Self Esteem Articles
It’s a hard thing for a parent to notice that their teen has low self-esteem. What can you do to help? [For a general overview on what low self-esteem is and its symptoms, see our Guide to Self-Esteem.] How to Help Your Teen With Low Self-Esteem Problems 1. Halt the Advice. You love your teen. You want...
Do you find yourself saying ‘it’s all my fault’ whenever something goes wrong? Do you live with an endless sense of guilt and shame? And blame yourself for every relationship conflict? The problem with deciding “it’s all my fault” Taking responsibility when we have chosen an action that upsets others can be a sign of...
In our previous article we discussed what judging others is all about. Why we do it, the benefits and pitfalls of judging people, and how we end up the sort of person who is always judgmental in the first place. The next question becomes, how to stop judging others all the time? How to Stop Judging Others ...
You can tell yourself it’s only something you do with close friends. It’s just a bit of humour, or ‘you don’t really mean it’. But deep down, most of us know that judging people isn’t a good idea. It’s as if something inside of us feels not quite right with each snide remark that leaves...
Feel like a failure when a work presentation or first date doesn’t go the way you planned? If you manage to bounce back in a couple of days (or weeks if it’s something harder, like a breakup), then you probably have healthy amounts of resilience and self-worth. But if you constantly feel like a failure,...
Have you ever found yourself looking in the mirror after a challenging experience and asking yourself, ‘Who am I?”. If so, you have come face to face with your self-concept. What is ‘self concept’ in psychology? Self-concept is hardly a new idea. Ancient eastern practices, for example, often talked about self-identity, and the question of...
You feel your partner (or boss, or friend) is always picking on you. He or she says you are oversensitive. Who is right? Are you the victim of constant criticism, or are you being defensive? Is it really all his or her fault? It is possible to actually push people to criticise you — without even realising...
Guilt, according to evolutionary psychology, was the brain’s way of making sure we didn’t veer into behaviour that would leave us ostracised from the tribe. And even nowadays a little guilt is a good thing – not having any is a sign of sociopathy or narcissistic personality disorder. But what if you feel guilt all...
Again you tried to connect with someone, and again it didn’t work out. You can pretend you don’t care, but deep down you feel betrayed and used. Why do people keep rejecting you, and why does it hurt so much? Rejection vs Feelings of Rejection Rejection itself is quite logically a straight out ‘no’. A...
Values and beliefs are two things you will find yourself talking about should you attend sessions with a coach, counsellor, or psychotherapist. Why beliefs and values are so important in therapy They are both invaluable tools for: understanding who you are deciphering why you have made the decisions you have in life learning how to make...
