{"id":88202,"date":"2018-04-26T11:13:40","date_gmt":"2018-04-26T10:13:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=88202"},"modified":"2023-03-13T16:06:36","modified_gmt":"2023-03-13T16:06:36","slug":"what-is-reparenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-reparenting.htm","title":{"rendered":"What is Reparenting?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_88204\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/24086703518_7913da3d04.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-88204\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-88204\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/24086703518_7913da3d04-400x254.jpg\" alt=\"what is reparenting\" width=\"400\" height=\"254\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/24086703518_7913da3d04-400x254.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/24086703518_7913da3d04.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-88204\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/damonbowe\/24086703518\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">ROSE PHYSICAL THERAPY GROUP<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Did you have a parent who struggled to give you the unconditional love and safety you needed as a child?<\/p>\n<p>Do you find that now, as an adult, you have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/healthy-relationships-help-guide.htm\">difficult relationships<\/a>? Or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/trusting-others-hard.htm\">struggle to trust others<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Reparenting might be a therapy tool for you.<\/p>\n<p><em>*Note that this article refers to psychotherapeutic reparenting, not any &#8216;alternative&#8217; treatment involving a client being coddled and asked to act like an infant.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>What is reparenting?<\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Reparenting (also called &#8216;limited reparenting&#8217;) refers to your psychotherapist taking the role of a concerned and trustworthy parent so that you can learn w<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/authentic-relationships.htm\">hat a trusting relationship is like<\/a>.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>It is based on the belief that many psychological issues stem from a child growing up without his or her needs being met<\/strong>. The child is not helped to feel secure and unconditionally loved and develops an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/attachment-styles.htm\">insecure &#8216;attachment&#8217;<\/a>. So they grow\u00a0 up to be an adult who can\u2019t navigate relationships and life as well as they should.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #993366;\">Reparenting is of course done within the boundaries of professionalism and the therapy room. It\u2019s not as if your therapist is going to be checking up on you, or as if you are to act like a child outside of your therapy sessions!<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>The benefits of reparenting<\/h2>\n<p>Reparenting creates a safe experience for you to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>be vulnerable<\/li>\n<li>learn about your hidden needs and how to get them met<\/li>\n<li>be confrontational without <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/abandonment-issues.htm\">being abandoned<\/a><\/li>\n<li>feel supported<\/li>\n<li>finally experience a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/attachment-theory-bowlby.htm\">secure attachment<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-trust.htm\">learn to trust<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How is a therapist who uses reparenting different than other therapists?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Traditionally, a<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/psychodynamic-approach.htm\"> psychotherapist<\/a> remains neutral in his or her relationship with you.<\/strong> They do not encourage you to depend on them or become emotionally attached. They encourage you to learn to take responsibility for and manage your thoughts and feelings yourself.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_88206\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-88206\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-88206\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6257970819_6dea25076c-1-400x266.jpg\" alt=\"what is reparenting\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6257970819_6dea25076c-1-400x266.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6257970819_6dea25076c-1.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6257970819_6dea25076c-1-180x120.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-88206\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/daverugby83\/6257970819\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Davidlohr Bueso<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>A therapist who practices reparenting will instead allow and encourage you to be dependent on them.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0They will be in turn nurturing and firm.<\/p>\n<h2>What is reparenting helpful for?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>The reparenting approach is particularly helpful for<\/strong> any sort of psychological issue that arises from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-are-adverse-childhood-experiences-aces.htm\">a childhood where you needs were not met<\/a> or you experienced <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-childhood-trauma.htm\">childhood trauma<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>This includes:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/personality-disorder-a-help-guide.htm\">personality disorders<\/a> like<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/compassion-for-borderline-personality-disorder.htm\"> borderline personality disorder<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/attachment-theory-bowlby.htm\">attachment issues<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/quiz-stressed-or-depressed\">depression<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-trust.htm\">trust issues<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/were-you-sexually-abused-as-a-child.htm\">child abuse<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/find-a-relationship-what-therapy-helps.htm\">relationship problems<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/self-esteem-help-guide.htm\">low self-esteem<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/anger-management-help-guide.htm\">anger management issues<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Note that you do not have to have had an obviously traumatic childhood to benefit from reparenting.<\/strong> Things like having an aloof parent, extremely stressed parent, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/helicopter-parenting.htm\">a controlling parent<\/a>, a parent who disciplines harshly, or a parent with mental illness can all lead to a child not feeling secure.<\/p>\n<h2>But I don&#8217;t want to blame my parents<\/h2>\n<p>Reparenting is not about<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/blame.htm\"> blaming your parents<\/a>. Yes, working through your issues in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/difference-between-psychotherapy-and-counselling.htm\">psychotherapy or counselling<\/a> can mean you experience <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/repressed-anger.htm\">feelings of anger<\/a> and<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/why-we-put-the-blame-on-others.htm\"> blame<\/a> towards the people your parents once were.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But you might also at some point develop<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/sympathy-and-empathy.htm\">empathy<\/a> for your parents. The more you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-listen-to-yourself.htm\">understand yourself<\/a>, the more you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/understanding-people.htm\">understand other people<\/a>, including your mother and father. You might, for example, begin to realise that they themselves were not parented well and have simply passed on what they learned.<\/p>\n<h2>Why do I need reparenting?<\/h2>\n<div id=\"attachment_88207\" style=\"width: 407px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6697132255_c03c97f1a4-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-88207\" class=\"size-full wp-image-88207\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/wp-content\/uploads\/6697132255_c03c97f1a4-2.jpg\" alt=\"reparenting \" width=\"397\" height=\"303\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-88207\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">By: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/74285857@N05\/6697132255\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer\" \">Mic445<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<p><strong>If our needs are not met as a child, we learn to see the world and ourselves in ways that help us cope.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>While these <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/good-coping-skills.htm\">coping mechanisms<\/a> might work to get us through childhood, they can be far from helpful as an adult.<\/p>\n<p><strong>For example, if in childhood an adult we trust leaves our life, we can be <\/strong>overwhelmed by feelings of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/fear-of-abandonment.htm\">abandonment<\/a>. We might cope as a child by\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-counterdependency.htm\">keeping our thoughts and feelings to ourselves<\/a>. As an adult, this can mean we push and pull in relationships, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-counterdependency.htm\">avoid relationships altogether<\/a> and are<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/how-to-overcome-loneliness.htm\"> lonely<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>So how would reparenting help you?<\/h2>\n<p>Going back to the client with abandonment issues. How might your therapist &#8216;reparent&#8217; someone who felt abandoned?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your therapist would<\/strong> first of all be reliable, stable, and not disappear. You would discuss this commitment between you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>When things like the therapist going on vacation come up, you will be encouraged to confront the therapist with your feelings<\/strong> of abandonment instead of pretend things are fine or overreact like you are used to. Together you would look at ways you can handle what you feel without overreacting, and your therapist can give you guidance, like a good parent.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you resorted to being mean towards your therapist, he or she would<\/strong> be very firm with you.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Your therapist will, however, make it clear that they will not judge you or pull away from you for acting out, much like a good parent doesn&#8217;t judge or abandon a child for being upset.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>Your therapist would let you depend on their support as you experience trusting someone to be there.<\/strong> The idea is, like a child who starts venturing out more and more into the world when they know the parent is there, you become more independent, and start to create relationships in the world with others you can trust. With time you need the therapist less and less.<\/p>\n<h2>But doesn&#8217;t the therapist then have power over me?<\/h2>\n<p><strong>While it might sound odd to be \u2018reparented\u2019, it can help to see it as a relationship role over someone having any sort of power over you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We all have the ability to act as a \u2018parent\u2019. One model of approach is that each individual has an inner child, an adult, and a parent side. So really, with reparenting, you are taking a role too.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">You are being the child and the therapist is being the parent so that you can learn to get your needs met. When you leave the therapy room, you both go back to adult \u2018mode\u2019.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>What sorts of therapy use reparenting?<\/h2>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/what-is-schema-therapy.htm\">Schema therapy<\/a> is the type of therapy most known for limited reparenting.<\/strong> You are taught to reach what is called your &#8216;Vulnerable Child Mode&#8217;, with your therapist firmly stopping you from going into your patterns of avoiding being vulnerable. You also work with your Angry Child Mode, learning<a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/anger-management-help-guide.htm\"> how to manage your anger<\/a> in ways that are constructive over destructive.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong><span style=\"color: #993366;\">Harley Therapy connects you with psychotherapists offering <a href=\"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/schema-therapy-london.htm\">schema therapy in central London<\/a> locations. Not in London? <a style=\"color: #993366;\" href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/?utm_source=Harley%20Therapy%20Blog&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\">Try our new platform<\/a>, where you can <a style=\"color: #993366;\" href=\"https:\/\/harleytherapy.com\/therapists?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_source=harleytherapy.co.uk&amp;utm_content=Post%20End\">book online therapists<\/a> and phone therapists wherever you are.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em><strong>Still have a question about &#8216;what is reparenting&#8217;? Or want to share your experience of reparenting? Post in the comment box below.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Andrea M. Darcy Did you have a parent who struggled to give you the unconditional love and safety you needed as a child? Do you find that now, as an adult, you have difficult relationships? Or struggle to trust others? 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