{"id":7665,"date":"2014-07-08T11:00:02","date_gmt":"2014-07-08T10:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=7665"},"modified":"2022-10-26T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-10-26T11:00:00","slug":"child-being-bullied","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/child-being-bullied.htm","title":{"rendered":"Is Your Child Being Bullied? What You Can Do"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"2512997167_0b7de2056b_o\"<\/a> No parent wants to hear that their child is being bullied.<\/strong> Sadly, though, it is far from a rare experience among young people in the UK.<\/p>\n

The statistics are sobering. Almost half of children and young adults claim they have been bullied at school at some point in their lives, and between 2011 and 2012 the charity Childline received over 30,000 bullying-related calls.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a parent, you can feel helpless, made worse if your child does not want to talk about what they are going through.<\/strong> It’s good to know the real facts about bullying and what you can do to assist a child being bullied.<\/p>\n

What childhood bullying is (and what it isn\u2019t)<\/h3>\n

Bullying is generally understood as repeated behaviour which is designed to hurt someone either physically or emotionally, <\/strong>although there is no legal definition at present. Bullying includes physical assault, name-calling, exclusion from social situations, spreading rumours, or making threats.<\/p>\n

Bullying is not a normal part of growing up. <\/strong>The effects of bullying can be very severe and carry on for years. This can include depression<\/a>, anxiety<\/a>, loss of self-esteem<\/a>, and even suicidal thoughts. A recent study by King\u2019s College London showed that the impact of bullying can be seen up to four decades after the incidents took place.<\/p>\n

Bullying is not something a child can deal with alone.<\/strong> It is important for parents and other adults to take bullying seriously. If your child tells you they are being bullied, the first thing to do is listen carefully and let them tell you what happened in their own words.<\/p>\n

Bullying is not predictable.<\/strong> Anyone can be a victim of bullying. There are as many different kinds of victim (and bully) as there are different kinds of people. Try not to get hung up on figuring out the reasons if you find out about your child being bullied. It is more important that they know you are there for them and will help them to figure things out.<\/p>\n

What is cyber bulling?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

38 per cent of young people have been affected by cyber-bullying. <\/em><\/p>\n

\"cyber<\/a>Cyber-bullying is any kind of harassment or intimidation which occurs in an online space.<\/strong> This could involve sending someone abusive messages, distributing personal information or using it to blackmail someone, sending inappropriate pictures or spreading rumours, and identity theft.<\/p>\n

Cyber-bullying is just as serious as bullying which happens offline.<\/strong> Tragically, some young people have committed suicide because they haven\u2019t seen a way out of the non-stop intimidation, abuse and harassment which has happened online. Sadly, the fact that many websites allow people to post anonymously makes it is easy for bullies to carry out attacks and at the same time very difficult to stop cyber bullying.<\/p>\n

The motivation for cyber-bullying is the same as for face-to-face bullying.<\/strong> People become cyber-bullies because they have their own problems and it makes them feel better to hurt someone else. A key difference is that cyber-bullying can easily be achieved anonymously. It is easier to send someone a nasty message rather than say something to someone\u2019s face. The bully many not realise the consequences of their actions straight away.<\/p>\n

Cyber bullying can affect children who don’t even use the internet.<\/strong> Even if someone chooses not to use social media, they can still be affected by bullies. There is a type of cyber-bullying which involves distributing someone else\u2019s information or photographs and writing fake comments, profiles and blogs. You child might be tormented and teased by others over content about themselves they haven’t even seen.<\/p>\n

Cyber bullying can be even more challenging than regular bullying for parents to understand.<\/strong> Cyber-bullying is a relatively new problem for young people, and its on a platform that is constantly changing (the internet and social media). A lot of parents aren’t even users of the sites their child is being bullied over. Parents will need to educate themselves, such as looking into whether the web platform being used allows reporting harassment or blocks users.<\/p>\n

Why do children feel they can\u2019t tell their parents about being bullied?<\/h3>\n

According to government reports, 18 per cent of children and young people choose not to talk to their parents about bullying. <\/em><\/p>\n

\"help<\/a>

By: Eddie~S<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

There are a number of reasons why children do not tell their parents they are being bullied.<\/strong><\/p>\n