Anger Articles
by Andrea Blundell Yes, we might be grownups in these parts, at least physically. Emotional maturity can come far, far later…. Or we might not even quite be there yet. What is emotional maturity, really, and do you have it? What is emotional maturity? Emotional maturity means we are responsible for, and in control of,...
By Andrea Blundell Do the holidays make you miserable? Known to get a bit, well… snappy? Being a Christmas grinch happens. And it can even be a positive if you know how to handle it. I hate Christmas Cut yourself some slack. It’s perfectly okay to not like the holidays. If we don’t, we tend...
Do your emotions see you acting out before you can stop yourself? Known for being impulsive, or even volatile? Emotional regulation skills don’t come naturally for everyone, but can be learned. What is emotional self-regulation? In our previous article, ‘Emotional Self-Regulation – Struggle to Stay Calm?”, we explained how it’s your ability to monitor and...
Act before you think? Say things only to regret all? Explode your emotions onto others despite promising not to? Your issue might be emotional self-regulation. What is emotional self regulation? Emotional self-regulation is psychology speak for an ability to control your emotional responses in an acceptable and productive way. You know how to take charge...
Has someone said you have an anger problem? Or do you know that your rage is out of control? Different types of anger can cause different issues, and rage is connected to several mental health diagnoses. What is anger? A brief introduction Anger and rage come from the same beginning. We feel frustrated, irritated, and...
by Andrea Blundell Love to get fired up and set others straight? And defend what you ‘know’ to be true? How useful is your ‘righteous indignation’, and what could make it more worthwhile? What is righteous indignation? Indignation itself can be a run-of-the-mill conflict pattern in relationships, a perfect defence against shame. How dare you...
Do others see you as a ‘nice’ person? And you are very invested in seeing yourself this way? But then someone close to you has suggested you actually have anger issues? What are Anger Issues? Anger issues do not necessarily mean you are always flying off the hook and sabotaging your life with fits of...
We all hide our emotions now and then. If we are upset about a fight with our partner, we don’t show it when we are at work. But being private with how you feel is different than the more serious (if possibly connected) issue of suffering repressed emotions. Suppressed vs Repressed It is helpful to...
Want to be good at dealing with conflict, but lose your way every time? What is it that makes conflict so hard for you compared to others? Why Conflict Gets the Better of You 1. You go too fast. If you rush into conflict as soon as something upsets you – if you barge into...
Next time, I will stay calm. I’ll do things better. I won’t say things I’ll regret. I really will walk away or hang up the phone before I get dramatic and make a fool of myself. I won’t hurt him or her again… Sound familiar? If so, you might be one of the many of...
