The NHS estimates that 8% of us will have a phobia at some point in our lives.But what is a phobia, exactly? And when it comes to fears and phobias, what is the difference?
What is a fear?
Fear might start in the mind – we don’t like something.
But our experience of fear is largely physical. Our heart starts to pound wildly, our mouth goes dry, and adrenaline courses through us as our ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ response triggers.
Sometimes a fear is pretty logic, sometimes not so much. Someone threatens us and our very wellbeing is at stake, that makes sense. But to fear a spider we are a thousand times bigger than, or a rat running away from us? Not so much.
And modern day life causes all sorts of illogic fears. We are afraid to talk to strangers, to go on a date, to talk in public, to try something new.
But no matter whether our fear makes sense or not, we recognise it for what it is. The moment of fear arises, we experience it, and then it’s over.
Sure, we might tell our friends about it over a drink that night. And we might experience the same fear again the very next day, if it’s around something ongoing like a work presentation.
But fear is not in charge of our lives. We are in charge of our fear.
What is a phobia?
Phobia is fear gone wild. Your fear becomes unmanageable. You might think about the thing you fear nonstop. And if you are ever faced with your phobia, the thing behind your terror? You have a panic attack, or feel paralysed.
If a phobia becomes full-blown,your fearbecomes so big that you are not longer in charge. Your fear is.
Suddenly you are making decisions based around your phobia. Your life is directly and negatively affected. You are going to great lengths to avoid the thing you are afraid of, or feeling unable to cope.
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Fear vs phobia
So to recap, what generalisations can we make about differences?
FEAR vs PHOBIA
can be illogical and we are aware of it it vs.can be very unrealistic, totally out of proportion to the danger, but doesn’t feel that way as the terror feels all too real
momentary and comes and goes vs.haunting, we’ve suffered more than six months, and can seem to be constantly in our minds
Worried you have a phobia, but not sure if that means you need help? Ask yourself some good questions, such as:
am I aware I’m being irrational but I can’t stop feeling afraid?
have I suffered this phobia for six months or longer?
is it impacting my everyday life?
am I avoiding doing certain things? Not being my usual self?
The good news about fears and phobias
Phobias are actually highly treatable. As in, if you have a specific phobia, you can learn to have no phobia at all, even if you’ve had your phobia since childhood and thought it was going to be lifelong.
Even in the case of a complex phobia like agoraphobia therapy can see you make substantial progress.