Can you change your life fast in a few therapy sessions?
Arriving with a life’s worth of problems and expecting them to be solved in a fraction of the time that they were created is unrealistic. Change is a long haul process that requires time, commitment, and effort.
That said, there are certainly things you can do that will make change come much faster than otherwise….
[And therapy still helps you change your life far faster than going it alone. Ready to finally give it a try? Book today, be talking as soon as tomorrow.]
7 Top Tips for Seeing Life Change Faster
Here is our best advice for how to change your life as fast as possible.
1. Stop mistaking your thoughts for ‘reality’.
Your thoughts are often just patterns and assumptions you were taught growing up. You are something far more unique, hidden beneath.
Do you feel like you are constantly pushing your way uphill? Does nothing ever feel easy? Everything you try seem to take too much energy? Or do you have a weird feeling you are living someone else’s life?
Personal values are the things we deep down can’t help caring about. Not the things those around us think are important, or what our parents want for us, or what our family traditionally puts first, or what everyone at work says is important. What is important to YOU.
Living against our personal values is truly living against ourselves. Which makes it next to impossible to feel good.
How would it feel to learn that life was a house, and you have locked yourself into one room? Convinced that was the whole building? This is actually how many people spend their whole lives.
They are so convinced the way they see things is all there is they don’t even see the door in front of them.
Take a problem you have lately, and try perspective hopping. How would your 85 year-old self see this ‘giant problem’? How would the Dalai Lama see it? A person living in severe poverty or in a war zone? The richest person in the world? You get the point. You are only seeing a limited angle.
The buzz word used to be self-esteem. Find that, and all things will follow, right? Except that if we had a difficult upbringing, esteem can takes years to rebuild.
Compassion is the shortcut. It means we start treating ourselves like we would a best friend. We let ourselves off the hook.
And the more show ourselves kindness, the easier it becomes to be nicer to others. Our relationships improve. We feel better. And it’s found that self-esteem naturally grows if we start with compassion.
7. Seek proper, professional support.
Life can very much be a ‘can’t see the woods for the trees’ situation. Often we have no idea what we are even doing wrong, and can spend years (or even decades) trying to find our way in the dark.
Family and friends are useful to an extent, but can be too invested in situations to give unbiased support.
If you really want to change as fast as possible, consider acounsellor or psychotherapist. Think about building a house. Would you leave it up to just anyone? Or would you hire people trained at architecture? So why leave a project as big as changing your life to people who don’t know what they are doing?
Mental health professionals can give you clarity fast, and offer you tools that mean you’ll reach goals in half the time, if not faster.