Relationships Articles
by Andrea Blundell We are living through difficult and uncertain times. And this can mean we are all more sensitive than usual. How can you make sure a difference of opinion doesn’t ruin the friendships you’ve spent years nurturing? How to have a difference of opinion and stay friends It comes down to remembering what...
by Andrea Blundell A sexual encounter sees you the victim of stealthing. You are upset, but you didn’t catch an STI, you aren’t pregnant, so you decide the best thing is to just put it behind you. But it’s not always that easy. Stealthing can take a serious psychological toll we need to address. The...
Sometimes feel like you and your partner or spouse speak different languages, it’s just that hard to connect these days? While you might be…. different love languages, that is. What are ‘love languages’? The concept was created by American marriage counsellor Dr. Gary Chapman, when he began to notice that the advice he’d give to...
Wondering how to stop thinking about someone? And why is it you can’t stop thinking about them when they broke your heart, or made you crazy? Is there something wrong with me? You are far from alone in being unable to stop thinking about a romantic interest, ex friend, or crush. A research overview on...
by Andrea Blundell “The road to hell is paved with good intentions,” according to an unknown proverb. Would psychologists beg to differ? The meaning of intention What are we really talking about when we talk about our intentions? It refers to the reasons we do things. Of course our meaning for taking an action (intention),...
The word ‘respect’ gets thrown around a lot. But what does it really mean to show respect in relationships? “You don’t respect me” It’s a common way to shut someone down in a discussion or argument. “Yeah well you don’t respect me!” What we are really saying can be: I don’t feel listened to I...
Are you an ambitious sort? Then you get in a relationship, and your career dives or stalls? Or have you led your life on hold, waiting for someone else to inspire you? The Cinderella complex might be your problem. What is the Cinderella Complex? The Cinderella complex is a hidden desire to be saved. Deep...
by Andrea Blundell Pretend you want what you don’t, in order to get what you do? What is reverse psychology, really, and is it good or bad for our relationships? What is reverse psychology? At the heart of the concept is the assumption that most people don’t like being told what to do. So how...
Into casual sex, but then suffer from low moods? And wonder if your promiscuity and depression might be at all connected? Does casual sex affect your mood? It’s challenging for psychologists to study casual sex. They obviously have to rely on secondary reporting over actual observed experiments. And many of us either downplay our sexual...
Often feel frustrated? Or known for giving up or changing your mind? How to be more patient if it’s not your natural state of being? The art of patience Patience is the art of staying calm and waiting it out, even when we are frustrated or are facing obstacles. Having patience is desirable because it...
