{"id":82690,"date":"2018-03-20T11:00:54","date_gmt":"2018-03-20T11:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=82690"},"modified":"2023-03-06T12:38:40","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T12:38:40","slug":"generous-person-or-over-giver","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/generous-person-or-over-giver.htm","title":{"rendered":"Generous Person, or\u00a0Over-Giver? Always Gift-Giving?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Being a generous person is one thing. But what about when we give too much or our time and energy? Or are always indulging in, say, excessive gift-giving?<\/p>\n

Generous person or over-giver?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

It is really a question of our intent<\/em> when it comes to giving.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Real giving is\u00a0done from a place of true <\/strong>generosity and because we have an excess of something to offer (time, support, energy). It tends to be\u00a0an impulse we don’t have to\u00a0overthink. And the giving leaves us feeling good and energised.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Over-giving tends to come not from generosity, but from hidden\u00a0need<\/em>.It is an energetic transaction where we expect a return, even if that is just praise,\u00a0 appreciation, or to stop feeling guilty<\/span><\/a>. And when we give too much, we feel depleted<\/span><\/a>, not energised. We might even feel annoyed at ourselves or with the other person.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The psychology of excessive gift giving<\/h2>\n

So\u00a0when we\u00a0over-give, we are\u00a0generally\u00a0giving because we are:\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n