5. Are you in a relationship you aren’t quite happy in, but you just can’t leave?
Not being able to leave a relationship is often a sign of low self-worth and/or codependency. These are deep-rooted patterns it can be extremely hard to shift without support. And the longer you stay, the lower your self-worth can drop, leading to depression.
6. Do you suffer from ongoing physical symptoms that your family doctor simply can’t figure out?
It all seems so exciting, at first. And then you feel lonely, lost, and disconnected.
A move to a different country is actually a common cause of anxiety, depression, and also relationship problems if you’ve moved as a couple or family. And if you’ve been struggling for a few months or more, it’s more than enough of a reason to reach out to a counsellor over.
Are you exhausted from always doing things that don’t really interest you because you say yes when you mean to say no? Or even find yourself in relationships because you didn’t know how to let someone down? It’s all a sign that you lack personal boundaries.
If your feeling that the world is dangerous is pervasive, and not just when you read the news or have a bad experience, it is likely you have a strong negative core belief.
The core belief that the world is a dangerous place often stems from childhood trauma. Left untreated, it can mean you don’t reach your potential, or sabotage good things in life to ‘prove’ your belief true.
11. Do you wake up in the middle of the night with a pounding heart?
There are many medical conditions, such as menopause, that can be a factor here. But if your doctor finds you in good health, read about night anxiety. Some of us manage to suppress our anxiety in the day, resulting in constant nightly anxiety attacks. Treating the anxiety can put an end to sleepless nights.
12. Do you really, truly, hate your job?
Yes, many of us do some jobs we don’t like until we establish ourselves.
But if you have always done jobs you hate, it might not be ‘just life’. It might be that deep down you lackconfidence, or that you are so afraid of upsetting others it stops you from both leaving or asking for a promotion.
Talk therapies are actually very useful for workplace issues, helping you clarify what you truly want and finally make those steps forward.
Sound like you? Harley Therapy puts you in touch with registered and experienced talk therapists both in four London locations and across the UK, as well as globally via Skype.
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