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- We aim to provide useful information that can help everyone maintain their psychological health and emotional well-being.
- We hope to demystify counselling and psychotherapy and spread the word about the value that therapy can offer.
- We aspire to lower the stigma around mental health; to make it as normal and important to talk about our emotional lives as it is our physical health.
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Dr. Sheri Jacobson is the founder of Harley Therapy™ and a retired senior therapist accredited with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). She created the counselling blog to share her great passion for making psychological wellbeing a positive mainstream topic and something we all talk about.
Often an expert in the press, she has appeared in such media outlets as the Times, Guardian, Telegraph, and Financial Times newspapers as well as BBC News, BBC Radio and Bloomberg TV.
Sheri holds a PhD in Counselling and Psychotherapy (Regent’s College) as well as Masters degrees in Philosophy, Politics and Economics (Oxford) and Social Anthropology (UCL).
Andrea M. Darcy (previously ‘Andrea Blundell’) is a mental health and wellbeing expert, author, and mentor. As the founding editor and lead writer of the Harley Therapy counselling blog, she grew the site from a small audience to over 4.5 million unique visitors a year. Originally working as a successful screenwriter, she left film to retrain in self development, doing training in person-centred counselling and group coaching. Since then she has written for outlets like Psychologies, the Daily Mail, Women’s Health, Medium, and Life Clubs UK. She also runs a consultancy helping people plan their perfect therapy journey, and is the co-founder of the website Messy Divine.
Hi
Im wondering if you can help me. Im currently doing a course in Animal Assisted Therapy and have come across a question that im finding hard to answer.
The question is how can agility help a client with ADHD. It talks about hetting the client to learn names of equipment and participate in some agility exercises with the dog.
I have looked on the internet , looked through books I have purchased but found little or no further info. I am not sure how this helps the client.
Hope you can point me in the right direction to obtain further info to my question.
Kind Regards
Amanda Fenwick
It’s a fascinating angle! I’m afraid that is a bit specialist so wouldn’t want to give the wrong info, you’d want to speak to an ADHD therapist or psychiatrist on that one. It would seem that agility training with a pet forces one to be very mindful and in the moment, and that is good for those with ADHD, to be present instead of caught up in their heads.
Andrea, I read with great interest your article “Freud vs. Jung,” so thank you for the information. “Was their a winner?” I believe your their should be there. 🙂
Jack Turner, Ph.D.
Author of Murdoch vs. Freud
Ha ha! Well for me it’s Jung, but I think it’s a personal thing…. one must not overlook the many great things Freud contributed.
I have been diagnosed with complex PTSD.
That is all well and good but nobody, not even my psychologist, really understands just how ripped up, empty and angry I feel inside and i cannot even begin to describe how devastating the flashbacks and fears can often become.
It took me three years to even get any tangible help at all from within the NHS because of lack of resources, and now, after only three weekly hourly sessions the psychologist tells me he is retiring in a few weeks and he doesnt know if there is anyone now who can take over.
I just cannot face going back into this awful system like a rubber ball all over again.
I have been diagnosed with complex PTSD.
That is all well and good but nobody, not even my psychologist, really understands just how ripped up, empty and angry I feel inside and i cannot even begin to describe how devastating the flashbacks and fears can often become.
It took me three years to even get any tangible help at all from within the NHS because of lack of resources, and now, after only three weekly hourly sessions the psychologist tells me he is retiring in a few weeks and he doesnt know if there is anyone now who can take over.
I just cannot face going back into this awful system like a rubber ball all over again.
Oh god that sounds awful! There is nothing worse than being brave enough to seek support, finally feeling you have help, to have it ripped away. While it’s great there is any help at all on the NHS, sadly the NHS can also be so excruciatingly slow when seeking support and it’s a horrible experience when one is already feeling vulnerable. But please don’t give up. We have an article that might give you some new avenues of support on a low budget, did you see it? https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/low-cost-therapy-free-counselling-services.htm. Also consider finding a support group…. sometimes peer support from others who have through the same thing can be such a relief. We are crossing our fingers for you…
Good afternoon!
I am researching into the effectiveness of Dance Movement Psychotherapy (DMP) as a treatment of depression for my extended project qualification. As you are therapy specialist I was hoping to get your opinion on this as a method of treatment rather than antidepressants. I read an article of yours on balanced thinking and cognitive behavioral therapy, do you know if an expressive therapy like DMP would work similar to this?
I have a member of my family who has depression and has tried using counseling and has discontinued as she felt that it was not helping her much. She is now looking at taking antidepressants, I am aware that they work differently on every person however I was wondering if you had any opinion on alternatives she could do.
We don’t actually have any DMP on board, and really it would be best if you contacted one directly. As for your family member, ‘trying counselling’ is very broad. What kind of counselling? Was it the right type? Was it the right counsellor? It’s not a ‘one sized fits all’ thing, it is more like dating. You have to find what type of therapy and what therapist suits you. It’s very unlikely that with the right therapy there would be no improvement at all. In any case, we don’t feel antidepressants should be taken as a stand alone, but only in conjunction with therapy. Antidepressants merely block symptoms but do not address or change the root cause. If she has experienced trauma, there are new therapies that deal with this directly, such as EMDR that might be a good place to start.
Hiya I have just moved to Spain to initially live for a year. I took extended leave from work. I pllanned what I needed to do and rented ny house out in the U.K. Now in spain and wonder what I am doing here, no friends,don’t work and missing family and friends. This house was purchased with my late husband and all I can think about is that he should be here as this is what we planned to do together. Used to being a very busy person don’t understand why I am suffering with anxiety now and not relaxing and enjoying the peace and sunshine. I was depressed wh en my husband passed away and again when my daughter moved out of the of the house and I think I cannot cope with change. I swore to myself after I recovered from the last session that I would not let it happen again. Ps I also cannot eat food until later on in the date
It sounds like you are suffering from depression, which can be triggered by big changes and moves. When all the organising dies down all the thoughts being busy helped us avoid come to the surface. Did you see our article on depression from moving country? https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/moving-abroad-cause-depression.htm. And just to mention that nowadays support in your own language is available wherever you are via online counselling.
Hi,
I am interested in finding a new career path and have always been interested in a counselling / alternative therapy role. Please can you tell me how I could train or look into going into this role and working for a company similar to this one?
Thank you
I am working on my research project on Dreamwork and how to incorporate it effectively in the Australian Christian Counselling context. I have been studying Counselling and Psychotherapy for 3 years and there has not been any teaching on dreams. I took a 1 day personal development Gestalt workshop last year on “Working with Dreams” and I believe that dreams can help clients increase self-awareness. What insights can you offer me?
It’s certainly a good topic, dreams. They have been used as a part of therapy since Freud and Jung, who both took a fascination with them. Unfortunately we do not presently have any articles on the subject, but there are many to be found on the internet.
Gosh that’s an enormous question Lisa! To work as a therapist in the UK you need to take training recognised by the advisory boards such as the BACP before you are allowed to be at trainee. You’ll find a list of all accredited courses on the BACP site.
Ma’am, I would like to somebody to help me how to stop jealousy for nothing and I feel all girl are flirting my husband. I nice woman ma’am. I would like to talk online to give me a advice about my situation. We Love each other and no problem in our marriage. Thanks Miles
Hi Miles. We don’t offer free consultations, but we do offer online therapy, you’ll see the link on the right side of the page. Jealousy is often related to low self-esteem, and that’s something you can definitely work on with a therapist.
Hi Harley Therapy
I am in my final year in completing my Diploma in Psychotherapy and Counselling Skills and it is a struggle and a challenge finding a placement with supervision that would take on a Trainee Counsellor.
I really want to make a different to clients being an empathic and genuine person who I am.
Please can you help.
Thanks
Hi Wendy, we’re really sorry but we we do not take on Trainee’s. Keep trying, there are placements out there! Kind regards.
Hi I wonder if you can help me, I read a blog on your website about dissociation and it says something like it is something learnt in childhood. Well I had a normal happy upbringing and have never experienced dissociation. But I did go to therapy about having anxiety which my parents also suffer with. I did not really like the therapist as she scared me by talking about herself a lot. I felt very zoned out in one of the sessions and she said “oh you must have dissociated”. Can it be something that just happens as a one off? I left that therapist and got a different one and have never dissociated since.
Sorry that was long
Lucy
Hi Lucy, stress can lead to a ‘feeling’ of being dissociated, or a ‘dissociative state’. And going to a new therapist can certainly be stressful. Such a state is actually normal, even sometimes for several weeks if it comes after something really difficult like a sudden divorce. If you have a new therapist and have not had any such experience since, the question might be, why are you still worried? Is this something you’ve discussed with the therapist? It might be that something in that appointment caused you anxiety and is worth looking at.
Thank you very much for your reply. I have spoke about it with my new therapist. My problem is I am a Googler and when the therapist mentioned dissociation I went and Googled it and it came up with loads of scary things like abuse.
Lucy
Yes, it’s a very easy way to get paranoid, the internet! We are glad you have the support you need.
I would like to send an email to Dr. Jacobson regarding my research. Just a short answer and any thoughts is all that is required. I do not wish to post this question in the public realm for reasons of sensitivity to others.
How can I do this ?
Thank you
Kevin
Hi Kevin, unfortunately we get many student requests and simply can’t accommodate. If it is for an established press outlet, you can reach us at press@harleytherapy.co.uk. We wish you all the best with your project.
What am I supposed to do when all I feel is anger and sadness? I cannot stand myself, nor can I stand other people’s affection of any kind. I’ve been single my entire life, and I don’t think it’s ever going to change. Ghe thought of being loved makes me physically ill and fills me with rage. I am also fat and useless, and to top it off, a loser and a burden to my parents. I’ve tried therapy, but I just can’t let anyone in to fix the problems I have. All I have is my beloved rage, anger, solitude and depression. I see no hope. I wish I had the guts to end it all, but sadly I am too much of a coward.
Hi Espen, thank you for this brave sharing. That is a lot of being hard on yourself in one paragraph. But here you are, courageous enough to leave a comment, strong enough to be this honest and to share all this and to have gotten out and tried therapy, and with still a tiny modicum of hope or you would not be here. Here’s the thing – we don’t agree. We don’t agree that you are useless or a loser. Yes, we haven’t met you, but in our experience every single person has value, no matter how hidden, and has inner resources that surprise them. And we work with a lot of people. As for being too much of a coward to end it all, actually, managing all that and still sticking around is hugely courageous, not cowardly. In the end, there is no easy, snap your fingers solution. There is trying different things until you get a little click of energy, and then following that, then finding the next thing that gives you a tiny uplift of self esteem, and following that… and then slowly before you know it change has happened and you don’t know who you once were anymore. You say therapy didn’t help, but we don’t know what sort of therapy you tried, and, frankly, therapy is like dating, it can take a few tries to find the right click. And it’s ok to not trust a therapist for some time, even normal. Just look for someone you might trust one day. That is enough. You might want to try Compassion focused therapy, we have an article on it. Or CBT, a short term therapy that helps you look at the link between your thoughts, feelings, and actions. If budget is low, read our piece on low cost counselling. And in the meantime don’t overlook some self help. Journalling out all your rage and thoughts then ripping up the pages (less stress of parents finding it!), mindfulness (we have a free guide on our main site, or try Youtube for videos), or videos on youtube that are inspirational and make you feel ok even if just for a few moments. If you ever feel really down, don’t overlook calling the Good Samaritans, who have free support lines in the US and UK. Please don’t give up!
Hi Harley
I have suffered from procrastination all my life, and this has affected my progress. I have under achieved both academically due to avoiding work, and also professionally not being able to stick to a job role as I find the jobs I take require basic skills. I know I am intelligent and have helped others in many ways. This procrastination prevents me from completing basic tasks, but when I do decide to do something it is done really well. I want to do so many things but feel life is passing me by. I have had this for most part of my life. Can you please provide some insight or advice. Thanks
Hi Tahir, without meeting you and doing sessions with you we obviously can’t give you a diagnosis. We would just say that many, many people suffer from what you are talking about, procrastinating and sabotaging success. There are many things it can be connected to. Low self-esteem, fear of success, a desire to avoid family pressures, or core beliefs around things like others not liking you if you do to well.It can also be connected to adult ADHD. You’ll find articles on most of these topics using the search bar on our site. We also have a very good article on procrastination http://bit.ly/procrastinationwhy.If you are aware this issue is big enough it’s really holding you back in life then really the best thing you can do, though, is reach out for some support, whether that is by seeing a coach, counsellor, or psychotherapist. Hope that helps!
I was reading your article about sense of identity and it fits me to a t. I have diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder but believe that I am co dependent as my life revolves around a male caregiver as my father was, I expect them to take care of me, when what they really want is a girlfriend, not a daughter. I adapt myself to who I am with in order to be accepted and fit in. The only identity I have is as a parent and as my children have grown up I feel I have lost who I am. I am trying different things but none of them truly fit. I feel that I want to get in touch with who I truly am. Thank People say I am like my mother in personality but as she died when I was 4 I don’t remember that much about her and I think she struggled with me anyway. I was an entertainer when I was young, a performer of sorts. I feel extremely self centred trying to find who I am, I have had alcohol problems in the past due to the way I have put on the men, they have all left me. I can’t see who I am but entertaining people and making them laugh makes me feel good but I seem to have lost that ability lately. I have embarked on a 3 year Art Psychotherapy course, have tried selling painted furniture as the art I produce comes from within, I am worried that I do not have a strong enough sense of who I am to cope with this as I take on the role of others, I end up messed up in my head. I am a copyist rather than an original. I have tried so many things and given them up because I am looking for a way to support myself as I live alone now. I feel like I want to escape.
Feeling lost.
Stephanie, have you had an actual diagnosis with a psychiatrist or is this self-diagnosed? First of all, losing your mother at aged 4 is massively traumatic. And trauma alone can cause us to struggle to know who we are. Being a child without a mother can leave a kid to try to change themselves to get love wherever they can get it, which is a survival tactic and to be understood and honoured. That child did what she could to get by. Second of all, what if you did not have to have a perfectly formed identity? What if it was okay to be different at different times? How do you feel considering this? Because there are many of us who don’t have a perfect identity down pat. And that is perfectly fine. What it sounds like from here is not that you don’t have an identity, but that you don’t have self esteem. We’d recommend you read our piece on self compassion http://bit.ly/selfcompassionlearn. It’s a faster way to build esteem. Call it a hunch, but it might just be that if you could let yourself off the hook, just a little, and found even a tiny bit of acceptance and kindness towards yourself, you might find that you know yourself more than you realise. It’s just that you need the courage right now to accept the person who is waiting there to be found. We wish you this courage. And we do highly suggest you seek some support. We’d suggest compassion-based therapy, or a therapy where the counsellor helps you develop that trust you might not have had as a child, such as schema therapy. Find a counsellor or therapist who you feel you could grow to trust and creates a warm environment for you. We wish you courage. There is hope. We deeply believe this. Keep going.
I have major depression. Also diagnosed with CFS/Me have done for 20 years tried all manners of medication counselling I have just lost hope my world is so small I sleep my life away consistently plagued with dark thoughts of ending my life but haven’t the courage I’m on disability payments i just want it all to go away and can’t wait for my last dying breadth and hopefully some peace
We are truly sorry to hear that Karl. CFS and ME absolutely can leave one feeling entirely at a loss and depressed. We are also quite sad to hear that the counselling didn’t work out. We think you have courage because you have the courage to be here and not leave. That’s where real courage lies. We really think you are going through so much and that it’s wonderful you are managing to be here. Look, counselling isn’t a magical wand, it takes time to see results, and you need to find a counsellor you click with. But we do get that if they have not gone through CFS and ME it can feel alienating if they can’t understand. Have you reached out to others who are going through it? There is a growing community online for example. Sometimes just realising you aren’t the only one can be so helpful. The one free tool that we are a fan of (but feel free to take it or leave it) is mindfulness. It is a powerful way to get to the ‘you’ behind the torturous thoughts and judgements you are placing on yourself, and it’s free and easy to do (although it does take time and commitment, like most things!). We have a free guide to it here, if you are interested bit.ly/mindfulnessallabout. You are the only Karl down here, and mindfulness is a way to remember that. No matter how small life seems, you are here, and you are worthwhile. Karl we’d also say that you should not feel shy to call one of the wonderful free helplines that you can read about here bit.ly/mentalhelplines
I’m not sure if I was sexually abused.
My mother would wash my genitals in the bath quite thoroughly but it would feel good so I would eventually ask her to do it.
My father would expose himself to my sister and I while we were bathing because he had to urinate.
If it was a warm night, my mother would force us to sleep naked and all I can remember is the feeling of fear and anxiety and waiting for her to go to sleep so I could sneak on a pair of undies and a singlet.
My father would pinch me between my legs, in the genitals, if he was behind us on the stairs.
My father had a very extensive porn magazine collection. It was stored on the bottom shelf of our bookcase. I remember as a 7/8/9 year old looking at them all the time and getting stimulated. I would tie a belt between my legs and pull tightly. I would then get our dog to lick my genitals.
These are just a few things. I feel that because I wasn’t penetrated etc, that it wasn’t really that bad. After all I did ask my mum to wash me because it did feel good.
Am I over reacting?
Hi Michelle, no, you are not overreacting. We’d recommend you read our article on the new definitions of sexual abuse https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/what-is-child-sexual-abuse-why-your-definition-might-need-updating.htm. The next question is, what has you researching this? Are you experiencing symptoms in life that could point to a need to support? Do you find relationships hard? If you feel that you are not doing as well in life as you could, it would be worth seeking some support in the form of counselling.
Hello, hope you’re doing well.
I was just going through your article “The Psychological Cost of Never Saying No”. As this is also the topic for my Thesis project. I would like some help regarding it.
How do you suggest one could find a solution to this problem?
What initiatives should be taken to develop the habit of saying No?
Does the inability to say no lead to any serious disorders?
If it were on you what medium would you use to spread the awareness on this topic?
Thanks a lot in advance.
Hi Momina, unfortunately we can’t help students with research. We get many such requests, and we don’t have the resources. Plus we don’t want to take away a student’s experience of doing their own research as isn’t that the point of going to university? For example, a simple search will lead you to many articles on our site on this very topic.
Hello, who can I contact via email to request permission to use an excerpt from one of your articles (https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/what-does-a-traumatic-experience-do-to-your-body-and-brain.htm)?
Hi deegy, press@harleytherapy.co.uk. We permit usage of our articles only if quoted and a link back to our site. We do report sites that use content without permission to google. If in a school paper if quoted and attributed. Thanks.
Hello,
I had a doubt about my girlfriend cheating on me, I questioned her and now she is angry on me saying how can I doubt on her loyalty she says I am a pyshco and need physcatric treatment…. How should I solve this how can I bring her back to normal… She is very strong girl (mentally) I love her very much
Hi Sameer, we are are of course only getting a tiny bit of the story here, so we can’t tell you what to do.But we would say that anyone who calls someone else ‘psycho’ is neither kind nor particularly mentally healthy themselves, especially if you are in a relationship with them. That said, we don’t know the full story or her side of the story. Have you been very obsessed or controlling with her? Are you paranoid, do you stalk her? In that case we could understand. In summary, relationships are tricky. If you constantly have difficult relationships it’s worth talking to a counsellor as you might have hidden beliefs about love from childhood that are causing you to choose dramatic relationships. Good luck.
Hi to you all. Thank you so much for your website. I write a free prayer blog each day, and am currently writing about our shadow side. Please may I use your definition of the Shadow to help my readers understand? I won’t be offended if you say no – just be honest.
All best wishes from Ruth Kirk.
Hi Ruth, we appreciate the honesty! Yes of course you can, you just attribute it to us and that’s fine. You can just put it in quotes and put that it’s from the Harley Therapy Counselling blog. The only thing that doesn’t work for is if someone copies and pastes or reposts an article, as then google sees it as duplicate content an even if it’s ours we get penalised. Thanks, and good luck!
Hi I just read your article about counselling psychologist and what it’s about. I’m still confused about how it differs from psychotherapy. I’m finishing my undergrad and want to go into either but they seem to overlap a lot. What differentiates the two? Do you know how heavy the research is on both courses? Obviously the doctorate in counselling psychology will include a lot of research but does the QCoP and the psychotherapy course?
Thanks.
Hi there, we recommend you read this article here https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/types-of-therapists.htm. Also note that this applies to the UK, things are different in the USA and other countries. We are an information site that publishes work by many writers, so as an editorial team we aren’t the right people to ask any further on a schooling decision, we’d recommend booking a session with the advice centre at your university. Good luck.
Hello,
I am a student of counseling in the United States. My teacher told me that the British perspective on CBT is more advanced than the American one. I would like to read some books about CBT written for clinicians by British Authors. Can you recommend anything to me?
Perhaps the teacher means that there are evolutions of CBT from UK clinicians / researchers. CFT (Compassion focussed therapy) was developed by Paul Gilbert in the UK. But other third wave CBT approaches were founded by Americans such as ACT (Acceptance and commitment therapy – Steven Hayes) and DBT Dialectical behaviour therapy (Marsha Linehan). And of course the father of CBT is Aron Beck and its REBT roots were developed by Albert Ellis. As for a CBT book by a British author, for clients / general readers. “The CBT handbook” by Pamela Myles & Roz Shafran. For clinicians, An Introduction to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy: Skills and Applications Third Edition. David Westbrook, Helen Kennelly & Joan Kirk.
Hi, I want to ask, are you publishing articles (guest entry), if I write you good content, naturally I will pay you, I am waiting for an answer, thanks!
Sorry, we do not do paid posts with marketing links. We only publish articles by experienced and established writers who specialise in mental health.
Hello,
I am a Dentist and I came across your website while doing some research in Psychotherapy. Lately, I’ve had an increased interest in this profession and I’m possibly considering it as a second career. Would I need to have a foundation course related to Psychotherapy or can I apply for a Masters degree without it?
Thanks,
Kind regards,
Atrisha
Hi Atrisha, you’d need a foundation before a masters. Best, HT.
Hi I have ADHD and perfectionism. I have a monumental decision to make and need help within it up (moving house which is scheduled to happen in a 3 weeks). Its has incredible complex factors health, money, future and Its overwhelming. is there a councillor who can help me work though a decision? maybe skilled with ADHD?
Hi Sean, you can either go to our main site and select to see therapists who work with ADHD https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/therapists.htm or if you are on a budget, or outside of London or even the UK, use our booking platform and again select therapists who work with ADHD. https://harleytherapy.com/therapists Best, HT.
That is not my issue.
It is my child who is not allowing for improvement.
I can’t live like this anymore.
She is older so I am looking for a place to live away from her or get her her own place.
This bull takes away from day to day happiness.
The house is a disaster. We haven’t sat in the living room for 5 years bc it’s not set up bc she won’t get out of the way.
She has 2 totes of dirty dishes in the yard bc it was taking up the kitchen. The bathroom with piles of tissue, some with poop on em. Why?
I can barely function.
Bill’s late lost 200$ bc not on time.
I get like 10 mins and then all the interrupting, just hanging out and the talking but no action.
Hi Jean, we can’t give any answers as we don’t know you or your child or the entire situation and we don’t offer counselling or legal advice over comments. It’s possible she has mental or learning difficulties. But you say she is older. If she is of legal age then there is also the issue of you not being controlled by someone else and having boundaries and looking at how you have let this situation go on so long and if you need support standing up for yourself. If you are in the UK, we’d suggest reaching out to your local Mind chapter to see if they could offer free support on this situation or put you in touch with the right charities. This could even be a situation for social services, again, we don’t know the full story. But it sounds like a tough situation. Do reach out for support.
Hi Andrea and Harley Therapy
I have been studying myself for some 5 years now, and I want to say how amazing your website, content and information is.
I applaud you for such interesting articles, with concise information and triggers to question oneself, their feelings and beliefs.
Once we understand these- we can delve deep into ourselves at any given moment and discover the underlying causes of our feelings or outcomes. Some are outrageously absurd, and others have such a hold on us, its such a relief to uncover them and move on.
To be effective we must be totally honest with ourselves, our feelings and our thoughts no matter how much we want to push them away because we are too busy to sit with it.
I will definitely be letting people know about your website.
Thank you
Dear Jenny, thank you so much for taking the time to give such thoughtful feedback, we really appreciate it! It means a lot to us to know we are helping others with our content. This site was created with the idea in mind to help those considering therapy, but also to be a resource for those who might not be able to access help, it really is a labour of love. Best, Andrea.
This may not be the best place to post….but here goes.
I am a Recovery Promoter with an organisation here in Hamilton, NZ who attend to the needs of the mentally ill and disabled in the community. I am collating materials to form modules under various titles, to be used for discussion with groups of clients. It is known as a Recovery Course.
Perfectionism is one of those topics. I would like to use the diagram entitled, ‘Examples of Perfectionism’. a diagram adapted from Westbrook, Kennerley and Kirk.
Can I please have free use of this diagram to insert it in the module.
Our circulation is small, up to 150 in a year. We are a not for profit organisation.
Hi Christine, we aren’t sure what diagram you mean. The infographic in our perfectionism guide? Please write to editorial@harleytherapy.co.uk with a link to the actual thing you are speaking of. Best, HT.