It can be easy to blame endless relationship conflict on others. We can downplay our trust issues as not important, or run from one relationship to the next, telling ourselves each time that things will be different.
But difficulties with relating keep us stuck in a negative pattern, one that is deeply entrenched and unlikely to change by itself. We are left facing endless cycles of anger, loneliness, disappointment, and shame.
How can relationship therapy help?
Research1 now shows that healthy relationships mean not just better mental and emotional health, but also improved physical health and longevity. If we want to function at our best and thrive, we need to feel connected, and like we matter.
And the good news is that healthy relating is actually a skill that anyone can learn. Whether you attend therapy sessions alone or together, it provides a safe space to study and practice good communication, as well as experience trust and authenticity.
The benefits of therapy for relationship issues
Benefits of working with a relationship therapist can mean you:
- understand yourself and others better
- relate in ways that mean you feel seen and heard
- improve your listening and communication skills
- put an end to codependency and self-sabotaging behaviours
- make conflict constructive
- feel less depressed, volatile, and anxious
- and more comfortable and confident with being you.
Improve your relationships - The Harley Therapy™ approach
Whether you are looking for codependency therapy, breakup counselling, or seek marriage therapy or family counselling, we can help.
All of our registered couples counsellors and relationship psychologists are trained in top institutions, are certified in several forms of therapy, and have a minimum of ten years experience, meaning you can relax knowing you are in good hands.
Our welcoming central London therapy clinics
If you’re unable, or prefer not to come for therapy in person, online therapy is another way to seek support from an accredited therapist with Harley Therapy. All therapists offer online therapy sessions using platforms such as Skype, Facetime, Zoom, etc.
Whether you’re looking for a face to face or online appointment the booking process options are the same. Either find a therapist by browsing through the list on this page and book online, or call our experienced support team who will match you with a therapist who is best suited to your specific needs and book over the phone.
All therapy sessions last for 50 minutes and our fee structure is very simple.
What sorts of therapy help with relationship problems?
Couples therapy, marriage therapy, and systemic therapy for families and groups are all well known. But there are also several forms of individual therapy with a focus on relationship issues. These include:
- cognitive analytical therapy (CAT)
- dynamic interpersonal therapy (DIT)
- interpersonal therapy
- transactional analysis.
Why am I so bad at relationships?
Sometimes we didn't grow up in an environment that modelled good relating. Or we experienced trauma or neglect that affected our sense of self and ability to trust.
Or perhaps our brain is simply different, meaning relating doesn't come naturally. We could be on the autism spectrum, which means we don't read social clues easily. Or have a personality disorder. Borderline personality disorder (BPD), for example, can mean we are very emotionally sensitive and react too quickly when we feel rejected.
ASK US A QUESTION
ARE YOU A JOURNALIST WRITING ABOUT THIS TOPIC?
If you are a journalist writing about this subject, do get in touch - we may be able to comment or provide a pull quote from a professional therapist.
Further reading on relationship problems and counselling
- Why do I feel so alone if I have friends?
- 7 Signs you suffer from fear of intimacy
- Connecting with people - why you might find it hard
- Nobody understands me - can this ever change?
- Relationship conflict - still fighting about the same old things?
- Can therapy help me find love at last?
- The Relate Guide to Better Relationships: Practical Ways to Make Your Love Last.' Sarah Litvinoff, 1998.
- ‘Overcoming Relationship Problems: A Self Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques’ Dr. Michael Crowe, 2005.
Holt-Lunstad J, Smith TB, Layton JB. Social relationships and mortality risk: a meta-analytic review. PLoS Med. 2010 Jul 27;7(7):e1000316. doi: 10.1371/journal.pmed.1000316. PMID: 20668659; PMCID: PMC2910600.