*if you are feeling like you might really hurt yourself or others, please call emergency services or go to the nearest A&E. If you desperately need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to call the Good Samaritans on 116 123.
The same survey mentioned above felt that, “it may not be the actual occupation that puts individuals at risk, but features of the job such as low pay, job security and the wider socio-economic characteristics of individuals employed in a particular sector.”
What do I do if I am losing the will to live because of work?
If you feel your job is killing you, it’s time to take action, even if it is uncomfortable.
1. Shine a light on it.
Call them vampires if it helps — suicidal thoughts prosper in secrecy and the hidden darkness of our minds. So exposing them to the light of day is the first and best step.
Yes, as in tell someone. Make it someone you can trust. If you are scared of what people will think, and don’t have a friend or family member you can trust, then call a free hotline. Listeners want to hear from you, they spend hours training to do so. It’s just about getting the words out of your head. When we speak them, you can start deal with them.
Most workplaces in the UK now have mental health support for employees, whether that is several counselling services covered by insurance or free online courses you can take. It is there to be used. If you don’t want to explain in detail, just say you are struggling with your moods and be firm that you prefer to discuss in greater detail with your counsellor, not HR.
If you are being bullied or harassed or if the law is otherwise being broken in your workplace — unpaid hours, unethical requests — then sometimes what is needed to give hope is proper legal advice.
Sometimes we feelutterly hopeless as we are making huge assumptions. Perhaps we have never met anyone who did what we want to do, so assume it’s impossible. We assume we could never find another job, retrain, or are too old for a job change.
Other times we simply need more information to see a light at the end of the tunnel. This could be a spot of careers counselling, or working with a coach to help you realise your other talents you can’t see. Or it could be looking up mentor programs, or going to a local college to enquire about what it takes to sign up for other training. You might even want to talk to your local council who might offer programs to help you if you want to launch your own business or retrain.
3. Learn how to face and overcome suicidal thinking.
Suicidal thinking, and all the negative self talk it brings? It’s not who you are. It’s what it sounds like — just thoughts. And no matter how ‘true’ these thoughts sound? They aren’t. They are what is known as cognitive distortions — deviations from the truth that trick us.