Perfectionism will mean each decision in life feels a sort of test, yet you often feel disappointed with the outcome.
Living life from a perfectionist perspective can be learned behaviour from a very demanding parent. Or it can relate to a childhood where you were always criticised, or where you felt you had to ‘earn’ love by being ‘good’.
Do decisions just feel overwhelming in general?
Do you feel exhausted and like you could fall asleep when you have to decide on things?
Do you do what you can to avoid being asked to make decisions in the first place?
Even mild depression can seriously impair your decision making skills. You can feel like your brain is made of sand. A 2014 study suggested that depression not only stopped intuitive reasoning, it led to negative thinking patterns that stifled any hopes of creative brainstorming.
4. Anxiety disorders
Do you feel completely panicky when faced with decisions?
Can you overthink a small decision into something that seems life or death?
Do you tend to take what seems to be the ‘safe’ option at the cost of never doing what you want?
Anxiety is different than stress in that it has no obvious cause, but is a free floating sense of worry haunting your days. Because it causes so many distracting thoughts, it leaves you unable to think things through well and more prone to make poor decisions.
Adult ADHD means you are distracted not just by what’s around you, but also by the noise in your head – all your thoughts and feelings. It causes impulsivity, which means you might have made rash decisions in the past that have affected your capacity to trust yourself to now choose wisely.
I can actually see myself in more than one of these issues?
Several of the above issues can be connected. ADHD often comes with a streak of perfectionism and can lead to low self-esteem, for example. And low self-esteem and anxiety can be forerunners of depression.
A mental health professional, like a counsellor or psychotherapist, can help you understand which mix of issues you have that are making decision-making such a challenge for you. In the case of attention deficit, you will need to see a psychiatrist who specialises in adult ADHD for a proper diagnosis.
But surely I don’t need professional help just to make better decisions.
Decisions are pretty powerful. Poor decision making skills can mean:
your daily life is more challenging than it needs to be
you constantly feel bad about yourself.
A good mental health practitioner not only helps with your decision making process, they give you clarity on what a ‘good life’ means for you in the first place, freeing you to make decisions with far more confidence.
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