Self Esteem Articles
by Andrea Blundell Tend to feel overwhelmed easily by life? Like things are just beyond you? ‘Learned helplessness’ is a behavioural pattern that can be changed. What is learned helplessness? Somewhere along the line in childhood, you learned you couldn’t control things around you, and decided to stop trying to help yourself. The term comes...
Have you been accused of attention-seeking behaviour? What might this look like, why would you do it, and what can be done to turn a need for attention into something more beneficial? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell addresses this important issue. What is attention-seeking behaviour? Some kinds of attention seeking are more obvious than...
Constantly left feeling, “I don’t belong?” Even when surrounded by so-called ‘friends’? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores the issue of ‘belongingness’. What is belonging? Belonging is defined as feeling part of a group, whether that is a family, a set of friends, or a workplace. Psychologist Abraham Maslow, in his famous model about...
Do people tell you that you are obsessed with being right, but you aren’t sure it’s true? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell investigates. Signs you need to be right Balk at being told you are righteous? And immediately have reasons to protest why you are not? But reasons that, well…. put you above others?...
Being self-critical is a serious problem. Research connects it to a greater risk of depression*, self-harm**, and eating disorders***. And yet many of us don’t realise just how much self-criticism is our norm, until we find ourselves in therapy, listening more closely to our thoughts. What are the signs that you are actually a self-critical...
Can you be selfish without being a terrible person? And why are we selfish anyway? It’s a question that has been heavily debated since the time of Aristotle. But how does it apply to our modern lives, and what does psychology have to say? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores. The definition of selfish The...
Worried that you aren’t a good person? That you might secretly be flawed beyond fixing? Or even, dare you say it…evil? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores the issue. The secret question many of us ask At some point we all find ourselves in a period of transition, facing big decisions that can leave...
by Andrea Blundell Stuck working with a critical colleague? Or being picked on by other students? How can you deal with mean people? How to deal with mean people *Note that if someone is physically hurting you in any way, it’s not just mean, it’s assault. Get help. Talk to a manager, school guidance counsellor,...
Deep down, believe you just aren’t as good as other people? Tried positive thinking and pushing yourself to try new things, but still have low self worth? The mistake we make when it comes to inner worth The biggest mistake we make about self worth is we think it is just a thought. That if...
Always apologising non stop? Feel sorry for everything that goes wrong? Is apologising too much sometimes normal? In the UK we say sorry to every person we pass as we manoeuvre our way around a busy shop. It’s a harmless show of politesse. And yes, we all sometimes apologise profusely for practical reasons. Saying sorry...
