that feeling of &#8216;walking on eggshells&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Verbal abuse is a very serious situation.<\/strong> If you worry you are a victim, it&#8217;s important you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/low-self-esteem-counselling-london.htm\">seek support to regain your confidence<\/a> and make steps to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>Can therapy help me to avoid constant criticism in relationships?<\/h2>\n<p>It can. A good counsellor or psychotherapist will help you build your self-esteem and <strong>recognise your patterns of blocking positive feedback from others.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you are actually helping create criticism in your <a href=\"\/online-relationship-counselling.htm\">relationships therapy<\/a><strong> can help you revolutionise your relationships. <\/strong>You can start to understand and get along with colleagues, improve your social life, and might even find all new ways of relating with your partner that see you feeling in love again instead of moving towards a<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/getting-over-a-breakup.htm\"> breakup<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #808080;\">Harley Therapy connects you with experienced counsellors and psychotherapists in three London locations, as well as worldwide via <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/online-counselling-psychologists.htm\">Online Therapy<\/a>.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">_________________________________________________________________________<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-thumbnail wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-e1675110089673-150x150.png\" alt=\"Andrea M. 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