It’s even normal to suddenly feel terrified about what happens next. Somehow, in all the worry about getting pregnant, there’s been no time to worry about pregnancy itself. Some women might even not want to engage with the idea that they are pregnant.
2. Heightened fears of miscarriage.
When you’ve had to go through so much to get this far, it’s understandable that fears of miscarriage can be heightened. Plus there’s the concern that should you miscarry, you might find it harder than other women to get pregnant again.
So it’s extremely commonplace to switch your anxiety about whether you’ll ever get pregnant to whether you will stay pregnant for the full term.
You can find yourself:
wondering what every small ache or pain might be
over analysing every sensation you feel in your uterus
constantly visiting the loo to check there is no bleeding (although note that very small amounts of bleeding can be normal)
concerned that anything you do could trigger miscarriage – worrying about carrying a bag, having sex, exercising, something you’ve eaten.
3. Worries about harming your IVF baby’s growth or health.
These thoughts don’t necessarily go away after IVF success. You might still feel jealous of how much less stressful their journey to parenthood was, or how they have choices you don’t have.
7. Feeling the strain on your relationship.
Pregnancy and parenthood are a time of great change for any couple. For IVF parents there can be added stress. If one of you feels more anxious than the other about the baby, or is keener to try for another child? This can lead to relationship discord right when you long for connection.
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Liat Hughes Joshi is a London-based journalist, author and commentator. She has written five parenting books including Raising Children (Pearson/ Prentice Hall) and 5-Minute Parenting Fixes (Summersdale). Find her at @liathughesjoshi on Twitter and Instagram.