Used mostly with couples and families but applicable to individuals, EFT is a therapy that focuses on the development of emotional intelligence and the importance of secure relationships. Rather than seeing emotions as something to be controlled, EFT sees emotions as something to be explored and experienced, and as important guides to what we need or want that can lead toward personal growth for ourselves and our relationships.
Self-Help Tools and Mental Health Guidance
What is a counselling session really like? Is there a certain structure to the session, what does the therapist ask the client? How does it actually help you? These are questions we are often asked at Harley Therapy. So we asked one of our expert psychotherapists in Harley Street, London, Michelle Bassam, to shed some insight and tell us just what a client could expect from a counselling session with her.
Who hasn’t at some point advised a friend or loved one to just ‘forgive and forget’? And yet when it’s our turn to be the forgiver, it can be a different story. Why is it that forgiveness is so much easier said then done?
Sometimes what we want to forgive really is a big ask. Difficult things can happen, and in such cases it’s best not to be hard on yourself if you can’t move on and perhaps seek the help of a professional and work towards acceptance.
But other times we can’t forgive because we simply have yet to recognise the pattern or the self-deception we are stuck in that is stopping us from letting go. See if one of the reasons below is holding you back from forgiving and forgetting for once and for all.
12 Reasons You Can’t Forgive and Forget Read the rest of this entry »
But the truth is, ADHD can affect adults too. ADHD is not something we ‘grow out’ of before puberty. And just because you didn’t get diagnosed as a child doesn’t mean you didn’t have undetected ADHD and carry symptoms into adulthood. Many grown men and women suffer from signs of Adult ADHD without ever understanding what it is that is causing their life to feel so unfocussed. Read the rest of this entry »
In 1906 a Swiss psychiatrist by the name of Carl Jung sent a letter to the infamous Sigmund Freud detailing his excitement and interest in Freud’s theory of unconscious motivation. This letter signified the beginning of a tumultuous relationship that was to last seven years and would culminate in a split between what we now call Freudian and Jungian psychology.
Although, both men tried to overlook their differences, the disparity between them grew too big to ignore and their professional and personal relationship ended. This allowed Jung to cultivate his own theory of personality.
So what are the key theories of Jungian psychology (also referred to as Analytical Psychology), and what are the differences between Jungian psychology and its predecessor Freudian psychology?
What is codependency?
We often hear the word ‘codependency’ in relation to partners, or family members, of alcoholics or addicts. In fact, codependency can occur in many different situations. The condition occurs when someone allows themselves to be manipulated and controlled by another person. You could be co-dependent if: Read the rest of this entry »
The idea of walking depression (sometimes known as smiling depression) captures the experience of those who are able to go on walking, talking and even smiling while feeling depressed. Sufferers may be able to hold down jobs, relationships and family commitments without ever letting on that anything is wrong. This type of depression can be very difficult to diagnose and treat for this reason and the consequences can be severe.
Funny feeling the man you’ve started dating will get along a bit too well with your father? Married a woman and halfway through a fight it hits you that she is acting just like your mother?
One of the things that can often come up in therapy and couples counselling is the realisation that we have married or are dating someone who is just like one of our parents. It can feel a shock to the system and leave us dealing with a sense of embarrassment and shame.
But it shouldn’t. It’s inevitable that in one way or another we all choose partners like our mother or father. Our parents (or guardians if that is the case) were, after all, the role models we had for learning how to survive in the world. The family unit is where we learn our value system, how to relate to others, and our definition of what love is. If our parents had strong values and a long happy relationship, it’s more likely we’ll seek that from partners. The trouble comes, of course, when we are dating someone like our parents because there was a difficulty or trauma in our childhood with one of our parents that we have carried into adulthood.
It doesn’t matter if we willingly chose to live in a big city or relocated because of work or a relationship, or even if we were born an urbanite and love it- living in a cosmopolitan area is undeniably exhausting at times and can cause ‘urban stress’. Studies carried out at the Mental Health Institute in Amsterdam found that city living ups your chance of anxiety by 21% and your chance of mood disorders by a startling 39%. But there is no need to panic and run for the nearest small town. Urban living can be beneficial and happy if you use positive coping methods. Read the rest of this entry »
Having goals in life is a wonderful thing- they can energize us and improve our lifestyle as well as our self-esteem. When we are constantly achieving them, that is. Having life goals that are unmet can instead leave us feeling like a big failure.
Knowing how to set measurable, achievable goals is essential, and a process like S.M.A.R.T goal setting, often used in CBT Therapy, is highly recommended. But what if you have used the S.M.A.R.T. Model, you are sure that your goal in life is reasonable, and yet still you find yourself screaming, “Why can’t I achieve my goals no matter how hard I try?!” Or find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-defeat that seems never-ending?