Self Esteem Articles
by Victoria Stokes Social pressure can perhaps best be summed up in the iconic words uttered by Rachel in the first season of Friends. “Everyone I know is either getting married or getting pregnant or getting promoted, and I’m getting coffee! And it’s not even for me!” And the pressure can feel worse than ever...
Feel like nobody notices you at work or in social situations? Why are you always overlooked, and what can you do about it? Why don’t I make an impact? So why is it that we the sort who just never gets picked for things, or seems to make any sort of impact? See if the...
Feel like there is a mismatch between the body you are in and the person you actually are? And wonder, “What is gender dysphoria, and does it apply to me?”. What is gender? When we are born we are attributed a sex of ‘male’ or ‘female’, depending on our visible sexual organs. Gender is different...
Often wondered how other people seem to ‘daydream’ and visualise things in their heads? When you just draw a blank? You might have aphantasia. The definition of aphantasia So what is aphantasia? The majority of people have some capacity to conjure visuals in their mind, even if some are naturally better at it than others....
by Andrea Blundell Have the best of intentions? But terrible carry through? Why is it that some of us seem born with self-discipline, and the rest of us flounder? The holy grail of self-control Self-discipline, along with conscientiousness and perseverance, are a triad that form the ‘holy grail’ of self-control, a hot topic right across...
Are you an ambitious sort? Then you get in a relationship, and your career dives or stalls? Or have you led your life on hold, waiting for someone else to inspire you? The Cinderella complex might be your problem. What is the Cinderella Complex? The Cinderella complex is a hidden desire to be saved. Deep...
by Andrea Blundell Feel like you were born disorganised? Always been a bit of a mess? Messy house, messy finances, messy relationships, messy thinking, even? Tried all the tips — making lists, decluttering, doing one thing at a time — and still can’t keep up? Am I just the creative type? Blame it on being...
by Andrea Blundell Pretend you want what you don’t, in order to get what you do? What is reverse psychology, really, and is it good or bad for our relationships? What is reverse psychology? At the heart of the concept is the assumption that most people don’t like being told what to do. So how...
Have you been called neurotic? And are left wondering, “what is neuroticism, really?” What is neuroticism? Imagine a line. On one end of the line is a perfectly balanced person. Always emotionally calm and centred, they feel safe and confident in the world. On the other end is someone who is so overwhelmed by their emotions...
by Andrea Blundell Known for your wit and humour? But of the sarcastic kind? What does sarcasm mean about you, really? The meaning of sarcastic Sarcasm is far more than just being funny. It’s clear even in the dictionary definition of, “using remarks that clearly mean the opposite of what you say, in order to...
