Losing your job can be a disorientating change that affects youridentity and sense of a future. And it is a serious mental concern — the NHS quotes a study which found one in five suicides globally is connected to unemployment.
Losing a job in the middle of a global pandemic when our future already feels uncertain can feel a blow when you are already down.
Being made redundant, if it’s a job you had for a long time, can also trigger the stages of grief (which some of are already in due to the pandemic). This can look like:
denial (I’m fine, whatever, who cares, I hated that job anyway)
Reach out to your loved ones and talk to them. Give them the chance to respond before assuming you know how they will. They might be more supportive than you think, or more able to help with short-term solutions than you realise.
If there is someone you are really sure won’t take it well, such as a still overbearing parent, talk to them when you are feeling calm, and stick to necessary facts. If it really feels too much for you at this time, there is nothing wrong with getting someone else to tell them.
3. Get help with options and practicals.
The hopelessness that losing our job can make us feel means we can assume we don’t have options.
Someone starts to tell us we might be eligible for government funding and we cut them off, convinced we aren’t. Right when we need to be open to possibilities, we shut down.
So it is essential to recognise it’s not the time to be proud and try to do everything by yourself. This is a period where we need to reach out and help each other.
Ask a partner, friend, or family member to help you investigate your options, such as current government assistance during Covid-19, and to help you with things like organising your budget to get your through and seeking other work possibilities.
4. Recognise who you are outside of your job.
Losing your job is a surefire way to learn if you have over-identified with it along.
None of us are just what we do for a living. We have relationships, interests, and values that also make us who we are.
And this time, pandemic works in your favour.It makes you realise what relationships matter. Who your real friends are. What you really want to do with your time. What actually interests you when all the distractions and obligations fall away.
And if you don’t like or aren’t sure of what you are discovering? If you aren’t the ambitious person you thought, if you don’t like the relationships you have?
See this as a time of reckoning to recognise what needs to change, and start focussing on what you do want and how you can get there (a counsellor or coach can be a great help here).
5. Help Others.
A large part of the anxiety and depression around being made redundant is not losing the job itself, but feeling useless.
You are not useless. You still have all the skills and resources you had when working, as well as others that you might not have yet recognised.
Or better yet, find a volunteer job for one day a week. A meta-analysis of nine years worth of data from the UK Household Longitudinal Study found that we only need to work eight hours a week to have the same mental health benefits as someone who works five days.
6. Break through your comfort zone.
If we’ve been in a job long enough, it can be such a comfort zone that it’s been a long time since we’ve done anything that stretched our limits. And yet you are, not only in a pandemic that is stretching everyone’s comfort zone, but now jobless, another new experience.
Instead of panicking and numbing out on distractions, or trying to force your way back into your comfort zone, consider riding out the ‘new zone’ energy.
Try a hobby you haven’t before, like drawing or learning a language. Do something you know you will be bad at, like a livestream dance class.
The more we realise we can fail, and be bad at things, the moreresilient we become. And the more we try new things, the braver we become and the more we learn about ourselves. All great things to foster when it comes to finding new work in the coming economic climate.
And at the very least you will remind yourself that despite tough times, there is still so much to learn and experience and be here for. You’ve got this. Keep going.
7. Recognise you are not alone.
Big life changes like being made redundant can leave us feeling different than others andalone. But this global crisis has led to many people being made redundant. If it helps, reach out to others going through similar, such as on forums and social media if you you don’t know anyone personally also made redundant.
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