{"id":49164,"date":"2017-12-19T11:00:46","date_gmt":"2017-12-19T11:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=49164"},"modified":"2023-03-10T15:02:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-10T15:02:18","slug":"feeling-suicidal-or-like-self-harming-techniques-to-stop-distress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-suicidal-or-like-self-harming-techniques-to-stop-distress.htm","title":{"rendered":"Feeling Suicidal or Like Self-Harming? Techniques to Stop Distress"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_49169\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/16298650625_ff57cb9f9c-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-49169\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-49169\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/16298650625_ff57cb9f9c-2-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"feeling suicidal \" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/16298650625_ff57cb9f9c-2-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/16298650625_ff57cb9f9c-2.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-49169\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/m-a-r-t-i-n\/16298650625\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Martin Cooper<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333333;\"><strong>Is there anything at all you can do to<\/strong> help yourself climb out the hole when feeling <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/managing-suicidal-thoughts.htm\">suicidal?<\/a> Or when <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/rise-in-self-harming.htm\">self-harming <\/a>thoughts hit?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>How to stop feeling suicidal<\/h2>\n<p>Many, many people experience suicidal thinking,<strong> and it does <em>not<\/em> mean you are hopeless or flawed.<\/strong> It just means your mind is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/feeling-overwhelmed-with-life.htm\">overwhelmed<\/a> and you&#8217;ve dealt with a lot.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #333333;\">Recognise that you are not your thoughts<\/span><\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">All those crazy, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/rumination-anxiety.htm\">destructive thoughts in your head<\/a>? <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><em>They are not who you are<\/em>.<\/span> They are just <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/negative-thinking.htm\">negative thoughts<\/a><\/span>. And you are not your thoughts, you are something bigger.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>Take a moment to repeat that a few times and feel into it.<\/strong> Say it out loud if it helps. \u201cI am not my thoughts.\u201d And breathe deeply, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/present-moment-secret-better-mood.htm\">focusing on the now moment<\/a>. Can you feel a sense of space between your thoughts and something else, another &#8216;you&#8217;?<\/p>\n<h2>Shift your perspective if you are feeling suicidal<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Not sure you can believe you are not your thoughts? Or even your actions? If you were suddenly<\/strong> handed a million pounds, all yours, no question asked, and told you could have an entirely new identity and start again? Would you still be thinking what you are thinking right now?<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">What just happened there was what is called a <a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-perspective.htm\">perspective shift<\/a>. In this moment, you are stuck in a harsh perspective. But it is not who you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>Learn the power of TIPP skills<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333333;\"><strong>The next few techniques are about <\/strong><em>shocking you out of your overwhelming emotions<\/em>. They might sound weird at first.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333333;\"><strong>But if you can even manage to do <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">one<\/span> when you feel suicidal or like <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/rise-in-self-harming.htm\">self harming<\/a>, it can help. These are based on &#8220;TIPP skills&#8221;\u00a0 for managing distress that form part of <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a style=\"color: #333333; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/dialectical-behaviour-therapy-london.htm\">dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)<\/a><\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>The idea is to<em> create a brief window away from your intense pain<\/em>, so that <\/strong>you can focus enough to use <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-cope-life-is-crazy.htm\">coping techniques<\/a> that offer longer results and push you farther out of your distressed thinking. You might be able, for example, to have enough energy to call that friend.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">TIPP skills is an acronym for<strong> <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">T<\/span><\/strong>emperature of your face, <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">I<\/span><\/strong>ntense aerobic exercise, <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">P<\/span><\/strong>aced Breathing, and <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">P<\/span><\/strong>aired Muscle relaxation.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">1. Cold water and ice.<\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_49180\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5899588828_68c3c48c72-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-49180\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-49180\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5899588828_68c3c48c72-1-400x267.jpg\" alt=\"feeling suicidal\" width=\"400\" height=\"267\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5899588828_68c3c48c72-1-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5899588828_68c3c48c72-1.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/5899588828_68c3c48c72-1-180x120.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-49180\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/31403417@N00\/5899588828\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">kizzzbeth<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>Cold showers and ice baths have<\/strong> become popular anxiety techniques due to Wim Hof the &#8216;Ice Man&#8217; and his <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/hormetic-stress-can-it-actually-improve-your-mental-health.htm\">hormetic stress tools<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But don&#8217;t worry, you don&#8217;t have to <\/strong>immerse yourself in ice!<\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s been found that cold water on your face combined with holding your breath<\/strong> (triggering the &#8216;human dive reflex&#8217;) is itself enough to lower emotional arousal and make you feel back in charge of yourself again.<\/p>\n<p><em>Simply hold your breath and dunk your face in a sink of cold water for between 30 and 60 seconds. You don\u2019t want the water to be so cold it hurts, just cold enough to feel shocking. You might need to do it a few times. <span style=\"color: #333333;\">(<\/span><\/em><span style=\"color: #333333;\"><em>*Note that this technique has a powerful enough affect on your body it\u2019s not recommended if you have a heart condition or are physically weak).<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Some people find that holding ice cubes can be just as effective, and can distract from the <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/rise-in-self-harming.htm\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">urge to self-harm<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><em>If you feel you are going to self-harm, grab some ice cubes in a Ziploc or wrapped in paper towels and hold them in your hand. The intense sensation becomes a stand in for the escapist sensation of self harm, helping the desire pass.<\/em><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">2. Breathe from the gut.<\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_49181\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/133553211_6b1976f7f5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-49181\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-49181\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/133553211_6b1976f7f5-400x300.jpg\" alt=\"suicidal feeling \" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/133553211_6b1976f7f5-400x300.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/133553211_6b1976f7f5.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-49181\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/amyrod1\/133553211\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">A Rod<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>Breathe from your diaphragm<\/strong> ( put a hand on your bellybutton, and aim to make your hand rise and fall).<\/p>\n<p><strong>You want to start taking long, slow, deep breaths, <\/strong>and your out breath can be longer than the in breath.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Count in your head so that<\/strong> you reach a pattern, such as four counts in, eight counts out, four counts in, eight counts out. This is called &#8220;Paced Breathing&#8221; in DBT.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">It might feel boring. Keep going. If you can do this for up to ten minutes or so, you\u2019ll feel real results. Remember, you are creating a window here, where you can feel a tiny glimmer of yourself beneath your suicidal or self-harming urge.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>If you can, pull up<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/guided-visualisation-therapy-can-make-feel-better.htm\">an image of something that is positive in your mind<\/a>, even if it\u2019s silly, like a kitten or puppy or field of flowers. Try to think about it as much as you can as you do this breathing. Be careful here. Only use a neutral image, not someone who you love but who upsets you.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">3. Travel from the mind to the body.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Get away from your churning thoughts with a bit of body-based <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/mindfulness-help-guide.htm\">mindfulness<\/a>. <\/strong>Put your attention on your feet. Just really notice that your feet are fully on the ground. Stamp them a bit. How does it feel?\u00a0Focus on your feet or another body part for as long as it feels good and brings you any peace.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Or, you might want to slowly but surely put your attention on each bit of your body,<\/strong> working upwards from your feet, or down from your head (this is called a &#8216;body scan&#8217; in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mindfulness-techniques.htm\">mindfulness<\/a>).<\/p>\n<p><strong>Another proven technique used by DBT to get\u00a0 you out of distress is around muscle work, called <\/strong>&#8216;paired muscle relaxation&#8217;. Basically, it involves clenching then releasing all your major muscle groups while breathing in and out.<\/p>\n<p><em>A very simplified start here can be to repetitively clench your hands as tight as you can into fists while breathing in, then relaxing your hands fully open, breathing out.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333333;\">[<strong>Read our article on<\/strong> <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/release-muscle-tension.htm\">progressive muscle relaxation<\/a> <\/span>to try a full sequence &#8211; it&#8217;s proven by science to leave you feeling relaxed and better.]<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">4. Move it on out when feeling suicidal.<\/span><\/h3>\n<div id=\"attachment_49182\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/34789086373_114f89d8a2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-49182\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-49182\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/34789086373_114f89d8a2-400x250.jpg\" alt=\"feeling suicidal\" width=\"400\" height=\"250\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/34789086373_114f89d8a2-400x250.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/34789086373_114f89d8a2.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-49182\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/adammcguffie\/34789086373\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Adam McGuffie<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p>If you jump up and down, put music on and force yourself to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/dance-movement-psychotherapy.htm\">dance<\/a> through an entire song? Or can manage to put one foot in front of the other and walk around the block a few times?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/exercise-and-depression-does-it-really-help.htm\">body chemistry<\/a> will fight back long enough to give you a slight lift <\/strong>so that your other ways of coping can work.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ideally, you need to keep up the exercise for 20 minutes.<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Again, don\u2019t take our word for it, try it. Dialectical behaviour therapy calls this \u201cIntense <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/exercise-and-depression-does-it-really-help.htm\">Exercise<\/a>\u201d. Getting your heart rate up to 70% the recommended intensity for your age is shown to increase positive emotions.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Read our piece on &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-exercise-more.htm\">How to exercise even if you are depressed<\/a>&#8216; for more on exercise and mood.<\/p>\n<p>[And note that it&#8217;s important to use music that is upbeat and makes you feel good. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/music-and-mental-health.htm\">Sad music is shown to have a negative effect on mood<\/a>.]<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #993366;\">5. Call the right person.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Using the body-based techniques above, you have created a gap between you and your distress big enough to take a more powerful action against your destructive thoughts. You know the best one already&#8230; <strong>reach out.<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div id=\"attachment_49183\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6321527653_23dfb6130e.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-49183\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-49183\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6321527653_23dfb6130e-400x266.jpg\" alt=\"suicidal feelings \" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6321527653_23dfb6130e-400x266.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6321527653_23dfb6130e.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6321527653_23dfb6130e-180x120.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-49183\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/photoloni\/6321527653\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Alon<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>If you know someone you trust to help, and you now feel enough energy and drive to call them? Do it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/stop-overthinking.htm\">overthink<\/a> it, just call or text.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Of course don\u2019t call anyone who might<\/strong> make you feel worse or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/nobody-understands-me.htm\">not understand<\/a>. Put yourself first here.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">If you are desperate to talk to someone, but just don\u2019t have someone to trust, <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/mental-health-helpline.htm\"><em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">do call a hotline<\/span><\/em><\/a>.<\/strong> Don\u2019t feel weird about it. Millions of people call these hotlines each year. That\u2019s what they are there for. Don\u2019t feel it\u2019s not manly, either. Reaching out for help is a strong thing to do, and there is a hotline in the UK just for men (listed below). The trained listeners on the other end of the line are happy to talk to you. They are there because they want to be. They want to help you. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/calling-a-mental-health-crisis-line.htm\">Just call<\/a>.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #333333;\">And you know what we say now\u2026<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>If you really feel you are going to hurt yourself, or someone else, please<\/strong>, do use emergency services. You can go to any hospital A&amp;E department, or call 999 for an ambulance (or get someone else to call 999 for you). If you don&#8217;t want to go to the hospital, you can also call <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nhs.uk\/nhs-services\/urgent-and-emergency-care-services\/when-to-use-111\/\">NHS emergency services at 111<\/a>. NHS 111 is open 24 hours a day, every day of the year, and it&#8217;s free to call from any type of phone.<\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #800080;\">Hotlines to call if you feel suicidal in the UK<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.samaritans.org\/\">Samaritans<\/a>\u00a0(116 123)<\/strong>\u00a0 &#8211;\u00a0 This hotline is open 24-hours a day, 365 days a year. If you hate talking on the phone or don&#8217;t have privacy you can email them at &#x6a;&#111;&#64;&#x73;&#x61;ma&#x72;&#x69;ta&#x6e;&#115;.&#x6f;&#x72;&#103; and get a response that way.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sane.org.uk\/what_we_do\/support\/helpline\">SANEline <\/a>(0300 304 7000).\u00a0<\/strong>This is a national after-hours hotline open from 4:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m., 3645 days a year.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.childline.org.uk\/\"><strong>Childline\u00a0(0800 1111)<\/strong><\/a> &#8211; This hotline is for you <strong>if you are a kid or even a teen<\/strong>. You can call it, and the number won&#8217;t show up on the phone bill, so nobody in your family needs to know. You can also <a href=\"https:\/\/www.childline.org.uk\/get-support\/1-2-1-counsellor-chat\/\">go to their site to have a online chat<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.papyrus-uk.org\/hopelineuk\/\">HOPELineUK<\/a> (0800 068 41 41)<\/strong> &#8211; this is a hotline <strong>just for teens and people under 35\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0who are feeling suicidal. It&#8217;s open 10am to 10pm weekdays and 2pm to 10pm weekends and holidays.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thecalmzone.net\/\">CALM <\/a>(0800 58 58 58)<\/strong> (Campaign Against Living Miserably) &#8211; this is for you if you are a <strong>young man<\/strong> feeling depressed. They are open for calls from 5 to midnight, all year round.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesilverline.org.uk\/\"><strong>The Silver Line<\/strong><\/a> <strong>(0800 4 708090)<\/strong> This is a <strong>charity for older people<\/strong> that provides advice and friendly chats 24 hours a day, every day of the year.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nightline.ac.uk\/want-to-talk\/\">Nightline<\/a><\/strong> is a website for students, and connects yo to your university or college&#8217;s night-time listening service. You&#8217;ll be talking to other students who understand what you are going through.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\"><strong>Sometimes feel suicidal? Stop living a half-life. Reach out for proper support. Harley Therapy connects you with experienced and kind <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/mood-disorders.htm\">counsellors and psychotherapists<\/a> in central London. Or use our sister site to find <a href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists\">affordable therapists across the UK<\/a>, and you don\u2019t even need to leave the house, as many offer online counselling.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><strong><em>Do you want to share your story about surviving feeling suicidal with our readers? Use the public comment box below.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-117271 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/headshot-yellow-397x400.png\" alt=\"Andrea Blundell\" width=\"154\" height=\"155\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amdarcy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Andrea M. Darcy<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0is a mental health writer and mentor and currently the editor and lead writer of this site. She has experienced suicidal thinking since adolescence and knows these techniques help. Find her on <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/AndreaMDarcy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Twitter<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/amdarcy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Linkedin<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Is there anything at all you can do to help yourself climb out the hole when feeling suicidal? Or when self-harming thoughts hit?\u00a0\u00a0 How to stop feeling suicidal Many, many people experience suicidal thinking, and it does not mean you are hopeless or flawed. 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