We can all be nervous about social situations from time to time, and many adults are shy around new people.
But social anxiety disorder is actually a type of complex phobia – a condition that has an overwhelming impact on your life.
If you have social anxiety disorder, also known as ‘social phobia’, everyday things, from making a phone call to eating in public, can become something overwhelming.
And you don’t just worry about social situations. You fret about them almost obsessively for days in advance, and can still be analysing what you said or did weeks later. Your anxiety about social things is completely out of proportion, and your thoughts are irrational.
How Common is Social Anxiety Disorder?
Social anxiety disorder is actually a very common psychological issue. The Royal College of Psychiatry estimates that one in twenty people have this disorder, with other sources claiming it can be as high as one in 10.
Although anyone can develop social anxiety disorder, there are more reported cases from women. Children and adolescents can also have the disorder, which can lead to difficulties at school.
Signs of Social Anxiety Disorder
non stop worried thoughts both before, during, and after social situations
constantly fear what others think of you and if they’ll criticise you
The biggest misunderstanding about social anxiety disorder?
Just because you have social anxiety disorder does not mean you are anxious over every single social situation you face. Anxiety can occur for you only in certain situations, or with certain people.
For example, a student that is okay in most social situations may become crippled with anxiety when asked to give a speech in front of the class. Similarly, an individual that is perfectly fine eating a meal with friends or family may become anxiety-ridden at the prospect of eating in public.
Related mental health conditions to social anxiety disorder
Many people with social anxiety disorder also suffer from panic disorder or panic attacks.
It’s also common to have depression due to the loneliness or low self-esteem avoiding social situations can help create.
If you turn to stimulants because of your anxiety, you can develop an addiction, alcoholism, or a problem with overeating.
Your day is plagued with intense worry about what your colleagues are thinking of you – are they judging you? Do they like you, or not? You tell yourself you are being unrealistic, that it doesn’t matter what others think, but it doesn’t help. The worries don’t stop. You even start to then fear that you are going to do or say something wrong, sound stupid, or embarrass yourself front of others.
With enough of these thoughts racing around your head, and knowing you have to do a presentation that afternoon, you find you suffer a feeling of dread and hide in the office supply closet having a panic attack complete with sweating, heart palpitations, and trembling.
The presentation goes okay, and your colleagues ask you out for a celebratory drink, and you go, but feel like everything you say is the wrong thing and that they are just being nice to you but don’t really like you. So after just one drink you find yourself rushing home to be by yourself but this leads to you feeling quite lonely, and by the end of the day you might even feel a bit depressed, or having a few too many drinks more by yourself to try to avoid your sense of failure and isolation. If only you could be like everyone else, you think to yourself….
You promise yourself that tomorrow you will stop being so worried about what others think. But then the next day, on the bus going to work, a man stares at you, and you are sure he is judging you, and the thoughts and feelings begin over again…
Causes of Social Anxiety Disorder
Social anxiety disorder, like many mental health conditions, is thought to be caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors. In other words, it’s more likely you’ll develop social anxiety disorder if one of your parents had it, and if you were raised in a certain way that made you a nervous, under confident child. Social anxiety disorder is especially linked to a childhood where your parents or guardians were always criticising you, putting you on edge that you might do something wrong, overprotective, unaffectionate, and/or perfectionistic about such things as your manners and self-presentation.
Like most mental health conditions, a diagnosis of social anxiety disorder is made by a doctor on the basis of an inventory of both your present day issues and your life history. Part of your diagnosis will involve one or several anxiety questionnaires.
Treatment for social anxiety disorder can be troublesome because the thought of working in a one-on-one situation with a therapist causes many people with the disorder to experience great distress. So the first hurdle of treating the social phobia is simply seeking help at all.
On a good note, if you do find support, social anxiety disorder is highly treatable.
For some sufferers of this disorder, medication is highly helpful, such as beta-blockers or antidepressants. The best result, however, if using medication, is to use it in conjunction with psychotherapy, as while medication can help lower anxiety it cannot by itself address your underlying fears and psychological issues that led to the disorder to begin with.
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is among the most popular psychotherapy for social anxiety disorder. CBT addresses your underlying ways of thinking that trigger anxiety. A CBT therapist works with you to identify negative thought patterns, false ideas, and unrealistic behaviours that cause anxiety.
Self-help programmes are often also offered to help social anxiety disorder and can indeed by the first choice of treatment for sufferers (you can be referred to such programs by the NHS). Usually in the form of a computer programme or workbook, these therapies help guide you to build skills and change thought patterns so that your anxiety is minimised. It can be the step you need to then feel more comfortable working more in depth and one-on-one with a psychotherapist.
Well Known People and Characters With Social Anxiety Disorder
Many world-famous celebrities have struggled with social anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. Marilyn Monroe struggled with both anxiety and depression, and Brian Wilson of the famous American band, The Beach Boys, is also reported to have suffered. Likely the most famous celebrity today to deal with social anxiety is actor Johnny Depp, often photographed hiding behind sunglasses, who has employed a team of therapists that help him to overcome his anxieties so he can then continue with duties as an actor.
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