Relationships Articles
You have probably heard it said many times that communication is key in relationships. But what does it really mean? How do you know what communication problem is causing you to struggle with partners, family, friends, and at work? And what unseen psychological issues might be driving those problems? [Really need help? Visit our sister...
Giving can be a great thing, with things like volunteering now shown to improve mental health. Giving too much in a relationship, on the other hand, is something else entirely. From doing everything for your children, never charging what you are worth, being the go-to person at work, or the free shoulder for everyone to...
Always feeling let down by others? Perhaps you explain it as ‘bad luck’ or ‘being too nice’. But if being let down is something that keeps happening in your life, then the common denominator is you. What behaviour might you unknowingly be playing out that actually creates a life where everyone lets you down? And how...
Do you have a secret fear of commitment? What is it that leaves you afraid to commit to relationships, when others seem to have no issue? And why is it so hard to get over commitment phobia? Is fear of commitment a psychological condition? Fearing commitment is not a psychological condition in and of itself. But...
Can we really be addicted to love? Absolutely. Although it’s our ideas of love that we are addicted to over real, sustainable love itself. If we are addicted to love our unhealthy thoughts and behaviours around love and romance start to control us. The result is a life of secrecy and shame. For more on what love...
Ask your friends, “should I end my relationship?”, and they’ll likely all have a strong viewpoint. But they are not you. Despite wanting the best for you, they are not living out your life and only see a part of it. A counsellor or psychotherapist, however, is impartial. So then what are the sort of questions...
How could love be addictive? Isn’t it supposed to be a good thing we all want? Love is a broad term. And the ways we throw around this term in modern day society aren’t always about love at all. This becomes very clear when it comes to what is referred to in psychology as ‘love addiction’. What...
Do you find yourself saying ‘it’s all my fault’ whenever something goes wrong? Do you live with an endless sense of guilt and shame? And blame yourself for every relationship conflict? The problem with deciding “it’s all my fault” Taking responsibility when we have chosen an action that upsets others can be a sign of...
In our previous article we discussed what judging others is all about. Why we do it, the benefits and pitfalls of judging people, and how we end up the sort of person who is always judgmental in the first place. The next question becomes, how to stop judging others all the time? How to Stop Judging Others ...
You can tell yourself it’s only something you do with close friends. It’s just a bit of humour, or ‘you don’t really mean it’. But deep down, most of us know that judging people isn’t a good idea. It’s as if something inside of us feels not quite right with each snide remark that leaves...
