Comfort eating, a hereditary sweet tooth, a bad metabolism… hide it behind any name you want.
If your eating is not just about hunger and energy but a habit you use to distract yourself from life, then you might have a problem with compulsive eating.
Myths about compulsive eating
1.You have to be overweight to suffer from compulsive eating.
You just have to constantly eat more than your body needs for reasons other than hunger. Some people combine compulsive eating with purging, bouts of fasting, or with overexercising, so their addiction to food is unnoticeable except to those who know them well.
2.If you aren’t gaining weight, compulsive eating is fine.
It is hard on the body and can cause health problems whether or not it causes weight gain. It is also extremely hard on your self-esteem and emotional wellbeing.
3. You have to always have been a compulsive eater to now have a problem.
Eating issues do often start in childhood or adolescence. But you might not have been an overeater. Instead you might have been a very picky eater as a child who would only eat certain foods – it’s the other side of the compulsive coin.
4. Compulsive eating isn’t a big deal.
Compulsive eating is an addiction like any other tool of avoidance. Your drug of choice is food.
You eat even if you are not hungry and you continue to eat even if you feel full.(Although you might also by now have no sense of what hungry and full feel like, if you are a binge eater or nonstop snacker).
You turn to eating if you feel emotional.You eat when you are sad, tired, disappointed, angry, or lonely. You eat when someone lets you down, when a comment someone says makes you feel ‘less than’, when you feel overwhelmed by an experience at work. And you eat when you are ‘bored’.
You might even turn to food if you feel too excited or too happy. It’s as if food is your way of not letting emotions get out of control.
A compulsive eating problem is not just due to a bout of stress, or occasional upsets. This is not a ‘half a pint of ice cream on Saturday night’ kind of issue. Your compulsive eating has been an integrated part of your life that you can’t control for several months (or years, or decades).
The feeling you have when you eat is one of being out of control.
When you are finished your bout of compulsive eating, you feel bad. You feel shame, disgust, guilt, and/or feel disgusted with yourself.
You hide your problem from other people. Addictions thrive off secrecy.
You might think about food all the time. If you aren’t eating, you are thinking about what you will next eat, how you will get hold of it, even how you will hide it from others.
Compulsive eating also comes with many physical symptoms that don’t have to just include those caused by being overweight. Physical symptoms can include:
Recently, however, binge eating was made into it’s own official disorder, and if your compulsive eating takes the form of binges then you might be given this diagnosis. The other eating disorders that can involve bouts of compulsive eating are bulimia and night eating disorder.
Remember, a diagnostic term is merely a short hand created by medical health professionals to communicate issues more easily.
A label for your eating issue can be interesting and helpful, but what is more important is to recognise if you have a problem with disordered eating and if so, seeking support, regardless of the ‘category’ you fall under.
Why do I have a problem with compulsive eating?
Compulsive eating is like any other addiction – it helps you escape from pain and uncomfortable thoughts and feelings.
Perhaps you instead just feel empty inside, which is the sensation repressed emotions creates. Eating can be the one thing that makes you briefly feel alive, with the taste and the textures being momentarily comforting.
If you are overeating there will likely be issues from the past or present (or both) that are bothering you. When your focus is on food, you don’t have to think, and overeating causes a numb, even sleepy feeling that means thinking and feeling is blocked for up to several hours after.
Like all addictions and eating disorders, self-esteem will be an issue. Somehow, somewhere inside, you don’t feel good about yourself.
Emotional problem, or physical problem?
Is overeating only an emotional condition, or is it possible it can be a physical illness? If your issue with overeating is recent and you are gaining or losing weight quickly, it’s a good idea to have a physical checkup with your GP. He or she can check things like your thyroid and hormone levels to see if there are any other issues driving your overeating.
Can compulsive eating be a physical addiction? It can definitely help create one. Emotional duress can lead to overeating, overeating can possibly lead to addiction to sugar and additives, which can then lead to more overeating.
What is the danger of ignoring compulsive eating?
The low self-esteem that compulsive eating thrives off of and maintains often leads to depression. Depression can be a serious condition, with some experiencing suicidal thinking.
Even if you are not suffering the side effects of being overweight, overeating is hard on internal organs such as the liver and can also deplete your immune system. As well as constant colds and flus, you might in the long term be increasing your chance for serious disease.
What should I do if I can’t stop my compulsive eating habit?
We all need to eat, so you can’t just ‘cut out’ eating. This can make food addiction a difficult habit to break.
Support is usually required. You might want to start with self-help books and research, or connecting with others who have similar issues via things like online forums.
It is a good idea to seek professional support in the form of a coach, counsellor, or psychotherapist who specialises in eating disorders. This is especially true if you think your compulsive eating is connected to a deep self-esteem issue or to childhood trauma. A good mental health professional can help you unravel the emotions that drive you to overeat and help you see yourself in a new, more supportive light.