Comparison is a fast track to never feeling good enough. Which is a fast track to always feeling stressed. Besides, you simply never know another person’s true story. Sure, they might seem together on the outside, but they might have all sorts of problems you don’t know about.
TOOL – Thought charts. This is a tool from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) that is designed to help you turn your wildly negative thoughts into more balanced and useful ones. A short version is to identify your negative thought, come up with the exact opposite, and then find a thought in the middle. But learn the full method first in our article on “Balanced Thinking“.
Meeting new people at university can be exciting, but we can also get swept up. Go along with things we really don’t want to. Feel we have to spend time with people we aren’t sure we like. Guess what – that all causes a lot of stress. It’s not worth it.
You might find people are so impressed with your self-respect they like you more, not less. And remember, the more you say no to people and things you don’t like, the more you create space for ones you do like.
Poor time managementis at the root of a lot of student stress. Many of us really don’t understand time at all.
It’s all good to make a schedule, but if you don’t have a realistic idea of how time works in the first place, and of how long things do and don’t actually take you? It won’t work and will leave you more stressed.
TOOL – A timer. Seriously. Spend a few days setting a timer to go off every hour and write what you have done in that hour. And when you do certain tasks (talking on the phone, studying, a ‘quick’ workout, doing your hair) actually time them to see how long they really take versus what you think they take. Don’t judge what you learn. Use it to make a new schedule that is realistic.
6. Ratchet up the self-care.
Yes, the first few weeks of drinking, parties and a pure pizza diet is great. But you can’t continue like that and expect to feel good. Stress and physical health are linked.
TOOL –Exercise, because it is now proven to elevate your mood. The secret is to find the exercise that is right for you, not the exercise someone says you should do, or your friends all do. If you enjoy Zumba and your friends think it is lame, who cares. You sanity is at stake. Just do it.
7. Get support.
Support is the best tool there is when it comes to stress management for students. In fact it’s essential if we want to get over stress quickly.
Talking to the right person can help you find the root of your stress that you might have been entirely overlooking. And together you can find new ways to solve that stress and set goals that make life easier.
TOOL – A coach, counsellor, or therapist. Friends are great. But proper support means you’ll feel better way faster. Most colleges and universities provide free or low cost counselling. And you can find affordable therapists anywhere these days if you search. You can even do all your therapy over Skype if you hate the idea of going to an office.
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