Self Esteem Articles
Have you ever found yourself looking in the mirror after a challenging experience and asking yourself, ‘Who am I?”. If so, you have come face to face with your self-concept. What is ‘self concept’ in psychology? Self-concept is hardly a new idea. Ancient eastern practices, for example, often talked about self-identity, and the question of...
You feel your partner (or boss, or friend) is always picking on you. He or she says you are oversensitive. Who is right? Are you the victim of constant criticism, or are you being defensive? Is it really all his or her fault? It is possible to actually push people to criticise you — without even realising...
Guilt, according to evolutionary psychology, was the brain’s way of making sure we didn’t veer into behaviour that would leave us ostracised from the tribe. And even nowadays a little guilt is a good thing – not having any is a sign of sociopathy or narcissistic personality disorder. But what if you feel guilt all...
Again you tried to connect with someone, and again it didn’t work out. You can pretend you don’t care, but deep down you feel betrayed and used. Why do people keep rejecting you, and why does it hurt so much? Rejection vs Feelings of Rejection Rejection itself is quite logically a straight out ‘no’. A...
Values and beliefs are two things you will find yourself talking about should you attend sessions with a coach, counsellor, or psychotherapist. Why beliefs and values are so important in therapy They are both invaluable tools for: understanding who you are deciphering why you have made the decisions you have in life learning how to make...
Self-sabotage is the fine art of of taking action against yourself, convincing yourself you don’t want the things you actually do and driving away opportunity. [Not sure that’s you? read our connected piece, “What is self-sabotage and why do I do it?“]. A powerful habit, it can become second nature for you to destroy what you...
What are abandonment issues? Abandonment issues are problems in your relationships and in trusting others. They stem from life experiences that left you feeling you could not rely on others to take care of you and be there for you. Experiences of abandonment leave us feeling disconnected from others and misunderstood, try as we might...
Being told you have a victim personality tends to cause defensiveness in most of us. Victimhood actually offers a lot of hidden power we might be loathe to admit we are taking, or to then give up. [Read our adjoining piece “what is the victim mentality?’ for more on just how this works.] But admitting...
Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), also called just ‘body dysmorphia’, is an anxiety disorder about the way you look. It sees you persistently distressed and distracted because you perceive your appearance, or a part of your body, in a negative way and as different than it really is. Either an actual bodily flaw is extremely exaggerated, or...
Self-sabotage means you take actions against yourself. You stop yourself from achieving the goals you want, drive away the relationships you want, and convince yourself you don’t want what you actually do want. You could sum up self-sabotage as ‘working against yourself’. What does self-sabotage in action look like? Sabotage can hide behind impulsiveness and...
