When Parenthood Feels Lonely: Support and Advice from a Psychologist

Feeling Isolated as a New Parent? You’re Not Alone – And There Are Ways Through It

Becoming a parent is life-changing. Whether you’re a single parent, at home full-time, or frequently managing solo while your partner is away, the adjustment can be overwhelming. Many new parents find themselves feeling isolated, especially when it seems like friends have moved on or you’re missing out on the social life you once enjoyed.

You might feel guilty for struggling or wonder if these feelings mean you’re not a good parent. But the truth is: what you’re feeling is completely normal. So many others are going through the same thing, even if they don’t talk about it.

The good news? There are steps you can take to feel more connected and supported. Here are some helpful ways to ease the loneliness and find your feet again:

1. Join a Supportive Community

Connecting with other parents can be a lifeline. Look for local playgroups, baby classes like water babies, parent meet-ups, or even groups run by local churches or community centres. When you share your experiences, fears, and small wins with others who get it, it can make all the difference.

Online communities like Netmums or Single Parent UK can also offer a sense of connection and support – especially during the early days.

2. Get Outside

Even a short walk can help lift your mood and break the cycle of cabin fever. Getting some fresh air and gentle exercise is not only good for your physical health but also your mental wellbeing. If you spot another parent in the park, try making eye contact and smiling – it might just lead to a chat, or even a new friendship.

3. Stay in Touch with Old Friends

Even if it feels like your friends have drifted, don’t be afraid to reach out. Invite them for coffee, a relaxed evening in, or a walk. They might be waiting for the right moment to reconnect and chances are, they’ve missed you too.

4. Try Something New

A creative or physical outlet can do wonders for your mental health. Whether it’s painting, writing, yoga or joining a local book club, engaging in something that’s just for you can help restore your sense of identity and purpose. Don’t underestimate the power of shared laughter; inviting a friend over for an at-home workout or craft night can be surprisingly uplifting.

By: Barry Silver

5. Start a Meaningful Connection

Consider writing letters to an old friend or finding a pen pal through an online network. There’s something lovely about receiving a handwritten note and it’s a great way to nurture friendships in a slower, more thoughtful way.

6. Keep a Journal

When you’re feeling low or anxious, writing down your thoughts can help you process them. A daily or weekly journal can also help you notice patterns, track progress and gain perspective over time.

7. Reach Out for Professional Support

If you’re feeling persistently low, anxious, or overwhelmed, it might be time to seek help from a professional. Therapy can offer a safe, non-judgemental space to explore how you’re feeling and help you regain your emotional balance. Postnatal depression and anxiety are more common than you might think—and highly treatable with the right support.

At Harley Therapy, experienced counsellors and psychotherapists are here to support you through the challenges of new parenthood. You don’t have to go through this alone.

You Are Not Alone

Adapting to parenthood takes time. If you haven’t made new friends yet, don’t give up – there are plenty of parents out there just like you, looking for connection. Whether you build support through local groups, online communities, hobbies, or professional help, small steps can make a big difference.

If you’re ready to talk to someone, we’re here.
Visit www.harleytherapy.co.uk to find the right therapist for you. London and Online appointments available.