{"id":99743,"date":"2018-08-16T11:00:27","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T10:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/?p=99743"},"modified":"2022-05-16T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2022-05-16T11:00:00","slug":"be-yourself-around-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harleytherapy.co.uk\/counselling\/be-yourself-around-others.htm","title":{"rendered":"How Can You Be Yourself Around Others?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By: tup wanders<\/p><\/div>\n

by Andrea M. Darcy<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you wish you could be yourself<\/a> around others but can’t seem to stop acting? Do you laugh at jokes you don\u2019t find funny, agree to things you don\u2019t want to do<\/a>, say things you regret<\/a> and don\u2019t even mean?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Why am I not myself around others?<\/span><\/h2>\n

It can come from the way we were parented. Sometimes our<\/strong> parents, for various reasons, were unable to provide us with the consistent love, acceptance and trust we needed. <\/span>Instead we were left to try to win their love by being \u2018good\u2019, \u2018quiet\u2019, \u2018smart\u2019, etcetera. <\/span><\/p>\n

This means we grow up into an adult who continues this pattern<\/strong>. We change ourselves to match those around us<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

It can also be that our parents themselves modelled this way of being<\/strong> to us. They had one personality at home, and another depending on the company they were in.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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How Can I Be Myself Around Others?\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

1.Work to learn how you think and feel. <\/span><\/h3>\n

Half the reason most of us can\u2019t be ourselves around others is that deep down we are not really sure who we really are<\/a>. We\u2019ve spent too much of our life shifting ourselves to match what others want.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Commit to getting to know yourself. <\/strong>\u00a0Journalling<\/a> is a great place to start. It can help you identify your personal values<\/a>, the things you deeply care about. <\/span><\/p>\n

Asking good questions<\/a> is another great tool. Make a list of all the things you spend your time time doing. Do you really like these things? Or are you just doing them as you learned you ‘should’ like them? What new things would you like to try instead? <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Learn mindfulness.<\/span><\/h3>\n
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By: Eddy Pula<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

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Now used by many therapists in client work, mindfulness is one of the best modern tools<\/a> for getting to know how you think and feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mindfulness<\/a> is a technique that brings you out of your head, away from your spinning thoughts, and into the present moment<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Read our free, easy-to-read “Guide to Mindfulness<\/a>“. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Drop assumptions.<\/span> <\/span><\/h3>\n

Most of the time, when we are acting in ways that are not who we really are<\/strong>, it\u2019s because we\u2019ve made assumptions<\/a> about the other person. <\/span><\/p>\n

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We assume they are smarter than us, more interesting, better. We assume we must change ourselves to gain their approval. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

What if they are as insecure as you?<\/strong> Have their own problems, beneath their seeming confidence<\/a>? Would you try so hard to be interesting then? <\/span><\/p>\n

And what if by being yourself it would be a huge relief for him or her, as they would then feel more free to be themselves, too? <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Recognise that you are enough. <\/span><\/h3>\n

At the root of the low self-esteem<\/a> that sees us unable to relax and be ourselves is the idea that somehow we are not enough. We are not smart enough, interesting enough, pretty enough, or fun enough to be liked as we are. <\/span><\/p>\n

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What if you were? Keep asking yourself that question. What if you are enough just as you are? <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Self-compassion<\/a> is another way to raise your self-esteem. Each time you hear your thoughts criticising or putting you down, ask yourself, would I speak to a friend like that? What if I treated myself the way I would treat a best friend?<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Consider who you are spending time with. <\/span><\/h3>\n
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By: m01229<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

Here\u2019s another angle to the entire \u2018never myself\u2019 conundrum. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are you hanging around people who know how to accept and encourage others, or are you choosing to be around critical, demanding types?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

The trap here is that when we have low self-esteem, we tend to have a core belief<\/a> that we don\u2019t deserve to be treated well.<\/p>\n

The result?<\/p>\n

We unconsciously<\/a> choose to hang around with people who are not even that nice to us<\/strong>, thereby reinforcing our belief.<\/p>\n

Learn what healthy relationships<\/a> are like, and read our article, \u201cHow to Find Friends You Actually Like<\/a>\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Keep your eye on the prize. <\/span><\/h3>\n

When we make our first efforts to fully be ourselves around other people it can feel scary. They might not always<\/strong> react they way we hope for. Perhaps they are used to us being pleasing<\/a> and doing what they want. We might lose some friends, even.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just keep reminding yourself what you are gaining by being yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

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They more you are your real self, the more you are making yourself attractive to people you actually have real things in common with, who will actually enjoy your company. The more you hang around with people who actually like the real you, the less energy you waste \u2018acting\u2019 or panicking. You will feel less stressed<\/a>, and your self-worth will ratchet.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

7. Seek support.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

If you really struggle to be yourself, and want to solve this problem faster, then it’s a very good idea to seek some support.<\/strong> A counsellor or psychotherapist<\/a> can provide a safe, confidential environment to identify why you can’t relax around other people. Together you can try out new ways of relating<\/a>, and you will be supported in then taking these new ways of being and behaving into your relationships and social life.<\/p>\n

Harley Therapy connects you with some of London’s top therapists in central London locations. Not in London or even the UK? Our new sister site harleytherapy.com<\/a> provides affordable therapy across the UK and online sessions no matter where you live in the world. Book now<\/a> and be talking to someone as soon as tomorrow.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Have a question about how to be yourself around others? Want to share your experience or have a tip? Use the comment box below.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"AndreaAndrea M. Darcy<\/strong> grew up in a home where you were not allowed to be yourself, so she understands deeply what it’s like to have this issue. She left a career as a screenwriter to devote herself to personal development, and is now an established psychology writer.<\/a>\u00a0Find her @am_darcy<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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